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how do people lie to themselves?
Category: Science > Social Sciences Asked by: bluekat-ga List Price: $4.00 |
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30 Apr 2004 04:22 PDT
Expires: 30 May 2004 04:22 PDT Question ID: 338739 |
how do people lie to themselves? many people lie to themselves, even when one could plainly point out to that person totally rationally reasons why they are lieing to themselves, they understand the rational reason, or seem too , they dont come back with anything to counter the rational explanation, and go on lieing to themselves. I have observed this heaps............my therory is that they have a problem with accepting realality so how is it possible to help them, or is it even possible ?? | |
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Re: how do people lie to themselves?
From: sublime1-ga on 30 Apr 2004 08:40 PDT |
bluekat... A former girlfriend noted the following: "A man can go 40 days without food, 3 days without water, and 5 minutes without air, but how long can you go without a rationalization?" Point taken. As to why, it seems to me that it has to do with the relationship demonstrated between hypnotic states and rationalization. It is well-documented that when hypnotized with a post-hypnotic suggestion that one gesture will make the subject feel hot, while a different gesture will make him feel cold, the subject will rationalize outloud why he keeps taking his jacket off and then putting it back on and crossing his arms. To an informed observer, it is obvious that the subject's rationalizations are completely irrelevant to the behavior they are supposed to explain, since the behavior is entirely triggered by an implanted suggestion, triggered by a gesture of which the subject is completely unaware. Many wise men have suggested that, in many ways, we are all walking around asleep, in a trance-like state equivalent to hypnosis, and constantly influenced by subtle suggestions and beliefs which have us spellbound, but nonetheless have a profound impact on our behaviors. Naturally, like the man in the example, we rationalize the choices we do not truly understand. Otherwise, we'd either go crazy or wake up. sublime1-ga |
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Re: how do people lie to themselves?
From: mmotyer-ga on 30 Apr 2004 17:15 PDT |
Lying to one's self is a universal fact of life. There are many cliches that show this to be true - being in one's comfort zone and that all truth is relative - to name a few. Social and familial influences, influences one's view of truth. In a predominantly christain society you are more inclined to be christain versus perhaps Islamic or Budhist. In certain parts of the country, whether you are black or white and how wealthy you are might determine if you are more likely to be a republican or democrat. If you have had certain experiences you might have a view on abortion. A women cohersed to keep a child might be in favor of abortion and a boyfriend who found out about an abortion after the fact might be against it. Those who want truth for it's own sake are in the minority. Truth that is within man is about loyalty, relationship and emotional experiences. When you challenge what someone believes, you are challenging that person's identity and if it is important enough their survival. To help some one see your point of view they need to be CONFIDENT that you understand their EMOTIONAL stand point. When truth is concerned - exept for the minority - facts don't matter. After you listen, provide an explanation of what you understand to be that person's point of view. When they concur with you that you understand them and you have demonstrated respect for their belief system and goals then you have a chance to change their point of view. |
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Re: how do people lie to themselves?
From: neilzero-ga on 02 May 2004 20:57 PDT |
Guilt trips are uncomfortable, so we ignore the painful truth and lie to our selves. It is only moderately harmful in moderation. We should avoid thinking that persons who fall short of our standards of objective thinking need professional help. If the truth is more or less irelevent to our near term mental and financial health, lieing to ourselves = rationalization may even be beneficial, perhaps. Neil |
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Re: how do people lie to themselves?
From: blakedog-ga on 30 May 2004 06:42 PDT |
It sounds like the answer to your question may lie somewhere in the theory of cognitive dissonance prosposed by carl festinger. When you behave in such a way as to contradict your values or current knowledge, dissonance occurs. Dissonance is uncormforatble to us in the sense that we as humans believe ourselves to act in a consistently logical way. To eleviate this discomfort we will either: 1.)Change our behaviour so it is line with our values 2.)Change our cogntions (thoughts) so they are in line with our behaviour 3.)Add new cognitions to explain our behaviour. Therefore adding new cogntions or changing cognitions could be interpretted as lying to ourselves. Take smokers for example, they know its bad for them yet they continue to smoke. How many times has a smoker said, 'they dont smoke enough to get ill' or something along these lines. Since it is very difficult for a smoker to change their behaviour (quit), they are more likely to make up new ideas that could be wrong (you do smoke enough to get ill!). Therefore the smoker is lying to themself in order to feel logical. My answer to your question is people are somtimes motivated to lie to themselves to feel logical. |
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