Steph,
This note is crafted to be non-confrontational, yet in-your-face.
This is done primarily with the use of "I" statements. It's much
harder for someone to go into denial, or defend themselves, when there
have been no accusatory "YOU" statements. In this note, you are
OWNING all your own feelings, and accusing him of nothing. You are
also taking a stand, and giving him 2 choices. I have tried to make
taking the Cialis the attractive option.
Notice all the "I" statements. Whatever parts you rewrite, keep that
same idea in mind.
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Honey,
First, I love you. I'm having a couple problems that I'd like your
help with. The sex thing is one of them, but what is really making me
crazy-out-of-my-mind, is your apparent lack of sexual desire. We have
a fantastic relationship in every other way, and I know you are
attracted to me physically. I want sexual intimacy to be a part of our
future. I hope you want that too.
What I am doing tonight is making a stand. What you have before you,
literally on your plate, is a choice. You can choose to have a long,
open, and meaningful conversation with me, about your sexual avoidance
behavior......Or.. (drumroll) ....you can take the Cialis! ....then we
can both see what develops naturally over the next 24 hours.
Hon, please read the attached page I printed --from a web site worthy
of your exploration in depth. It's a brief overview of Cialis,
including it's success rate from the first dose! (82%!)
I have no intention of making you uncomfortable. The magic of Cialis
is that it works in the body for 24-36 hours. There will be no hurry.
The only other option is for you to talk to me --and make me
understand why you don't want to be sexually intimate with me.
It's up to you...
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Steph,
I have a chance to clarify before noon on Friday, but my "day job"
shift is from noon to 8pm Friday, --well past 4pm. I worked till 2am
tonight (bartender), but will set my alarm and get up early
(9:30-10am) to see if you need assistance.
I would plan on serving him one drink (if he drinks), because he will
be nervous. Wear something a bit revealing (cleavage) for that 24
hours. Brush up against him by accident. Don't push, wait till you
are in bed for the evening, --offer him a backrub... let it go from
there, naturally, slowly.
Any success is to be recognized with: --- WOOOW --- OOOHH MYYYY ---
Look at that! Lemme sit on it!! (or whatever, --you get the idea)
Remember, any success can be repeated several times (!!) in that 24-36 hours....
Good Luck, please post back..
~~Cynthia |
