Dear tk28-ga;
Thank you for allowing me an opportunity to answer your interesting
question.
Having spent the past 22+ years in law enforcement I’m going to go out
on a limb here just to restore some order to your life and help calm
your fears. Let’s examine the evidence here and then apply some common
logic to come up with a reasonable answer:
THE EVIDENCE
In the course of your conversation with your ex-boyfriend (hereafter
referred to as “EX”) he disclosed that he is making an covert effort
to either mind or interfere with your personal affairs.
His interest in you is obviously less then welcomed or you wouldn’t be
concerned about it and be posting a request for a solution in this
forum. This suggests that he is probably the spurned party here –
“Dear John” or perhaps the “disgruntled” ex-boyfriend, as the case may
be.
EX is interested in causing you some anxiety or he wouldn’t have
disclosed the information in the first place and kept his source a
secret for you to figure out on your own and fret over when you can’t
solve it. He probably wants you to call him often and plead for more
clues thus remaining in contact with you.
EX offers you cryptic clues about his “secret” but refuses to disclose
the details.
He says he gets a “newsletter” about your activities.
He then says he has “sources” (plural) that know what you are up to.
He says he doesn’t know your little day-to-day activities; only the
BIG stuff.
MOST LIKLEY SCENARIO?
Your EX may have hired a private investigator, or has someone close
you (physically and/or emotionally) reporting news back him, or he may
be making a special effort “himself” to look into your activities as
time, funds and opportunity allows.
Here’s why this makes sense:
When he said he gets a “newsletter” about you, it could be that this
is what he is calling an email, phone call or letter containing “news”
about you. When he said “news” –and- “letter” you might very well have
actually heard and understood him to say “newsletter” and applied that
term what you know about common newsletters. Now I’m not making light
of your initial observation, but realistically, this, of course, would
be absurd. I’m sure you are an intelligent, wonderful, and interesting
person, but unless there is something really unique about you that
might get the attention of THE NATIONAL ENQUIRER for example, chances
are INFINITELY in your favor that there is no “newsletter” being
written about you and being mailed to people who are so enthralled
with your routine activities that they can’t wait to read it. Besides,
people don’t normally stick their neck out to write gossip about
private individuals in a newsletter without their permission. If you
ever DO find one, you’ll have what would certainly be the equivalent
to a legal gold mine in your hands! (In that highly unlikely case, do
this: see an attorney – go to court – stop off by bank on your way
home – deposit hundreds of thousands of dollars – live happily ever
after). If he were taking such a risk in getting a formal newsletter
about you (which is most likely is not) he’d be an amateur at this
game or, a minimum, an idiot – or perhaps both. You can probably judge
this for yourself.
In addition, because he used the term “sources” (plural), he exposed
his secret about this supposed single newsletter as his source to be a
lie. This of course suggests he has friends or perhaps even a friend
or former neighbor “and” a private detective collecting and reporting
“the news” (selected interesting facts) about you. So you see, his use
of the term “sources” (plural) rules out a single “newsletter” as his
source – again disputing this newsletter theory.
Finally, friends or private investigators could not, of course, know
what your day-to-day activities are because no one can unless they are
actually “inside” your home making note of what you are doing. What
they CAN learn are your BIG activities – like selling your home,
buying a new home, moving, getting married, etc - which of course,
anyone can obtain because these are readily apparent or published
information (public records, local paper, moving van in your driveway,
frequent male guest seen by nosey neighbors, etc). On the other hand,
HE could be seeing these things for himself, provided he can travel
only occasionally, the great distance it would take to be near you –
which would account for why he doesn’t know “everything” only the “big
stuff”.
MY OPINION:
Your EX seems obsessed with you and unable or unwilling to accept the
loss of the former relationship you enjoyed together. Then again, he
may just get some satisfaction out of causing you alarm (i.e.,
payback, revenge, domination, mental abuser, etc). His actions may be
an issue of concern if he continues this game of his, particularly if
he is the one initiating the contact. For your own well-being, I
recommend you discontinue * ALL CONTACT * with this person immediately
and consider involving the legal system if necessary to insure his
compliance. Hopefully, provided he is not mentally disturbed, his
interest in you will probably wane. In the meantime, stop worrying
about this alleged “newsletter” and go on with your normal life – even
if there were one (which I strongly doubt), if your life is anything
like the rest of us, such a newsletter wouldn’t last longer than
“Issue 1 Volume 1” because after the first boring issue no one would
ever want to read it again.
Regards;
Tutuzdad-ga |
