what is the best way to seduce a man? what about oral sex, what is the
best techniques for giving it to a man?

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Request for Question Clarification by politicalguru-ga on 24 Oct 2004 00:56 PDT

Dear Meemsi, 

These are two questions and I suggest that you'll separate them into
two different postings.

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Clarification of Question by meemsi-ga on 24 Oct 2004 19:20 PDT

what is the best technique for giving oral sex to a man?

Play hard to get.

In my day, a young lady coyly dropped her handkerchief.

It evidently worked.

In my experience, most men don't need to be "seduced." You just show
up, maybe shed a few clothes, and bam! you've got 'em.

Ah Pinkfreud, you are  . . . . . such a blithe spirit!   ;-]

Okay, so here's some thots:

There's a book called The Sensuous Woman by "J" that came out in the
'70s and it can be found at:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/search-handle-form/102-0071740-7269721
along with several others that fall into the catagory of basic technique.

Notice also on that page, the listing for a title called:

Story of "J": The author of The sensuous woman tells the bitter price
of her crazy success
by Terry Garrity

This offered with the caveat that there is much to learn about the
personal power politics of sex ... but that's a whole other question .
. .  just don't scare him off with your Kali impersonation, whether
intentioned or not  . . .

good luck!

OK.  Now you will get an honest, straight forward answer from someone
in a position to know.
First.  Clothes make the man.  The same can be said for a woman in my
eyes.  Find out what it is that makes you look good and get your most
brutally honest friend to confirm.  Many women wear what they think
looks good and they are not only sometimes wrong, but embarrassingly
wrong.
Next, find out what it is he likes the most in appearance.  Is he a
breast man, legs, ass, hair.....etc.  Use what god gave ya!  Then get
it touched up.  I.E. wonderbra, wax, visit to the hairdresser and so
on and so forth.  Homework is a must.
Thirdly, find out what he likes to do because us men are impressed,
and very happy when a woman shares a common interest and will do it
with us.  Very sexy.
Fourth.  Where is he king of the castle?  Where is he most
comfortable.  If it's a one night stand, it'll almost always be
somewhere other than his place.  If its a relationship, it will be his
place if he has one.  Be the spider either way and take control of the
environment you are in and serve him.
Finally, be aggressive.  Use your face and give him the look.  You
know the look.  The one that says you are going to do something to him
that he has never had before.  Do it to him for a while.  Not just one
evening.  Do it several times over time and touch his arm or chest
when you talk to him.  Contact will get the old testosterone pumping
and will be a fairly clear indicator that you want something.
If you want to blow his mind orally now, I can only tell you what I
enjoy.  Learn his sensative spots, usually right under the head at the
bottom. Play with his boys.  If he is uncircumsised jerk him off while
doing it at whatever pace he gives you.  You WILL get direction if you
guide his hands to your head like you would do in his place.  Some men
like you to put a finger inside other places.  If you do this press
towards you and don't go dry.  If you find "the spot" which can take
some time, his eyes will roll back in his head and will lose it
quickly.
I hope this answered everything for you.  A few drinks usually help a
shy fella open up is that is the case.  If he is the white Knight type
don't get too tipsy yourself because he may feel too guilty to go.  If
he has an evil streak, act a littly more drunk than you are and lead
him like a dog on a leash.  Enjoy

OMG!!! I just found this thread....

I was reading "The Sensous Woman" while in hospital recovering from
the birth of my second child in 1975. My *roomies* thought I was
NUTS....heheheh.

My motto is, and always has been, do what you want to do and don't
just do it because its expected or you feel you have to
*reciprocate*....

It can be fun!!!!!!!!!!!

Steph53