Just a general question on love & relationship............
How does one know when one falls???????????When one thinks about the
other all day long???????? or.........
When the other wants no  involvement?
 Blonde is good right about now:)

steph53...

On the "Love and Learn" site, Jayne addresses this very question:

"Well, the hardest question is how do you know when you're in love,
 and the "in love" concept is the trickiest. Realize this. People
 think that just because they're in love that its gonna stay that
 way forever, and when it changes they feel betrayed by themselves
 and sometimes the person that they were in love with."

"Being 'in love' often means that you are letting yourself feel
 very good about this person and who they are. You want to be with
 them romantically, physically and you want to be there for them
 in anyway possible. You think about them a lot and you mindfully
 integrate them in almost every part of your life. You tell
 yourself that you will accept them for who they are and that it
 can only get better. This is the state of 'being in love'."

"Where the 'love' comes from is another story. It's deeper than
 'he makes me laugh, he thinks I'm special and he's cute and a
 great guy'. Who you fall in love with, and why you fall in love
 in the first place does come straight from the subconscious."

"I Thought that I was In Love"

"For instance, I was with this guy I totally knew I loved from
 his head to his toe and I loved his mind the way he made me
 feel and that we were almost best friends in a sense. And the
 fact that he was gorgeous didn't hurt the way I felt. I was in
 love." 

"But when it ended, and when I figured out that I shouldn't have
 been in love, I realized that I chose to love him because I was
 lonely and I just wanted him to love me back. I was living for
 him. I was living in him."

"You know in a relationship that you're supposed to be really
 interested in him and ask questions and try to figure out if
 you still want him to be in your life? well he charmed me on
 the first day we met and I didn't need to know more except
 that I wanted to love him. Not because he's got serious mojo
 going on, but because I just wanted to be in love. I wasn't
 really ready."

"He on the other hand was a bit more selective, and he wanted
 someone who was in love with herself as much as she was in
 love with him. I didn't know myself, so how could I be in
 love with me? I was busy admiring him and being in love with
 him. I lost myself in him, so he got lost, end of story."

I personally agree completely with the concept that your 
ability to love another is equal to or less than your ability
to love yourself, and that, often, people 'choose' to 'fall in
love' because they believe that if they do so, the recipient of
their devotion will love them back - in a way that they are
unable to do for themselves. This usually backfires, however,
since the recipient can feel the pressure being exerted on
them to provide the love which the 'devotee' cannot give 
themselves.

Someone in the field of psychology once clarified that most
people think of love as 'finding their other half' which
implies that two halves make a whole, as though the nature
of relationship was 'additive', and that they can complete
themselves with the 'addition' of the other to their lives.
They went on to point out that the nature of relationship
is to intensify everything which makes multiplication a
more appropriate function to describe it. 1/2 x 1/2 = 1/4,
which is a more accurate description of what happens when
two people who are less-than-whole within themselves come
together. The ideal is better understood as two whole people
coming together to form a greater whole, as in 1 x 1 = ONE.

Hope that helps...

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sublime1-ga


Searches done, via Google:

"how do you know when you're in love"
://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=%22how+do+you+know+when+you%27re+in+love%22

Thanks for your insightful answer.........I too have been doing
research on this subject and your answer confirms my newly found
beliefs.

for a more empirical scientific approach;

The Learning Channel, Discovery, Science Channel - explored this
topic, LOVE, quite extensively and from more viewpoints one can
imagine. I don't know they publish any of their t.v. programs online,
but the respectively listed media companies will have a summary of the
shows aired.

For instance, when you fall in love, your brain produces a new
chemical, an endorphin I believe, that gives you an overall sense of
warmth. As your brain adjusts to this new chemical and builds
tolerance. And as you build tolerance, your new boy/girlfriend/datee
might seem less interesting or your need for face time might decrease.

On the other hand, a sudden break up causes your brain to suddenly
stop producing these chemicals. The research suggests that pain that
accompanies falling out of love can physically manifest itself.

I suggest going to the mentioned web-sites for pictures of a CTscan of
a brain (male and female) before love, during Love, after break-up.
Quite fascinating stuff. This is an ongoing research so nothing is
final.