Hi,

I have been assuming that when a very successful professional woman is
interested in having kids with her husband that she would be keen on
bringing them up right and would likely put her professional career on
the back burner for a while till they're out of the woods instead of
depending on staff/help from parties whom are less qualified than her
to take care of the most precious investment in her life while
sticking to her career for what might be a lesser goal and possibly
end up with a mess for kids and while helping others through her
career, she's shrinking the chances of her own kids turning out as she
would hope to see them turn out.

Lets discuss this through clarifications if it's not clear for you so
we get off on the right foot. :-)

-Mao

Hmmm...

I have looked at this question time & time again.

Now I can't keep my mouth shut..."spewing now"

First of all, why would a *professional* woman want to give up her
career just because she had kids??? Exactly what do you mean by
"professional" ?

IMHO....

Children can be raised in any way regardless of what "mommy" is doing
from 9 to 5....

I'm not a Researcher but a humble *commenter* thats been there..done that.

Steph 53

Hi Steph,

What I meant with professional is someone who's in a profession that
required a lot of education and years of practical experience to
achieve something out of it... it's not part time jobs or temporary
work that pays per hour that we'd go for when we need a little bit of
cash with little committment to the field or exceptional subject
matter expertise to classify us in a particular professional job
category.  I hope I had covered that?

I would also want to clarify that in the scenario I had expressed, I
was interested in knowing what would a person feel they're achieving
out of their 9-5 job and raising kids in comparison to what they feel
they're achieving out of raising their kids without the burden of a
job, specially if they could live without the income as they're not
the only source of income for the family.

My focus is not if they can raise kids, of course they can, I'm
interested in knowing more about how did a working mom impact,
statistically perhaps, the quality of life for the kids and specially
at the first four to six years of their up bringing where she would
either have someone help raising them if she kept her job compared to
raising them herself and having done that a lot closer.

I have the impression that the difference in not marginal between the
two and I'm not nocking working moms whom have to work to support the
family, just an interest in exploring what are the differences if the
income wasn't critical and the mother had a choice... is there a
difference in how the kids go through both situations?

I'm not quite good at clarifying my questions, so I hope this clears
up the misunderstanding? :-)

-Mao