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Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
Category: Reference, Education and News > Consumer Information Asked by: gboomer-ga List Price: $2.00 |
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31 Jul 2002 15:12 PDT
Expires: 30 Aug 2002 15:12 PDT Question ID: 47687 |
What tools/solutions/seminars are available today to help people overcome the fear of public speaking? |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: mvguy-ga on 31 Jul 2002 15:23 PDT |
I don't have time right now to give a good answer, but I will give you my advice based on personal experience: Consider joining Toastmasters, an educational organization devoted to helping people master the art of public speaking. http://www.toastmasters.org/entry.htm |
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From: secret901-ga on 31 Jul 2002 15:24 PDT |
I agree with mvguy. Toastmasters is a great organization. They've helped me when I needed to give a speech. |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: pinkfreud-ga on 31 Jul 2002 16:07 PDT |
Here is a list of more than 100 links dealing with overcoming the fear of public speaking: http://www.selfgrowth.com/public.html |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: ozguru-ga on 31 Jul 2002 16:58 PDT |
Dear gboomer, Some simple advice, just from my experience: - Practice, practice, practice... You could even start in front of a mirror, or group of friends or family :-) - Initially pick a subject that you know backwards. - The above gives you confidence on the subject matter and YOUR presentation. - The fear will subside after you have successfully survived a few times :-) Regards, |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: chatril-ga on 31 Jul 2002 17:44 PDT |
Stand up straight - Speak out loud - Sit down quick! |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: expertlaw-ga on 31 Jul 2002 21:51 PDT |
Good question. When I read it I realized for the first time that I no longer fear public speaking - I have progressed to the point where I simply dislike it. ;-) What worked for me... practice, practice, practice. But perhaps more useful, here's what worked for me: * Don't try to memorize your presentation. Practice from bullet points until you can give your speech relatively smoothly. I find that working from bullet points and, to some degree, extemporizing helps slow down my presentation. Otherwise, I can find myself speaking at an alarming speed - and it is *much* better to be too slow than too fast. * Don't worry about making mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes during speeches. If you have not memorized your speech, you will be able to quickly move on, and most people won't even notice. (And, as everybody makes mistakes, those who notice won't think anything of it. Don't believe me? Ask other speakers what their biggest mistake was, or the biggest mistake they have seen from a speaker.) * Don't apologize for the material. Don't say, "I'm sorry this is such dry, boring material" at the start of your presentation - the audience will then expect to be bored. Also, don't apologize if you make a mistake. Don't apologize if you say "um" too many times. Just give your presentation. (Note, I'm not saying you can't say "I'm sorry" in immediately correcting a minor stumble - for example, "I would like to thank Mr. Jackson, I'm sorry, Mr. Johnson for that wonderful introduction". In that context, "I'm sorry" is much more eloquent than "um".) * Be careful with jokes. Don't tell the latest joke you downloaded from the Internet. But if you have a sense of humor, weave some humor into your presentation. Avoid political, racial, or gender-based jokes like the proverbial plague. * If you are pronouncing difficult names or words, find out how to pronounce them before your presentation. * Don't tell "war stories", but do relate to the audience through examples. A war story tells the audience about something that happened to you, or to another person, with peripheral relevance to the speech. An example is short, to the point, perhaps even poignant, and helps the audience learn. * Make eye contact with people in the audience. Make sure you move from person to person. If you're under "stage lights", the audience will be somewhat silhouetted, and it will be strange to try to make eye contact when you can't actually see their eyes - but they can see your eyes. Don't make eye contact like you're a typewriter or eating corn (row by row). If it helps, pick five or six friendly-looking faces in the audience, and focus your eye contact on them. (Anything is better than "tunnel vision".) * Know what you will do with your hands. If you're lucky, you'll be a natural with hand gestures. If not, you need to avoid nervous habits such as key-jingling or pen-clicking. If you are behind a lectern, you can hold it with a death grip if it helps. If you are behind a microphone without any "shield", you will have to give this some thought, based on your comfort level - but make sure your thought isn't "I'll stuff my hands in my pockets". * Think 3 times 3 - three main points, each with three subpoints. It will help you focus your speaking. * The worst part is the *fear* of speaking, not the speaking itself. Let's see... The fourth or fifth time I introduced a particular lawyer, he made a reference to his partner by name, and I learned that I had been mispronouncing his firm name (on videotape and audiotape) on all prior occasions. After the presentation I asked him, "Why didn't you tell me?" He replied, "I didn't think it was important". Nobody ever said a word to me about it. In introducing speakers, I sometimes had to try to present from notes handed to me moments before I took the microphone, with those notes often being in unbelievably small typeface (nine or ten point type). Under stage lights, I have mispronounced a number of "easy" words, or tripped over organization names. Nobody has ever said anything. If you are afraid of "freezing", your fear is probably misplaced. A lot of people fear freezing, but it rarely happens. More common is "losing your place", resulting in a pause that feels eternal, but really takes just a second or two. (And nobody ever says anything about them.) If you truly fear freezing, have somebody available to "thaw" you. For example, if there is a moderator, you can give him a question to ask you in the event of an awkward pause. If you are giving a speech for a class, the teacher will probably agree to cue you, or you can work out a code with a friend (a certain type of cough or noise) to bring you back to focus. But you will almost certainly find that any such preparation is unnecessary. |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: tlspiegel-ga on 31 Jul 2002 23:29 PDT |
Hi gboomer, I had an interesting conversation just tonight while on a date with a friend concerning public speeches and why are they so difficult. Public speaking is way up there in fears... probably deserves to be at the top of the list for humans! I can remember standing in front of a class in school giving a 45 second book report that should have taken 20 minutes at least. :) Scared? Yup! Toastmasters, toastmasters! They've been around since 1924. Here's a link to communicating tips directly from their site: 10 Tips For Successful Public Speaking http://www.toastmasters.org/tips.asp As an adult, I gave successful speeches to auditoriums filled with students and teachers from kindergarten to 12th grade, concerning a program I started in regards to safety for children and Safe Houses they might be able to get to when in danger. At the time I had no knowledge about Toastmasters, and probably would have benefited greatly from the program. Good Luck and realize you are definitely not alone! tlspiegel-ga |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: tlspiegel-ga on 31 Jul 2002 23:34 PDT |
Hi again, Here's more excellent information for you: Public Speaking http://www.bradford.ac.uk/acad/civeng/skills/pubspeak.htm "Introduction Many people feel anxious about giving a formal talk or presentation in public. Christine Stuart in her book, 'Effective Speaking' cites a survey in the USA where 3,000 adults were asked to list their ten worst fears. Speaking in Public came out as the number one fear - above even fears of financial ruin and death!" tlspiegel-ga |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: dexterpexter-ga on 31 Jul 2002 23:42 PDT |
All of the advice so far has been, in my opinion, wonderful. Toastmasters is definitely an option. Also, many community colleges offer courses in public speaking. (I say community colleges because private universities will charge you an arm and a leg.) My first course in public speaking? Through 4-H. A wonderful program, although more focussed on youth. There are also a myriad of books available both on the internet and at most large bookstores, that focus on comforting those afraid of public speaking, and that give wonderful advice. I would suggest doing a goolge search for some free online resources, or support groups. In giving a few presentations at my university, I have fell upon these personal tricks that help me. You are judged on eye contact. This is un-nerving. The solution, pick a spot or several spots in the crowd, not particularly in the line of sight at someone, and look there between lines. Above the audience's heads is a wonderful place to look. Practice the speach before hand. Not too many times, though. If you over-practice it, it will become rushed and the audience will pick up on that and make you nervous. Take deep breaths through the nose beforehand. If necessary, take something to squeeze in your hand, but only if you are standing behind something. The audience will be distracted if they can see you squeezing around on something. Practice ennunciating certain words, and pay attention to the sound the words make coming out of your mouth. THis will help distract you from the people watching you. Always introduce yourself to a few people before your speech. You don't want people in the crowd you know well, or this can be unnerving. However, a friendly face or two that you don't particularly know well, but are acquainted with, will help tremendously. Eliminate the word "um" from your vocabulary. Like someone else said before, don't appologize for saying it, but it is a definite break in your speech and will become noticeable, and make you a little nervous. Smile. A smile makes you feel better. It releases andorphons or something or other into the brain and makes you feel better. So smile. Even if you don't feel like it. If you tend to throw up out of nervousness, I suggest eating a meal of dry toast and water beforehand. It helps fill the stomach, but tends to be thrown up less. Coldness helps settle the stomach and nerves. I don't know the medical reason, it just does. Rubbing ice on your bottom lip foe a while before the speech will help settle your stomach, and holding a wet, cold paper towel, tucked into your fist, will help a little if not viewable to your audience. Don't look at people's faces unless you are reading something confusing and want to gauge whether or not to invite questions. OTherwise, looking at people's faces unnerves you. Dress well. WHen you look good, you feel wonderful. Think of something that makes you happy. If you start to stumble a little, think of your secret thing, smile, and go on. Do not imagine people in their underwear. THis is difficult and distracting, and makes things worse. Practice in front of a mirror, then in front of your most frank friends. Let them tell you how they liked it. Ask them what you could do to be better. Practice your speech in a cartoon character voice. Or in a Shakespeare style. Be really over the top. Use your hands a lot. Sway, yell, and then read it as though you are in a soap opera. Sure the neighbors will think you are crazy, but by the time you go to actually say your speech, it will be the funniest thing you have ever heard, and saying it seriously won't be so bad. You might even end up giggling a little. Giggling helps nerves. Wear comfortable shoes. There are many things you can do to help relieve stress about public speaking. I used to be terrified. The over-the-top recitation is my favorite tool, although I don't really use it any more. I hope these help and I can only advise you to be creative and use what works for you. Good luck, Dexterpexter |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: pwi_pwii-ga on 01 Aug 2002 02:15 PDT |
All of the above comments are great. As a school teacher and a preforming musician I have had the opportunity to speak to crowds of 1 all the way up to crowds of 5,000. I love it. Why? Attitude. I'm not a great speaker, but I've practiced and don't do badly. I remember when I was in 2nd grade and I recorded myself speaking into a small tape recorder. I hated my voice. When I was in 10th grade after giving a speech in class my teacher for a lack of anything else to say, said that I had a very distinctive voice. Ever since then I realized that we all have voices and unless there is something that is quite abnormal or very unpleasent about it, then we have nothing to be ashamed of. Attitude Number One: Don't be ashamed of the way your voice sounds. If you are asked to give a speech, unless it is a requirement for a class, that should tell you the person or group asking you to speak have a belief in you that you can do a good job. Furthermore be very prepared, meaning know what you are going to say, (best not word for word as in memorized as said before it's dangerous to rely on memorization) know your subject. Most of my students who have problems giving speeches do so because they simply don't know what to say. If you are well prepared in your subject matter consider yourself an expert and unless there truly is an expert in the audience on your subject then you should be the most knowledgable person in the room. Attitude Number Two: Be Confident in your knowlegde. Prepare and then Practice then Kick-Butt and who cares what anyone else thinks. You're the one that stood up there and gave it a shot. After each speech it gets easier. I personally love and I believe everyone can develope that same mind set. Know what you are going to say. Know how you want to say it. Good Luck Pwi_Pwii |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: pwi_pwii-ga on 01 Aug 2002 02:19 PDT |
Sorry for the many typos. As a teacher, I should have corrected them. Pwi_Pwii |
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Re: Overcoming Fear of Public Speaking
From: tehuti-ga on 01 Aug 2002 03:33 PDT |
Just a couple of minor additions to some excellent advice: Jokes - you need to be a bit wary of them. Don't tell jokes unless you do so in normal conversation anyway. There is nothing worse than a speaker telling a joke in a forced and unnatural manner. If you do want to use jokes, make sure you know your audience very well, so that you can gauge the type of humour that might appeal. I personally don't tell jokes because I can never remember the punchlines :( However, I do inject humour into my presentations with one or two wry comments. Topics - the best situation is when you not only know your subject backwards, but when it is one about which you are passionately interested. Your interest and enthusiasm will come through and make a very positive impression on your audience. Notes - bullet points for each issue you want to raise, plus specific facts and figures if you think you might have difficulty remembering them. Use typed rather than handwritten notes, preferably printed in a largish font, because sometimes lighting conditions are less than perfect. NEVER read out a formally written paper as this will guarantee an instant cure for the insomniacs in your audience. My next suggestion is a bit controversial, but when I started I used to write out my talk in a conversational style (and print it off in large font). With a bit of practice, I found I was able to read it without anyone noticing the fact (very short glances down at the paper, looking at people in the audience most of the time). I then worked at gradually cutting down the notes until I got them down to bullet points. However, having very comprehensive notes at the start was a useful crutch, because I didn't have to worry about my poor memory, missing something out through panic, etc. Visual aids - these can be useful if used with care. Don't use too many slides. Include only those which add value to what you are saying. I use a rough rule of thumb of not less than 2 minutes per slide, ie if the speech is 20 minutes, I have a maximum of ten slides. Keep them simple, with the minimum number of words to get across your point. Showing them in Powerpoint off a computer is less stressful then messing about with a bunch of slippery overheads. However, have overheads as a backup if something goes wrong with the computer setup, and have the presentation on disk/CD in case there is a problem with hooking up your laptop to the projector. If using your own laptop, get it hooked up and tested well in advance of your speech. Presentation style - practise speaking your talk out loud in advance to make sure it fits the time, but remember that in a practice session you will probably be speaking a little faster than in the auditorium. Practise speaking slower than you would in ordinary conversation. You will probably find that this feels incredibly slow to start with, but it isn't really! If you are a woman, you might want to experiment with pitching your voice a bit lower than usual - this is one of the tricks used by Margaret Thatcher. Also, if you are a woman make sure that your clothing will allow you to use a clip-on microphone (ie wear a jacket, or a dress or top with a suitably large collar). Don't refuse to use a microphone unless you are totally sure that your voice will carry to the back of the room. If you do speak without a microphone, focus on the people at the back and project your voice towards them. Find a way of presenting that suits you, although you will obviously sometimes be constrained by the nature of the event. For example, I am best when I can be fairly informal. Where possible, I leave the lectern and come further forward towards the audience, so that I can feel that I am engaging them in discussion rather than speaking at them. Timing - make sure that you do not run over your alloted time, especially if there are a number of speakers. Be aware of what can be cut out of your talk if you do start running out of time. Finally, remember that you are there because someone decided that you have something worth saying. The audience are there because they want to hear you. Think of them as your friends -- and enjoy! |
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