Hiya

I run a large malaysian chatroom, however I didnt think it would get
as big as it has, (and i live in north america)

I'm looking for some malaysian dating sites with affiliate programs
ad agencies that deliver popups to asian traffic
or banner agencies that cater to a malaysian audience

any help would be greatly appreciated

Dear Dime, 

As you may have guessed from the rathe belated answer, it wasn't easy
to locate businesses that would suit you:

Dating Sites
============

Match.com - Malaysia <http://match.msn.com.my/match/mt.cfm?pg=profile> 
Affiliate: ,http://www.tradedoubler.com/pan/program_info?program_id=16939>
(seems like a general one for Match.com).

datingagency.com - Malaysia dating agency: find a date in Malaysia
www.datingagency.com/regions_2.asp?r=105 
Affiliate: <http://www.datingagency.com/help/about.asp#affiliates>

AdPost
Malaysia Dating Services Online For Singles @ Adpost.com 
www.adpost.com/my/dating_services_online_for_singles/ 
Affiliate: <http://www.adpost.com/my/affiliate_program/?cat=dating_services_online_for_singles&db=my_personals&website=&language=&session_key=>.

FriendPlay <http://my.friendplay.com/> 
Affiliate: <http://affiliates.friendplay.com/> 

FriendX <http://www.friendx.com/> 
Marketin/Advertisment:
<http://www.friendx.com/cgi-bin/app.cgi?m=Site&c=Contact> - in the
contact us section.


Popups and Banners
==================
E-Asia <http://www.e-asia.com.my/index.html> - ad placement firm based
in Malaysia. Probably your first place to click and visit.

Pay Visits <http://www.payvisits.com/> offers targeted popups and
banners for Malaysia among other countries.

Discounts and Promotions <http://www.discounts.com.my/> - offers
promotions online and on WAP / cell-phones for various industries.


Additional Sites
================

Webmaster Malaysia <http://www.webmastermalaysia.com/> - full of
helpful information in its forums. Apparently, most Malaysian
webmasters rely on "foreign" affiliate/advertisment schemes.

AdTimes <http://adtimes.nstp.com.my/> - For the ad industry in Malaysia. 


I hope this answered your question. I won't trouble you with all the
research I have done - Malaysian web seems not to be well developed as
other Asian and non-Asian ones, regarding advertising and affiliates
(one of the top match-making agencies does not have an affiliate page
at all). However, I will say that my strategy contained pages with and
without the suffix .my, with words such as dating, match-making,
advertising, etc.

Please contact me if you need any clarification on this answer before you rate it.