I am a mentally and physically healthy gay man who, despite self-help
books and guides, cannot practice receptive anal sex. I am looking for
some sort of therapist who can help me with my problem and possibly
prescribe medication if needed. How do I go about finding this type of
therapist? I don't even know the field of expertise I'm seeking.

Howdy ccw324-ga,

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The place to start is the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors &
Therapists (AASECT.)
http://www.aasect.org

"The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT)
is a not-for-profit, interdisciplinary professional organization. In addition
to sexuality educators, sex counselors and sex therapists, AASECT members
include physicians, nurses, social workers, psychologists, allied health
professionals, clergy members, lawyers, sociologists, marriage and family
counselors and therapists, family planning specialists and researchers, as well
as students in relevant professional disciplines. These individuals share an
interest in promoting understanding of human sexuality and healthy sexual
behavior."

More about AASECT.
http://www.aasect.org/about.cfm

"Founded in 1967 out of a desire to provide the public with comprehensive
sexuality education, counseling and therapy conducted by qualified
professionals, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and
Therapists is the premier organization that certifies sexual health
practitioners."

Their directory listings are here.
http://www.aasect.org/directory.cfm

"Find an area therapist, counselor or educator by clicking on a state..."

The other main place to check is the The American Board of Sexology (ABS.)
http://www.sexologist.org/

Their therapist look-up system.
http://www.sexologist.org/listings/finda.htm

The above are the two leading certifiers of sex therapists, and you will
almost always see AASECT and/or ABS certification associated with a sex
therapist's credentials.

Whomever you contact, you will want to make sure they are experienced in gay
issues so you can get the best professional advice possible.

If you need any clarification, feel free to ask.


Google search on: "sex therapist" gay
://www.google.com/search?q=%22sex+therapist%22+gay

Looking Forward, denco-ga - Google Answers Researcher

Here's a bit of advice from a heterosexual female: if your partner
insists that you do something that makes you feel uncomfortable,
either physically or mentally, the best solution is not to seek sexual
therapy, but to find a different partner.

I am not a medical professional.  I do however know that there are
many reasons for not wishing to participate in different sexual acts
or roles.  If you want to try intercourse but are emotionally hung up,
some doctors, including your g.p. may recommend Xanax.  Xanax it helps
to calm the anxiety associated with the situation.  If however, you
simply aren't interested in intercourse except for pleasing your
boyfriend, this can't be cured.  Being gay doesn't mean that you are
necessarily going to be interested in anal sex.

The coming out process, and growing emotionally as a gay man (even an
emotionally healty one) can leave unresolved internal conflicts.  It
is in your best interest to seek councelling.  Most likely, you don't
need a "sex therapist" but rather any qualified psychologist who is
comfortable talking about gay issues.   Make an initial visit with a
psychaitrist and go from there - you don't have to partake in months
of therapy, nor should you go seeking a script.
Best wishes.

Sweetie, maybe you're a top.  I don't like "receptive anal sex" either.

I don't like anal sex in either role, and I wish more people didn't
just assume that all gay guys are obsessed with that particular sex
act.