I have a cambodian friend who has very recently died.  He was not born
in America but has accepted the American Culture as his own.  His
mother and father both speak broken english, however the cambodian
culture is a large part of their way of life.  I want to approach his
family with understanding and care in this important time.

My questions pertain to the how the Cambodian culture deals with
death.  I hope the following questions are to the point:

1)What is the common practice for memorial services for cambodian and
more specifically cambodian-american families?

2)What are the etiquette rules as it pertains to death and memorial
services with friends, family and friends outside the culture?
(Flowers, Money, Letters)

3)What is the appropriate time to speak to family members of the deceased?

4)What do you say or what phrases in his language should I learn to
express my grief and my desire to support them?

5)What cultural taboos should I avoid when speaking to his family?

6)Should I expect a ceremony? And if so when; how many days after the death?

What I know and have found so far:
-He has expressed his desire for creamation to his friends and family.
-He would have been 27 on saturday (9/4/04).
-He died in a car accident.
-He was not openly religous.
-His family came to america when he was an infant.
-They would be considered middle class in american standards.
-I have not spoken to him for a year.
-I have met his parents and had a cambodian style dinner with them
twice. They were very cordial and welcoming.  One occassion was an
emotional moment before he left for the marines.

Websites with brief words on the subject:

-This site mentions a word or two about memorials at the 7th day, 30th
day and one year anniversaries.
http://www.parish-without-borders.net/cditt/cambodia/culture/2004/funeral-7days.htm

-This site mentions that white is the symbolic color for death in the
cambodian culture.
http://www.einaudi.cornell.edu/SoutheastAsia/outreach/resources/CambodiaWebUnit/culture.html#Funerals

I have probably added more details than necessary however my needs at
the moment outweigh privacy concerns, and would like to provide
information that leads to the promptest reply.  Thank you for your
time and consideration.

Alex