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Subject: How to respond to a client who feels like they haven't been listened to
Category: Business and Money > Consulting
Asked by: font9a-ga
List Price: $9.00
Posted: 31 Jan 2003 10:27 PST
Expires: 02 Mar 2003 10:27 PST
Question ID: 155693
Hello, I am seeking a very speedy response to this general question. I
know it is phrased in loose terms, so I am looking for different
approaches to handle this situation.

Here is the scenario:
My team has been engaged with this client to redesign a website. The
team has been conducting interviews with potential users and client
stakeholders on a scheduled basis over the last 2 months. The team is
now entering a visual design phase whereby visual designs will be
presented to the client in less than a week.

At an offsite meeting this morning the client pulls aside the PM and
says they feel they have "not been listened to" in recent weeks. The
details of the communication are unimportant here. The PM has
requested an emergency internal meeting at 4:00 PM today to discuss.
The PM is not reachable for clarification before the meeting this
afternoon.

My question is, what are some possible strategies (at least 3) to
mitigate this situation with the client. I have a team meeting at 4:00
PM today to discuss, so I'd like some feedback before then (hence my
short time frame.)
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Subject: Re: How to respond to a client who feels like they haven't been listened to
Answered By: hammer-ga on 31 Jan 2003 11:30 PST
Rated:5 out of 5 stars
 
Your statement that "The details of the communication are unimportant
here," is not accurate. The details are everything in a situation like
this. The big question is "What *specifically* made Customer feel this
way?"

Before you can strategize on how to mitigate the situation, you need
to find out what the situation actually is. If all you have to go on
is that a client said "I feel like I haven't been listened to," then
you really have nothing to go on.

Hopefully, your PM sat down and talked to the client and found out
what they meant by that statement. If nobody has done that part yet,
it is certainly the first step that needs to be taken.

Here are some possible interpretations for the situation:

1. The client is actually not being listened to.
If this is the case, you need to find out why not. Are the client's
requests unreasonable? Impossible? Perfectly reasonable, but the
programmers aren't listening? Find out the reason, and decide on an
appropriate course of action. This can include educating the customer,
assigning someone with good customer relations skills to liason
between customer and developers, and/or giving the developers a good
talking to about ignoring reasonable customer requirements. Make sure
that Customer knows that you intend to take action and make sure that
you follow up.

2. "I'm not being listened to" is actually Customer-speak for "I'm
really frightened of this whole website thing."
If this is the case, find out what is frightening them. If it is
technology-fear, then perhaps taking the time to demystify things
would reassure Customer. If it is political fear, as in, Customer
frightened that they will be blamed by superiors if the project does
not meet expectations, then reassure them that you stand behind your
work and will take responsibility.

3. Customer is being very much listened to, but some pet feature got
rejected or overlooked.
If this is the case, either implement the pet feature, or try to
substitute a feature you can implement (or already have implemented)
in Customer's affections in place of the pet feature that they are
upset about.

4. Customer is a petulant, whiny, unreasonable person who would be
saying this regardless of how closely you followed their instructions.
Be careful of this one. It's very easy to decide this about a client.
It's rarely the actual case. Give Customer the benefit of the doubt,
unless he has such an obvious history of this behavior that you can't
ignore it.


As you can see, there are many interpretations for "I'm not being
listened to."
1. First and foremost, you *must* find out what Customer really means.
2. Once you find out what the issues are, address them in an
appropriate manner.
3. Once you decide how to address them, communicate with Customer what
you believe the issue to be and how you plan to solve it.
4. If Customer agrees with your assessment, implement the solution.
5. Follow up with Customer to let them know how the solution is going.
6. Find out how Customer thinks the solution is going.
7. Repeat if necessary.

Good luck with your customer situation!

- Hammer

Request for Answer Clarification by font9a-ga on 31 Jan 2003 12:12 PST
Hello Hammer,

Thank you for the speedy response. I think you are really honing in on
the situation, despite my vague (albeit all-too-familiar) scenario.

I will clarify my statement that "the details are unimportant here" --
I wrote that so that a broader range of actions could be evaluated
before diving immediately into the specific causes of the
mis-communication(s).

I think a combination of 1, 2, and 3 of your recommendations makes
sense in my case. I will be prepared to pay a tip with your follow-up
of this question:

How could documentation (email, internal notes, phone conversations,
etc.) be presented tactfully and professionally to the client to try
to reconcile in this situation? Please bear with me, this is the first
time the client has exhibited the idea of "not being listened to"
during our relationship, so I want to make sure they are entirely
satisfied with how we are handling their concern.

Also, we do not feel the client is being whiny or petulant, at all. I
suspect some amount of "fear of the unknown" as we move from a
research and planning phase into a more visual phase (where there will
be artifacts to react to).

Thanks,

Font9a

Clarification of Answer by hammer-ga on 31 Jan 2003 12:41 PST
First of all, this must in no way be made into a contest. When you
present evidence like communications, do not present it as triumphant
proof that you are right and Customer is wrong. The point is either to
start listening to your Customer, or, if you have been listening, to
reassure Customer of this, NOT to make Customer feel stupid. If there
is a fear issue, making Customer feel wrong and/or stupid will only
make him more frightened.

As illustration of how to do this professionally, I'll present an
example conversation between developer and Customer.

Customer: I feel like you're not listening to me. The site doesn't
look at all like what I expected!

Developer: That is certainly of concern to us. We want you to be
satisfied with the final product. Where do you feel like we've failed
to meet your requirements?
(Note: Requirements, NOT expectations.)

Customer: You don't email the orders to me, like I asked. I don't want
to have to log into an order page all the time. I wanted them just
emailed to me.

Developer: Hmmm...according to our conversation on such-and-such a
date, your main priority on this was that you be able to take credit
cards. We can't email you credit card numbers without breaking
security. Since security was very important to you, we took this route
instead. I'm sorry that we didn't clearly communicate that there was a
conflict in the requirements. If having the orders emailed to you has
become more important that being a secure site, we can certainly make
that adjustment for you. Is that what you want us to do?

* Use the documentation to show Customer how well you *have* been
listening to him.
* Show how what you have done is designed to meet his requirements as
provided to you during the design phases.
* Tell him that you understand that expectations evolve and
requirements change.
* Show him how his current requests differ from the original
requirements (if they do).
* Express willingness to adjust requirements to meet his current
needs.

*** Make absolutely sure he understands how his requested changes will
affect his original requirements. This is crucial. It not only shows
that you truly do listen to him, but also that you understand his
business needs. Say things like, "I can make that change, but do you
understand that it will prevent you from running the monthly summaries
that were very important to you earlier in the project?" This forces
Customer to think things through, and also shows him that you *have*
thought things through.

If you handle this well, your client will trust you more than he did
before he decided that you weren't listening to him.

All of this assumes, of course, that you are indeed listening to him.
If you aren't, then the solution to the problem should be fairly
obvious. <GRIN>

- Hammer
font9a-ga rated this answer:5 out of 5 stars and gave an additional tip of: $5.00
Hammer,

I think you nailed it.

Thanks for the very speedy replies!

Very best regards,

Font9a

Comments  
Subject: Re: How to respond to a client who feels like they haven't been listened to
From: martinjay-ga on 31 Jan 2003 12:23 PST
 
Clients need to be managed well, and the best way to do this is to put
things in writing,
whether it be contracts or presentations just to say 'yeah, we all
agreed to that, and
you did not say anything' or 'we repeated what we heard or what we
thought, here
it is' (to come back and shut down any discussions of ambiguity.  Just
had this happen
with a guy I am doing something with, turns out I had written notes
and distributed
them after a 11/20 conference call.  My guy began to take issue with
what he believed
was a 'new' number, I check my notes and lo and behold, our client had
not changed
his story but my colleague misunderstood him.  Our fault.  I'd suggest
you do the same thing.
Subject: Re: How to respond to a client who feels like they haven't been listened to
From: ddelphi-ga on 31 Jan 2003 14:50 PST
 
Attempting to diffuse and upset client is a very common occurrence.  I
learned a long time ago a technique that works well in 95% of
situations.  It is a four-step process that is deceptively simple -
and it works.


Step I.  Listen.

Many times a customer just wants to have his/her concerns aired to
someone who will listen.  As stated above, this may have to do with
fear, but it may also have issues dealing with control or the lack
thereof.  It’s amazing how listening to someone can be efficacious.

Step II.  Apologize.

Tell them you are sorry.  It does not matter if you agree that you are
at fault, or if the customer is being unrealistic.  Many times an
apology is what they are looking for.  Remember - they are the
customer, and you need them more than they need you in most cases. 
Also remember that apologizing does not necessarily mean that you are
accepting blame for the situation.

Step III.  Empathize.

This is VERY important.  Tell the customer that you understand why
they are upset (whether it is justified or not).  Restate the problem.
 Say something like: "I understand.  If X (X being whatever the
concern is) had happened to me, I'd be upset too."  This validates
their concern and lets them know that you heard and understood their
problem.

Step IV.  Tell them what you can do.

Offer a solution to the problem - something you can deliver.  It may
be as simple as saying "I'll talk to Jim in accounting and let him
know that we need to review the account."  Or it may be something
along the line of "It appears we have had a major communications
breakdown.  Let's set a meeting with you and the concerned parties to
rectify the situation."  Whatever you tell them, make sure it is
something you can deliver immediately.  This gives them the (correct)
impression that you wish to fix the problem post haste.

I've used this strategy for the last 10 years and it really works. 
It's amazing how a simple strategy can diffuse even the most volatile
situations.  I’ve used this technique in business and in my personal
life.  The results have been amazing.

P.S.  Thanks to Chris Telease of Sturner and Klein for the above
program.  I give credit where credit is due.

Good luck.  - ddelphi
Subject: Re: How to respond to a client who feels like they haven't been listened to
From: steph1000-ga on 31 Jan 2003 15:08 PST
 
Well, it's 3:30 pm Pacific time, hope this helps.
http://www.c2.com/cgi/wiki?OnsiteCustomer
http://www.c2.com/cgi/wiki?UserStory

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