Hello there,
Thats the first I have heard of that ! :)
"The association of masturbation with guilt and anxiety is partly due
to the ignorance of the fact masturbation is not harmful. These
negative sentiments are partly due to centuries of religious teachings
that masturbating is sinful. In addition, many of us have received
negative messages about masturbation from our parents or have even
been punished when caught masturbating as children. The cumulative
effect of these influences is usually confusion and guilt, which is
often difficult to sort out. However, the only time masturbation can
be ?bad? or harmful is when it becomes compulsive. Compulsive
masturbation, like all other compulsive behaviors, is a sign of an
emotional problem and needs to be addressed by a mental health
specialist. Sex, of course, is extremely pleasurable and all things
pleasurable are addictive. Over-masturbation can cause serious
problems that aren?t limited to the bedroom. Frequent masturbation
should be addressed.
So, contrary to ancient and popular beliefs, masturbation does not
lead to unbridled lust, make you blind or deaf, give you the flu,
drive you crazy, grow hair on your hand, make you stutter, or kill
you. Rather, masturbation is a natural and harmless expression of
sexuality in both men and women and a perfectly good way to experience
sexual pleasure. In fact, some experts argue that masturbation
improves sexual health by increasing an individual's understanding of
his or her own body and of what is erotically pleasing, building
self-confidence and fostering self-acceptance. This knowledge can then
be carried forth to make for a more satisfying sexual relationship
with one's partner, both through each partner's comfort with mutual
masturbation and because of the ability to tell each other what is
most pleasing. It is a good idea for a couple to discuss their
attitudes about masturbation and to calm any insecurities a partner
may have if the other should sometimes favor masturbation over sexual
intercourse. In some relationships, masturbation may be mutually
acceptable. Done alone or in the presence of a partner, the act can be
pleasing and add to mutual intimacy if it is not experienced as a
rejection. Like most behaviors, without proper communication, the act
of masturbation can be a sign of anger, alienation, or displeasure
with the way the relationship is progressing.
Overcoming society's negative stereotypes and one's personal feelings
about masturbation can allow men and women the freedom to explore and
experience their own sexuality in a private, satisfying manner. One
word of caution: in keeping with the practices of safer sex,
masturbation with a partner can be an enjoyable alternative to
intercourse, as long as you avoid contact with your partner's semen or
vaginal fluids, especially if you have any cuts or open sores." |
