I have been struggling a lot with looking at women lustfully, and
would like to know any resources with practical advice on how to fight
this.  I also have a girlfriend, and it obviously hurts her to know
that I might be lusting after other women.  Perhaps advice from the
Bible or other religious texts, or even secular suggestions.  Thank
you so much!

Hello jcurrie33~

Focus on the Family has a number of articles on combating and
conquering lust. Here are several I recommend:

? ?Every Young Man?s Battle: How To Combat Lust,? By Stephen Arterburn
and Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey:
http://www.family.org/teenguys/breakmag/features/a0023847.html

? ?Don?t Be Controlled By Lust,? by Michael Ross:
http://www.family.org/teenguys/breakmag/departments/a0020137.html

? ?Addiction? Or Something Else?? By Stephen Arterburn and Fred
Stoeker with Mike Yorkey:
http://www.family.org/married/romance/a0018672.cfm

In addition, here are some other web resources on the battle with lust:

? ?Conquer Lust God?s Way,? http://www.geocities.com/greg_pc/cnconquer_lust.html

? ?Breaking the Stronghold of Lust,?
http://www.biblelife.co.uk/bible/mind/breakinglust.asp

You may also be interested in the CD ?The Battle to Destroy Lust? by
Joshua Harris: http://www.family.org/resources/itempg.cfm?itemid=4298
and the highly recommended book ?Every Young Man?s Battle? by Stephen
Arterburn & Fred Stoeker and Mike Yorkey:
http://www.family.org/resources/itempg.cfm?itemid=3208


I hope these prove helpful,
Kriswrite


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Thank you very much for your work.  I particularly found the
“Addiction? Or Something Else?” By Stephen Arterburn and Fred
Stoeker with Mike Yorkey article interesting, and it was very long
too!  I have printed out most of the articles and look forward to
reading them.  Thanks again!

The largest organization worldwide devoted specifically to help with
lust addiction is Sexaholics Anonymous (www.sa.org). It is a 12-Step
program in the tradition of AA. If you take the 12-steps of AA and
replace the word "alcohol" with the word "lust", then you have the
12-steps of SA.

If you're looking for a solution, rather than a justification, this
may seem like a copout, but you may wish to read this article which
discusses the chemical aspects of both love and lust:
http://www.economist.com/printedition/displayStory.cfm?Story_ID=2424049,
and get your girlfriend to read it too. Until you get your lust under
control, it may help if you stop beating yourself up over it, and
maybe she can be more understanding about it too. Just some friendly
advice! - jc

What the Bible says; First Thessalonians 4;3-8...This is what God wills....
Ephesians 5;5..."No fornicator [greek/por-nei`a] or unclean person, or
greedy person- which means being an idolater-has any inheritance in
the Kingdom of the Christ AND of God". The Kingdom is the one we pray
for in the "Lord`s Prayer, Matthew 6;9,10.
Also First Corinthians 6;9-11. All these scriptures guide us in how to
behave. Its what God wants. God made us, and invented sex, but
restricted it to be between a married couple. He brought Eve to Adam.
But He sure disapproves of any straying. So simply put, once you have
your own wife, lusting after others is wrong. All you do in life
should be aimed at pleasing God [Ecclesiastes 12;13...The conclusion
of the matter, everything having been heard, is, fear the true God and
keep his commandments. For this is the whole obligation of man".