Who is the author and the name of the poem for the following quote
"and you will be a man my son".  I believe it is Rudyard Kipling...but
not sure

Hello tapoe,

Yes, it is Rudyard Kipling, and the title of the poem is "If". 

You can read it here:
http://whitewolf.newcastle.edu.au/words/authors/K/KiplingRudyard/verse/p3/if.html

This is a site that focuses on the works of Kipling. The home page at
http://whitewolf.newcastle.edu.au/words/authors/K/KiplingRudyard/index.html
has links to many more of his poems, as well as 6 novels, a number of
short stories and non-fiction pieces.

Kipling won the Nobel Prize in Literature for 1907.  The web site of
the Nobel Foundation has a page featuring a biography of him, with
links to his prize acceptance speech.
http://www.nobel.se/literature/laureates/1907/kipling-bio.html

Search strategy:
I was already aware of the poem.  I searched on Kipling "be a man",
and then Kipling + biography to obtain a bit more information.