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Kriswrite

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I thank you for your very prompt and well-researched answer. This is a
difficult task, tracing the precise origin of the heart as a symbol of
love. Who knows for sure? But you may have nailed it and I'm more than
satisfied with your answer. I gave you four stars. Would have given
you 5 if you came up with the proverbial "smoking gun." Thanks again.

Dear kriswrite-ga. Of course you did a great job, you have already
paid the price to learn. I was really hoping that someone like
yourself who has (I trust it has passed, been taken care of)
experienced these pains who be the best suited to answer and counsel.

Thank you ever so much!! and for your promptness, too!!
Blessings.
John

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Kriswrite - you did a stellar job on a question I was sorry I asked,
one that was certain to foster more division than truth.

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Answered my question but could have gone into a little more deapth

I could not have asked for a bettwer response. 
Thank you

Thanks; I'll follow up on your suggestions.

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Thanks kriswrite,

Your insight has been very helpful.  I expected some differences in
the process for evaluating the information. But, in all honesty, I did
not expect such a difference in the conclusion: men and women look at
things so differently, though, that I’m really grateful for both
points of view.

On days when I have even a little hope and feel like my girlfriend is
trying to work things out and trying to be loving towards me, I tend
to agree more with your impression that, even though there are red
flags all over the place, there’s plausible explanations and I should
not jump to conclusions.  When I feel that way, I really try to be
understanding and accepting of everything she says and supportive for
everything she does.

On the other hand, on days where she seems distant, angry, and
unwilling to do anything to help our relationship survive, when she is
thousands of miles away, unwilling to talk, and even downright mean, I
tend to agree with tutuzdad’s impression that the writing on the wall
could not be clearer.

The problem is, though, that over the last few months, she always
seems distant and angry and unwilling to do anything to help our
little family survive.  And, of course, I have to ask myself why is
she unwilling to do anything.  Invariably I fall into the trap set by
all these red flags and jump to the worst most hurtful conclusions. 
This is all the more worse because we can’t talk.  We have so much to
work out, you know, that if we can’t talk then we are just piling on
more bad stuff that will never be made better, on top of a large pile
of bad stuff that’s already there.  I don’t think that’s gonna change.
So I don’t think we are gonna make it.  The question of whether she is
cheating or not is irrelevant in that respect.

If we could talk, maybe we could make some progress.  But we can’t. 
She doesn’t seem to want to talk.  Even when we are having fun
conversations, she has to go.  Even this last week something happened
that made that clear.  She’s on Pacific Time and I’m on Eastern time. 
For free minutes, she can only call me on her cell phone after 9:00PM
her time, which is 12:00AM my time.  She has never called before
1:00AM lately, and I stay up always till 2:00AM or 3:00AM waiting for
her to call, even though I have to go to work the next day.  To help
this problem, I signed up with verizon (her phone carrier) so we could
have the same in-plan free calling.  But it has been lots of excuses
for why she can’t sign up for the same thing… even though it is her
phone company and signing up is free.  I realize, now, that I put her
in a bad situation by signing up for verizon… lack of free minutes was
not the reason she didn’t call.  I didn’t know that before.  Even this
weekend, we spoke on Friday and we were having a nice conversation
about plans for a little vacation we’d been planning.  But, she had to
go to bed early because she was at her parents house and she has to
wake up early the next day.  I had been looking forward to talking
with her about our vacation, but also because I could have talked a
long time without having to worry about waking up for work early the
next day.  But she had to hang up.  I found out the next day that she
went out with friends all weekend and stayed out late.  I think it’s
good that she went out.  Her friend is really nice.  But it really
hurts that there’s a double standard—it’s okay to stay out late with
her friends, but not okay to stay up to talk to me…. even though we
have never talked as late as she has stayed out with her friends.  
Last night she told me she felt guilty being out with her friends and
not spending enough time with her parents.  I told her I also felt
hurt by the double standard.  She got really angry at me and called me
egotistical… she asked me how I could take something that was about
her feeling bad for not spending time with her parents and turned it
into something about me.  I guess the only point of this is that she
could talk to me if she wanted… she could sign up for free calling
with verizon… she could talk to me a little longer ‘cause her time is
3 hours early.  But, she always has a reason for why we can’t talk,
and a double standard for everything else.  And it hurts a lot. 
Especially considering that if we were gonna make our relationship
work… we have to talk.  The fact that she doesn’t want to talk is
probably proof that she doesn’t want the relationship to work.

I also wanted to answer your question about why I asked my question to
begin with if I didn’t think she was cheating: it’s because my gut
goes back and forth on the question.  But more importantly, I wanted
to know if a person who heard the facts could plausibly think that
something funny is going on.  My girlfriend repeatedly states that
there’s something wrong with me to think there’s anything to worry
about.  She seems to be under the impression that her behavior raises
no bad signs.  As a result, I have thought all this time that there’s
something wrong with me.  That, because I’ve never been a trusting
person to begin with, that bad part of me has simply taken over when
there was nothing at all to make any other person worry at all.

Unlike me, she also has some people she can speak with (most of them
girls, of course, which is also why I wanted your point of view). 
Anyway, she says all those people agree with her and that there must
be something wrong with me.  After a while, I believe them completely.
 There must be something wrong with me.

I went to the pool the other day and this girl walked over to me… my
self esteem has been so battered that I was freaked out. Why would a
good looking girl in a bikini come talk to me.  Apparently some papers
of hers had flown under my chair.  Anyway, we started to talk and she
asked me if I had a girl friend.  I told her about my circumstance and
we ended up talking for a very long time.  Right before she left, she
told me: “you know, I didn’t want to say this because I liked you. 
But, I feel like I should be honest with you.  I think your girlfriend
is cheating on you.”  I realize that her opinion is probably tainted,
having heard only my side of the story.  It may have been also tainted
if she had wanted to date me or something, but that was not the case,
but it was a big thing for me to hear.

Anyway, when she said that, my heart stopped beating and even a tear
ran down my eye.  I was embarrassed with that girl, but I couldn’t
avoid it.  When I gained my composure, I felt somewhat better because
another person (another reasonably sane, well intentioned, unbiased
person) could actually come to that conclusion.  Maybe it’s not just
me.  Maybe I’m not crazy.  Maybe I’m not a bad person, or insane, or
simply an insecure, jealous person.  Maybe someone else could also
think that the things she has done could hurt.

I felt like I received a little recognition for the difficult
situation I’ve been in for a long time now.  My girlfriend has not
once stated, you know, that she recognizes that our situation is
difficult: that she asks a lot of me; that I have to accept a lot to
be with her; that I’ve tried to change and compromise a lot for us to
stay together; that it would be hard for anyone to be trapped in the
situation in which I currently find myself.  But, not once has she
said anything like that.  And I always thought, sane, rational,
emotionally stable people would never think the things I think. 
There’s just something wrong with me… and that’s the impression I get
from my girlfriend.

Again, this problem is made worse by the fact that I don’t have one
friend or family member I can talk to.  There’s no one to tell me…
gee… you know… your girlfriend is really putting you in a bad
situation.  I can see why you are in so much pain.  Not even a hey…
hang in there… or a I can’t believe she did this… that…. or the other.

That’s why I had the idea of writing to google answers.  As pathetic
as it sounds, I really had no one else to turn to.

In the end, I have to accept that my girlfriend is happier with her
new life.  She has a job she likes.  She gets to travel a lot, which
she loves.  She is making lots of good new friends and lots of money. 
She has moved back home to the west coast.  She sees her family when
she home.  When she is around, everyone is always thrilled to see her
‘cause she’s gone so much… and want to be around her and treat her
like a queen. Her life is good.

In the big picture, the only bad part of her life now is having to
deal with me… and that I’m clinging to her like grim death.  In the
day-to-day picture, the worst part of her day is having to call me for
a few minutes.  I know she has to leave.  I can see why.  But it
hurts.

I also hope no one gets the wrong impression.  I’m really glad she’s
happy.  I’m really glad she’s more herself.  I’m really happy for
those parts.  But, it also sad for me.  I wish I could have made her
that happy.  But the simple truth is that I didn’t… she has told me
that lots of times.  Now, I have to recognize that she is happier
without me  And I have to let go.  And it hurts… more than anything
has ever hurt before.

Thanks again for all your insight and your kind words.  I’m glad I
asked for your advice.  I guess if you want to know what a woman may
be thinking (or doing), the best thing is probably to ask a woman.  So
I really particularly value your assessment and also your advice.

THANKS ALSO TO THE FOLKS THAT READ THIS THESIS IN FAILED LOVE AND
POSTED THEIR COMMENTS AND WORDS OF SUPPORT.  I didn’t know this was
open to comments from other so not only was I surprised that someone
take their time to read all this sad story but also take their time to
post some encouragement or ideas.  THANKS!!!!

Fabulous!  A spray paint would work beautifully.  Thank you.

Brilliant, Kristina, Very Many Thanks.

I already knew it was your Birthday & I remember the date perfectly
because I made a speech at you Kristening and this is still COPYRIGHT.

All the Very Best

Bryan

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Thanks, just what I needed.