I am contemplating doing a video documentary that focuses on parents
dealing with the death of a child...and making sense of their life
given this reality.  I'm wondering if there are other videos dealing
with this subject matter.

Hello Jbsass,


Below you will find the results of my research for videos that focus
on parents dealing with the death of a child.



Turning Toward the Morning: Parents? Stories of Loss, Grief and
Transcendence (2002)

Produced by Rites of Passage 
Distributed by Aquarius Health Care Videos, Olde Medfield Square, 266
Main St., Suite 33B, Medfield, MA 02052; 888-440-2963
VHS,  color, 36 min.

?This video articulates the stages of grief experienced by two sets of
parents after the unexpected passing away of their children one by
accident, and the other by suicide. The two separate narratives
illustrate, in a reflective mode, the life of each child before the
tragic events remembering various aspects of their behavior while
relating the hopes, dreams, and expectations for each one. The stories
culminate with each family moving forward, accepting the fact that
death is a part of life.?

Educational Media Reviews Online
http://libweb.lib.buffalo.edu/emro/emroDetail.asp?Number=1136


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"Death of a Dream: When a Baby Dies," 
1981. 20 minutes
Boulder County Hospice, Inc., 218 14th St., Boulder, CO 80302. 

?Recreates birth and death experiences in the hospital with candid
conversation among parents which provides information for
professionals and friends about helping the parents.?

A Place To Remember
http://www.aplacetoremember.com/frames/bibaudio.html


DEATH OF A DREAM: WHEN A BABY DIES. (1/2" vhs videocassette) 17 min.
EGA Educational Graphics Aids, 1981, 1984.

Wishard Health Services: Library/Media Services
http://www.wishard.edu/internet/LibraryMediaServices/endlifav.htm


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Footprints on Our Hearts 
 
?Footprints on Our Hearts: How to cope after a miscarriage, stillbirth
or newborn death, is a brand new 60 minute video from Paraclete Press.
It takes a compassionate look at this traumatic event in mens' and
women's lives, and offers in-depth help for this grief filled time.
Those who have "been there" share their feelings and reactions to the
death of their baby, the importance of remembering, how men and women
handle grief differently, and how they can be assisted in the grieving
process. This empowering and uplifting tape is a vital addition to the
video library of any bereaved parent and certainly should be available
to bereaved parents for viewing at every hospital's library. The video
is packaged with a booklet that gives additional support.?
(Paraclete Video Productions, VHS 60 min.)
http://www.aplacetoremember.com/mall/prod_detail.asp?catID=5&prodID=148

At A Loss For Words 

Although this is not a video that is focused on parents, I am
mentioning it because it?s a companion to the video "Footprints.
 
?At A Loss For Words: How to help those you care for in a miscarriage,
stillbirth or newborn death experience, another video by Paraclete
Press, is a companion to the video "Footprints...." This video offers
an in-depth compassionate look at grief after the death of an infant,
and examines the feelings of helplessness, guilt, frustration, anger
and sadness that often result. It offers family members, friends and
early caregivers (such as clergy, doctors, nurses and counselors),
ways to help, what to say and do...and what not to say and do.
"Finally, a state-of-the-art video available to family and friends
[and caregivers] that will enhance their understanding of the parents'
feelings and needs."
(Paraclete Video Productions, VHS 30 min.)
http://www.aplacetoremember.com/mall/prod_detail.asp?catID=5&prodID=147

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When Our Baby Died (30 min.)
Nancy Kohner

?Parents explain what the death of their baby has meant to them and
how it has changed their lives. They describe some of the things they
have done to express their grief, mourn for their baby and find
support for themselves.?

BC Children's Hospital Family Resource Library: Grief Resources
http://www.griefworksbc.com/AdultBooksfromXLS.asp?subcat=312


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"A Look at the First Year After Death of an Infant," 1986. 
Three 20-minute videocassettes. 
Perinatal Loss, 2116 N.E. 18th Ave., Portland, OR 97212, (503) 284-7426. 

?Portrays a family's grief at one month, four months, and one year
after the death of their son. Deals with the emotional and physical
reactions to grief?what hurts and what helps.?

A Place To Remember http://www.aplacetoremember.com/frames/bibaudio.html


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Children Die, Too
1/2" VHS, 26 minutes, color, 1990. 
Films for the Humanities & Sciences, Inc.

?No one is ever prepared for a child's death or able to accept it with
equanimity, but there are ways to live through this intensely sad
experience. This program introduces some people who have felt this
pain, and who can offer some suggestions for going through the
process.?

University of Saskatchewan: Cancer Audiovisual Library
http://www.usask.ca/nursing/cne/pallcare.html


Children die too - Princeton, NJ : Films for the Humanities, 1990.
1 video (26 min) : sd, cl, VHS
BF 575.G7 C567 1990 VIDEO
http://www.asri.edu/education/library/agh/patient_death.html


Children die, too (1990, 26 min. - BF 575 .G7 C54)
http://www.cnc.bc.ca/library/newbooks/counsellinggrieffinal.doc


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"Death of A Wished-For Child," 1977. 

OGR Service Corporation, PO Box 3586, Springfield, IL 62708. 
(With booklet "Understanding the Death of the Wished-For Child.") 

A Place To Remember http://www.aplacetoremember.com/frames/bibaudio.html

Understanding Death of the Wished For Child, by Glen W. Davidson; OGR
Service Corporation, 1979.
?An edited script of the film "Death of a Wished For Child". Within a
theoretical framework it describes ways women, and the significant
people around them, cope with the loss of their baby. It identifies
occasions of vulnerability when the mother's abilities to cope seem
most fragile. It attempts to clarify appropriate from inappropriate
interventions. The film, restricted to use with the helping
professionals or organizing groups of bereaved parents seeking to
provide assistance to parents who have experienced the loss of a baby
is available from OGR Service Corporation, P.O.Box 3586, Springfield,
IL  62708.?

The WiSSP Resource Library
http://www.wisc.edu/wissp/WB19.htm


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Bereaved parents (1988, 28 min. - BF 575 .G7 B472)

?This specially adapted Phil Donahue program addresses the issues of
overwhelming loss and guilt and suggests that parents can survive
their bereavement by sharing their grief with others, and by thinking
and speaking about the lost child, particularly about happy memories.
Care must be taken to help any other children in the family come to
terms with their loss; counseling is often necessary here.?

CNC Library Selections: Grief
http://www.cnc.bc.ca/library/newbooks/counsellinggrieffinal.doc


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Search criteria:
deal OR cope loss of a child VHS OR video
Educational Media grief video
Grief Resources VHS OR video
Death of A Child +video grief parents
Grief of Parents +video
Bereavement videos


I hope this information is useful.

Best regards,
Bobbie7

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Request for Answer Clarification by jbsass-ga on 15 Feb 2004 08:55 PST

Thank you for the answer to my quesiton.  Since I've never done this
before...I'm wondering, if I'd spent more money, would there be more
information Out There for you to retrievefor me?  Or did you do a
ocmplete search given the time you had.  I appreciate your efforts!!

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Clarification of Answer by bobbie7-ga on 15 Feb 2004 11:25 PST

Dear Jbsass,


Thanks for your clarification.

I worked on your question for over six hours yesterday and gave you
all the information that I was able to locate for videos about parents
coping with a death of a child.  Researchers at Google Answers always
strive to satisfy our customers and retrieve all relevant information
possible.


In any case , I did additional research today and found the following
videos for you.


There Was a Child
By Fred Simon 
With the Newton Television Foundation
?This video sensitively demonstrates the impact that losing a
pregnancy, or the birth of a stillborn child, has had on three mothers
and a father. The parents reflect on the painful grief process, the
impact of the death on their sense of self and their family
relationships, and on the unintentionally hurtful or callous comments
of friends and healthcare workers. The program validates the emotions
of parents who feel alone with their loss, while helping healthcare
workers and families to give them appropriate and meaningful support.
A co-production of the Center for Independent Documentary?
32 minutes
http://www.fanlight.com/catalog/films/048_twac.shtml


?Losing Leila is the story of ABC TV producer Vanessa Gorman who longs
to have a baby and her partner, Michael Shaw, who's reluctant. They
eventually have a daughter called Leila but she dies just eight hours
after being born.The film traces their grief as they nurse their dead
baby in hospital and at home.?
http://www.abc.net.au/worldtoday/s253407.htm


Carved from the Heart
A New Day Film
By Ellen Frankenstein  and Louise Brady
?When native carver Stan Marsden decided to create a totem pole in his
son's memory, the project became a focus for the entire community's
need to deal with loss, tragedy and healing.? (30 minutes)
http://www.fanlight.com/catalog/films/373_cfth.shtml


Encounters with Grief (091)

?Three bereaved people describe their losses and the emotional
upheaval which followed, and offer moving perspectives on recovery.?

?A mother who lost her teenaged son, a woman widowed in her sixties,
and a man whose wife died at fifty-two discuss the emotional upheaval
that followed. They explore both the individuality and the commonality
of grief, and offer moving perspectives on the process of recovery.?
 (13 minutes)
http://www.fanlight.com/catalog/films/091_ewg.shtml


Losing Layla 
(Vanessa Gorman, 2001)
by Kate Hampel 
http://www.sensesofcinema.com/contents/01/13/layla.html


I found other videos but I?m not sure that they?re specific enough for you.


Remembering Tom (320)
?This powerful film explores the tragic aftermath of a young man?s
suicide, and its devastating impact on his entire family.? (24
minutes)
http://www.fanlight.com/catalog/films/320_rt.shtml



Video Documentary
Hard Medicine: A Journey In Adult Grief
?A sensitive and compelling portrayal of the grief process complicated
through issues such as multiple loss, sudden death and suicide. Four
bereaved people talk about their experience, survival and the struggle
to accommodate grief into their lives. This video documentary includes
a detailed discussion guide for use in education/training and clinical
settings. Produced by the Centre for Grief Education with funding
assistance from the Department of Human Services?
http://www.grief.org.au/docs/Video%20Order%20Form.pdf



Grief in America (245)

A comprehensive, multi-ethnic perspective on the ways Americans deal
with grief and loss in all their forms. (55 minutes)
http://www.fanlight.com/catalog/films/245_gia.shtml


Legacy

The documentary follows the family through their grief and loss,
tracing the legacy of Terrell's death as memory of him evolves from
earth-shattering grief into a source of inspiration.
http://www.pbs.org/legacy/documentary/


Ordinary People

Although not a documentary this movie is about grieving parents and
the death of their son.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B000055ZFA/102-3384069-6162568?v=glance


I hope you find these additional videos helpful!

Sincerely
Bobie7

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Clarification of Answer by bobbie7-ga on 15 Feb 2004 11:56 PST

Here's another video.

All Water Has a Perfect Memory (2002)     
 
"An experimental documentary about a family's loss of a child and the
struggle between remembrance and forgetting. The film explores the
cultural differences between a North American mother and a Mexican
father in the face of death."

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1094895/

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0303296/plotsummary

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Clarification of Answer by bobbie7-ga on 15 Feb 2004 12:04 PST

Hi Jbsass!

I found another video for you.

We're Almost Home Now - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross on Children and Death (1993) 

Description:

?One of the only videos available on Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, this very
sensitive and beautiful award winning documentary weaves together the
stories of six people who have lost a child with the wisdom and
insight of Dr. Kubler-Ross. Very helpful for anyone who is involved
with death and dying in any way, whether on a personal or professional
level. Kubler-Ross at her best!?
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0967950716/102-3384069-6162568?v=glance

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Clarification of Answer by bobbie7-ga on 15 Feb 2004 12:30 PST

The Healing Path
?Coming to terms with the death of a child may be the most difficult
task an adult could face. After their son was killed. Reg and Rose
Crowshoe sought spiritual solace in a return to their native
traditions. Calgary producer Susan Cardinal presents the story of the
Crowshoes trying to find meaning in a family tragedy.?
http://www.radio.cbc.ca/programs/Tapestry/archives96.html

Thanks for all your efforts!!!  I'm going to use this service again,
SOON!!  Thanks so much.  Money well spent!

The loss through death of a child is the most devastating thing that
could happen to parents. The grief can be greater than when you lose a
spouse or your own parent. The cause of that grief is lack of proper
knowledge of "where" that loved one is. When we believe what the Bible
says about the subject and not what some religions teach, the grief
becomes easier to bear. Ecclesiastes 9;5 says " The living are
conscious that they will die, but as for the dead, they are conscious
of nothing at all. Psalm 146;4..His spirit goes out, he goes back to
his ground, in that day his thoughts do perish. Ezekiel 18;4..The soul
[complete person] that is sinning, it itself will die. All these
scriptures indicate that all persons, including children, have no
existence, anywhere, once they have died. Then God, through his son
Jesus, promised us the resurrection. He proved it by the account of
Lazarus ..John 11; 11-14... Lazarus our friend, has gone to rest. But
I [ Jesus ] am journeying there to awaken him from sleep . Jesus said
to them outspokenly " Lazarus has died". When this future resurrection
occurs, all parents who have lost their children will get them back.
This simple Bible promise goes a long way towards easing the grief.
The loving God of the Bible would never remove a child from its
parents, as some mainline religions claim, when they state at a
child`s funeral, God wanted this one in heaven to become an angel or a
star. This sort of comment from the religious leaders only makes the
parents hate God and turn away from Him. And are babies "sinners". Of
course they have not committed any wrongful acts themselves, being too
young, but again the Bible answers..Psalm 51;5..You know I was born
guilty, a sinner from the moment of conception. Genesis 8;21 Because
the inclination of the heart of man is bad from his youth up. And
Roman 3;23 "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God". And
the final promise of God, found at John 5;28,29.." Do not marvel at
this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial
tombs will hear his voice [ Jesus`]and come out. Those who did good
things to a resurrection of life, Those who practised vile things to a
resurrection of Judgement. So all innocent children who die because of
accident or disease, can look forward to a renewed life. And what a
wonderful hope that is.