Q1.)Am I bisexual for wanting to carry out these fantasies?
That's up to you to decide; nobody can make that decision for you, and
nobody has the right to tell you your decision is wrong. Bisexuality
isn't about WHOM you sleep with, it's about HOW you feel; so a good
rule of thumb in defining your sexual identity is not what you've
done, but what you'd like to do.
It is natural for people who are coming to terms with a sexuality
which is not society's norm to be feel confused.
A strict definition of a bisexual would be someone who has romantic
and/or sexual relations with other people of more than one sex (though
not necessarily at the same time However, since not everyone has
necessarily had the opportunity to act on their sexual/romantic
attractions, some people prefer a looser definition; for instance,
that a bisexual is a person who - in their own estimation - feels
potentially able to have such attraction. This could be anyone who has
erotic, affectionate, or romantic feelings for, fantasies of, and/or
experiences with both men and women. (From Bisexual FaQ The Alliance -
Michigan State University
A bisexual may be more attracted to one sex than the other, attracted
equally to both, or find people's sex unimportant and strength of
their attractions to men and women may vary over time.
Q2.)Can I maintain a healthy relationship with this woman without ever
satiating my other sexual desires?
Ultimately, the decision is yours, and must be made by you. It depends
on the individual. It's like asking "Can a straight person be
monogamous?" Some bisexuals are monogamous, and some aren't.
Bisexuals are as capable as anyone of making a long-term monogamous
commitment to a partner they love. It is useful to distinguish
bisexual identity and bisexual behaviour. People who call themselves
bisexual are saying that they are attracted to both men and women.
They don't necessarily have to act on that attraction.
A bisexual deciding to be monogamous is not deciding to be "gay" or
"straight." They are still bisexual; they have chosen a person to live
thier life with, not an orientation, preference or idealogue. It is
important to recognize that they still feel bisexual.
Here are several links to understanding Bisexuality.
An Introduction to Bisexuality
Bisexual Resource Center
Pamphlets (available online)
I Think I Might Be Bi (now what do I do?)
How do I know if I'm bisexual?
Bi The Way
Myths and Truths
The Alliance - Michigan State University
Counseling for Bisexuals