On the pilot queer eye for the straight guy episode, they bought some
reaaly interesting music.  While it was playing in the background my
wife mentioned how much she liked it.  I think he said the artist was
sadik (saw-deke) but I can't find it and must have misheard or
misspelled.  would like to find it and surprise her with it.

The artist you're looking for is Raphael Saadiq.

"Original Pilot Episode...
Culture expert James sets his sights on upgrading Lawson's soundscape,
hitting the record store for an array of discs that will bring his CD
collection up to date...or at least into the '90s. Inspired by the
best of Lawson's favorites, James introduces him to the music of newer
artists that are cut from a similar cloth, like Raphael Saadiq
('Curtis Mayfield-like') and Zero 7."

Bravo TV: Queer Eye for the Straight Guy
http://www.bravotv.com/Queer_Eye_for_the_Straight_Guy/Episodes/100/recap.shtml

Here you can listen to audio clips from two of Saadiq's albums:

Amazon.com
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B0000CNY6W

Amazon.com
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000066EZU

Google search strategy:

Google Web Search: "raphael saadiq" + "queer eye"
://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=%22raphael+saadiq%22+%22queer+eye

I hope this helps! If this is not the correct musician, or if anything
is unclear, please request clarification; I'll be glad to offer
further assistance before you rate my answer.

Best regards,
pinkfreud

In case you're interested, the song that plays while Lawson shows off
his apartment to his girlfriend is from Zero 7.  The song is called
Destiny, and if you have iTunes installed, you can sample it here:

http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewAlbum?playlistId=2582275&selectedItemId=2582157

There is also a cool remix that you might like here:

http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewAlbum?playlistId=2509799&selectedItemId=2509793