We're looking for a list/resource of the top, most highly-recommended
couples/relationship/marriage therapists/counselors/psychiatrists in
the San Francisco area.  We're a straight unmarried couple of 2 years.
 For example, is there a "Top 100" or "Top 50" list for most
highly-regarded or established therapists/counselors/phsychiatrists
(we don't care which of the three they are) in the San Francisco area?

Hello scorpionx2,
 
 I was able to find a list of "America's Best Therapists" by city, on
the Psychology Today web site, along with some satisified patient's
recommendations for you.

From ?Psychology Today? magazine, this is a list of 395 top
psychologists in the San Francisco area. Many are marriage and couples
specialists.
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/state/California/San%20Francisco.html

I found the above link from the ?Psychology Today? home page:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/HTDocs/prod/PTOhome/home.asp

Which linked to ?America?s Best Therapists?
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php

Click on the therapist?s link to see their qualifications, specialties
and client focus. As an example, I have selected Ms. Judith Tripp:
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_detail.php?profid=6820&idx=2&sid=1086485086_532




Therapy Network Directory
http://therapynetwork.net/pageserver.cgi?tpl=main.tpl&name=profiles&listing=sf
The referral process and how to select a therapist.
http://therapynetwork.net/referral.html 
Effectiveness of therapy
http://therapynetwork.net/effective.html


This Berkeley Parents Network has posted a list of ?word-of-mouth? recommendations.
Scroll down to the middle of the page. On the site, each therapist is
hyperlinked to a recommendation by an individul. Most seem to have
contact information as well. :
·  Isadora Alman 
·  Michael Baugh 
·  Beth Jaeger-Skigen 
·  Jeff Meeker 
·  Nancy Novack 
·  Naomi O'Keefe 
·  Catherine Regan 
·  Rodney Shapiro 
·  Norman Sohn 
·  Denise Capra Young
http://parents.berkeley.edu/recommend/therapy/couples.html


The American Association for Marriage and Family site has a  therapist
locator by zip code. ?The therapists you will find here are a highly
educated group with everyone in possession of at least a Master's
degree. Over one-fourth hold a doctorate or M.D. They also are a very
experienced group, averaging 14 to 16 years of experience in practice.
Most are in private sole practice, but many work in group practices,
clinics, hospitals, and other community organizations. All therapists
are clinical members of the American Association for Marriage and
Family Therapy, and as such must meet stringent training and education
requirements established by the AAMFT. All AAMFT Clinical Members have
agreed to abide by the AAMFT Code of Ethics.?
http://www.aamft.org/TherapistLocator/index.htm


Advice on selecting a therapist:
http://www.pureintimacy.org/gr/intimacy/redemption/a0000152.cfm

http://www.divorcechoice.com/savmarriages/savMrgQuestions.html

http://psychologydoc.com/Therapists%20.htm

You may find this past Google question interesting:
http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=347105

And this:
http://www.creativegrowth.com/

Good Luck! If any part of my answer is unclear, please request an
Answer Clarification, before rating. This will allow me to assist you
further, if possible.

Regards,
crabcakes

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Wonderfully detailed and informative answer - and quick, to boot! 
crabcakes went above and beyond the basic link or article we'd hoped
for, with detailed advice on not only "which" practitioners are
recommended, but also "how" to choose among them, "how much" to expect
to pay, etc.  This was our first jab at this, and we're more than
satisfied.  Thanks, crabcakes!

Thank you scorpionx2 for the kind word, the stars, and the most generous tip! 
Sincerely,
crabcakes