I'm looking for a gay content provider that will let me put there
videos on my website. The important part is that they allow me to only
put the video there, and that the videos be updated regularly for a
montly fee. Everything I have been able to find requires either a 1
off purchase (content doesn't change), or othwerwise a link to a
cusomizable theater. The thing is I don't want a link to a theater, I
want the user to stay on my website only. The video can stream from
the provider, but only the video (not the surrounding html)

Thanks,

 -Eric

You can create a Director account into YouTube (first create you
account, upload one or two videos and than ask they for and director
account). This way you will have a personal page inside YouTube.
Also, by uploading your videos to YouTube, you can embbed them inside
your web site. The video file will be stored inside YouTube, but will
be watched within your own web site. But YouTube doesn't allow any
"indecent" materials, if your videos are of that kind.

I forgot to say. In YouTube you can prevent your videos from public viewing.