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Subject: Erectile dysfunction problem
Category: Health > Men's Health
Asked by: dse-ga
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Posted: 25 Feb 2005 08:31 PST
Expires: 27 Mar 2005 08:31 PST
Question ID: 480741
I have been dating the same women for a year now. She used to turn me
on by touching me and I loved it. And now she touches me and its
nothing. She can't do anything to me and she doesn't give me a full
erection its just kinda hanging there. I masturbate daily sometimes
more than once a day. Is that the problem or is she just old?
There is no answer at this time.

Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: shockandawe-ga on 25 Feb 2005 13:22 PST
Old ?
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: dancingbear-ga on 25 Feb 2005 17:32 PST
If you are maturbating and not having any problems getting an
erection- then there is nothing wrong with you physically.  If you
don't get aroused by her anymore- and you regard her as a sweater that
can get old and be discarded- do her a favor and leave her so she find
a man who will relate to her as woman and not an object that went out
of fashion for your penis.
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: pinkfreud-ga on 25 Feb 2005 17:43 PST
An inflatable gal
Will never grow old
An inflatable gal
Always does as she's told
An inflatable gal
Needs nothing from you
But a tweak on her valve
And a blow job or two
She is great for morale
Your petite plastic pal
An inflatable gal
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: lrulrick-ga on 25 Feb 2005 19:53 PST
Let me get past the sweater comment.. it seems to be stuck in my head
to the point that I can not think of anything to say other than "     

Okay where you arware that this situtaion can be an involuntary act
due to surpressed feeling? Maybe you have some emotional issues with
her that are preventing you from becoming aroused. Often prolonged
stress can effect a mans ablility to perform. If you have doubts on
your ability to satisfy your partner, you may become unable to perform
the act while in her presense. I would explore your emotional and
mental state during the times this occures and try to pin point any
issues that may arise. However due to the fact that you could compare
her to an old sweater.. I must agree with the former comment, leave
her so she is able to move on. You could not possible have the respect
for her she deserves if thats the best comparison you can come up
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: archae0pteryx-ga on 25 Feb 2005 23:36 PST
Wonder if she's asking her friends, "Am I doing something wrong, or is
*he* just old?"
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: cynthia-ga on 26 Feb 2005 02:54 PST
Seems to me that blaming someone else for your erection problem is not
the way to fix it.  Erectile Dysfunction is extremely common:

Prevalence of ED
[more info at the link]
..."How common is ED? Some of the best information comes from the
Massachusetts Male Aging Study, an ongoing survey of 1,709 men over
40. More than half the participants (52 percent) report at least some
erection difficulty.

      At 40:
      Mild Occasional Erection Dissatisfaction: 18%
      Moderate, Frequent ED: 17%
      Severe, Constant ED: 5%
      Total: 40% 

      At 50:
      Mild Occasional Erection Dissatisfaction: 18%
      Moderate, Frequent ED: 19%
      Severe, Constant ED: 8%
      Total: 45%

      At 60:
      Mild Occasional Erection Dissatisfaction: 18%
      Moderate, Frequent ED: 27%
      Severe, Constant ED: 11%
      Total: 56%

      At 70:
      Mild Occasional Erection Dissatisfaction: 18%
      Moderate, Frequent ED: 32%
      Severe, Constant ED: 15%
      Total: 65%

Note: This study did not include anyone under forty, but with almost
one forty-year-old in five reporting erection dissatisfaction, it?s
clear that a significant proportion of younger men also share this
problem. And in a 1999 University of Chicago survey, 7% of men aged
18-29 and 9% of men aged 30-39 reported having had erection problems
in the previous year..."

Note at the link that under "Caused Of ED" --not one mention of
finding a new partner because you've been with her too long and she is
not exciting enough anymore.

I suspect that if you traded her in for a new model, you would indeed
get an better erection, FOR AWHILE.  Then, it's time to look in the
mirror for answers.

In any event, I agree with the other posters that suggested you let
her go.  You aren't doing her any favors, in or out of bed.  She'll be

Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: frde-ga on 26 Feb 2005 05:30 PST
My first inclination is to query the rest of your relationship with the lass.

Do you enjoy her company ?

Do you talk with each other - do you find that interesting.

Do you look forward to seeing her ?

Do you enjoy sleeping with her (not sh*gging - sleeping) ?

Then I would ask whether you are interested (ahem very interested) in
other women. Probably one or two in particular.

I would then ask whether anything has changed, perhaps she has put on
a lot of weight.

Somehow I suspect that you really know the answer and that you want
someone here (or elsewhere) to drag it out from you.

There is no sin in making mistakes - the sin is not admitting them.

'sin' being defined as deliberately doing something one considers wrong.
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: steph53-ga on 27 Feb 2005 15:12 PST

I have to agree with Cynthia... 
STOP blaming your lack of erections on your lady friend. Thats a cop-out.. 
Let her go so she can find someone that appreciates her for just her
and not for her ability to give a man a hardon.

There are many questions here on the GA site that deal with erectile
dysfunction but very few put the blame DIRECTLY on the other partner
as you did in your question.

Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: shockandawe-ga on 01 Mar 2005 13:24 PST
Pinkfreud gettin' SAUCEY.
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: pinkfreud-ga on 01 Mar 2005 13:33 PST
>> Pinkfreud gettin' SAUCEY.

That's what happens when you get too old to turn guys on. Nothing
develops sauciness quite like senescence. ;-)
Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: archae0pteryx-ga on 01 Mar 2005 22:44 PST
True, Pink, true.  Just ask the little old lady in lavender silk.

Sometimes it shocks youngsters to realize that older folks not only
used to be young but sometimes are naughty still--and maybe even
naughtier than ever.  It makes me laugh out loud when they try to
protect our innocence.

Subject: Re: Erectile dysfunction problem
From: erku-ga on 09 Mar 2005 06:34 PST
You might want to check this entire category of great articles from
top medical institutions on Erectile Dysfunction and Impotence at

Thank you.

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