Your questions and search is the same questions many single people
ask. How do I find someone for me? I find your honesty with
preference to age, sex, etc to be helpful. How easy dating would be if
everyone wore a sign on their back stating what they like and want.
There is no one place to meet people or find that "special someone".
Obviously on-line dating is available. You are able to read peoples
bios and determine if their age and interests are compatible to your
I found a pretty exhaustive listing of on-line dating search engines at
all of them offer some sort of free service, whether that is free
registration and profiling to free use.
Your main concern seems to be finding someone who is not opposed or
rather very interested in dating an older man (not that mid forties is
old by any stretch of the imagination).
One of the free sites listed that promoted intergerational dating was
Age seemed to be your primary concern, of course after sexual
preference. This site may be ideal for you. From the front page it
may appear to be primarily a heterosexual site, as the pictures on the
front page are of men and women together (an unfortunate bias and
societal norm). However the user base of the site is highly mixed of
homosexual and hetersexual men and women. Of course, there is never a
guarantee of a match.
Many other highly recommended sites that are free:
Another way to meet men of interest to you is go find gay friendly
clubs, (not bars/ dance clubs) but organizations that get together and
have sport clubs or outings. You are seeking a younger man, so go
where young men go. They tend to live more active lifestyles and
especially in the college years, are quite active in the community /
sports / clubs.
I think that by being where the "young" people are and participating
yourself, you will not only find possible partners but also have
something to talk about in common which will make breaking the ice
that much easier.
I hope you find a match-making service through the listings I found a success.
No matter who you are, finding a partner is hard. Know what you want
in your heart and go for it. Best of luck to you. I hope you find
much love and happiness.