WHO SAID "One of the hardest things to learn to ignore is other
people's accounts of who we are."

Dear becky2000-ga
I could only find one reference to this.
During an interview with Doug Elkins, dance choreographer, he made the
following reply to a question "To paraphrase Yvonne Rainer, 'one of
the most difficult things to learn to ignore are other peoples'
explanations of who you are.' "
http://www.candoco.co.uk/choreograpers_notes_doug2.htm
This paraphrase is almost identical to your quote. The original may
have been more complex. However, I cannot find her original statement.
Yvonne Rainer is a dancer and avant-garde filmmaker.
http://entertainment.msn.com/celebs/celeb.aspx?c=122029

Please ask for clarification of this research, or if the links do not
work, before rating the answer.

answerfinder-ga


Search Strategy
A search on a subscriber news database gave me the possibility of Doug
Elkins - then
"doug elkins" "other peoples"
://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=%22doug+elkins%22+%22other+peoples%22