Shalom!
I gave up reading the answers as they are not, under any circumstances
part of the religious training I received, and/or know about.
You must speak of the Orthodox rituals to get the proper reply, as
Conservative & Reform, while they follow most, do not follow all to
the letter:
1. When a person dies, the body is washed by either friends,
relatives, temple members, or appointed persons.
2. Burial MUST take place before sundown on the day of the
death unless this is not possible.
3. The body is wrapped in a white shroud, and placed in the
casket which is of plain, unstained wood (nowadays - usually pine)
that contains NO NAILS or any form of material aside from the wood.
The coffin is held together by joining the pieces with interlocking
(blank on the name!) pieces of the wood, cut yo fit one into the
other.
4. Whether one is buried from the Temple, or a modern funeral
parlor, it is customary for the hearse, if a funeral parlor is used,
to pass the Temple, and the doors of the Temple are opened, and then
closed again.
5. A SITTER MUST stay with the body at all times until burial.
6. The coffin MUST REMAIN CLOSED! Also, if one is a Cohen
(Cohain, Coien), one is not allowed to be near death. The exception
would be for immediately family.
7. After the funeral service, the coffin is placed in the
ground, at the cemetery with each family member throwing a shovel of
dirt into the hole. Some people allow anyone at the burial to shovel
the dirt. A Rabbi will NOT leave until the grave is totally closed.
During burial, the Kaddish is recited. While this is NOT a prayer
speaking of death, it is used. (Extolled and allowed be the name of
G_d......... May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make
his countenance shine upon you. May the Lord give you peace. Amen.)
Naturally, I deleted 95% of the Kaddish.
7. Wherever SHIVA will be observed, all mirrors are covered for
7 days. A meal is usually prepared by the temple's sisterhood for the
family, and the mourners wear the RIPPED CLOTHING, whichis ripped, or
cut by the Rabbi prior to starting the service. It is to signify
mourning. Today, such as when my mother and then my father died, a
black ribbon is placed on the immediate family members' lapel and
after repeating a prayer, a razor is used to cut the ribbon. It is
worn for the period of Shiva observance, 7 days. The mourners sit on
wooden boxes, and do not wear shoes. It is the only time people are
allowed to walk in stocking feet, although I cannot tellyou why or
when it started. Also, a large candle is lit, which will burn for 7
days. One also lights a 'Yartzheit Candle' on the anniversary of the
death, based on the Jewish calendar. A donation is customarily made
to the Temple, and Kaddish is said. The same is done 4 other times
each ear, including the last day of Passover and on Yom Kippur.
8. Before entering the home, after the burial, there is a bowl
of water placed outside to wash the hands, to clean them of death and
not to bring it into the home.
9. The period of mourning is technically ONE YEAR! Most
people today are not quite that forthright. Each night during Shiva,
a minion (group of no less than 10 MEN) convenes and Kaddish is said.
One goes to Temple everyday for one year - again - some do 30 days,
some 7 days.
10. The only reason burial may be delayed is Shabbos (the
Sabbath), certain holidays including The High Holy Days (Jewish New
Year ending with Yom Kippur - The Day Of Atonement, a fast day!), and,
depending on the sect and Rabbi and traditions, to await the arrival
of immediate family members.
11. No music or entertainment is allowed during at least some
part of the period of mourning.
Any questions? I can try, but as I am not Orthodox, it may take
research. The items posted above my comments have some correct
information but much incorrect information. Also, we do NOT call it
B.C. - It is B.C.E. (Before the Christian Era).
FYI: We have leap year 7 times every 19 years. A month is added,
which explains why the holidays are never exactly on the same dates on
the Julian calendar. The month is between Adar and Nissan, so it is
called either Adar II or Adar-Nissan.) |