I wanta try setting up a vpn however the incomming ports vpn
connections normaly go over are closed off by the firewall and there
is not a dang thing I can do to change that. I was able to find a
bunch of open incoming ports so I figure all I gotta do is somehow
tell it to use the ports I found where open insted of the normal ones.
 but how the heack do I do that??

I suggest opening the vpn port on the firewall. Is this at a company?
Are the Admin? If not ask him/her.

it's at school. and yes I have tried to get the ports open.
I've tried every option to convince them to open the ports.
they all either failed or cost to much.
isn't there any way I can tell it to use another port insted?

is my price set to low for this or is there simply no way to use a non
standard port with VPN's?

I've already got comptia's A+ and going to get network+ and xp client
when I get the cash to take the tests. so I have a pretty good Idea
how to use these type programs. and judging by the lack of any way I
can find and your lack of giving me one sugests that using the OS
verson doesn't work for this purpose.
is there a 3rd party program that can do the job and not cost as much
as the windows server it's going to be put on?