84 year old male, who had good sex live now can't have orgasim, or
ejaculate. Have good health, no diabetes, no mental problems no
medicines that could cause the problem. Had a herniated disk 30 years
ago. Talked to urologist at the Mayo and he said that there was
nothing that he could do to help me. Have attractive 60 year old
blond, need help . |
Request for Question Clarification by
pafalafa-ga
on
07 Mar 2005 18:06 PST
frank1328-ga,
I've been contemplating your question, and I have to ask...How would
you like us to help you?
You've been to a doctor. Presumably, you've had a thorough exam and
talked over various options like Viagra and related ED medications.
If you're looking for some sort of medical intervention to help you
out, I don't know that we can offer any information that would not be
available and well-known to your doctor already.
If you're asking about some sort of non-medical perspective on your
situation, then maybe you can let us know a bit more about thoughts in
this regard.
Again, how can we best help you?
pafalafa-ga
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Clarification of Question by
frank1328-ga
on
08 Mar 2005 11:32 PST
I have an erection with the blue pill that is not great but enough to
get the job done. Problem is that nothing happens. No orgasm. Yes, I
have had the problem for a few years. Many years ago I hurt my back
and I noticed that ever since it took me longer to have an organism.
That was OK. It keep taking longer over the years,until it no longer
happened. Could it be something with the injury to the spinal cord,and
if so is there anything that I can do to fix it?
Come on give me some help, I don't want my hundred dollars back..
Frank
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Request for Question Clarification by
pafalafa-ga
on
08 Mar 2005 11:51 PST
Frank,
I'm looking!
I did find this little bit, but I'm afraid it's not offering any particular help:
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http://www.helpingdoctors.com/
Dear Dr.,
My husband is having trouble having an orgasm. He is able to get and
maintain an erection but he has not had an orgasm. Is there a
problem? or reason? He is over 50.
As men age, the amount of prostatic fluid in the prostate, and sperm
in its nutrient plasma in the testicles, decrease. It is the
expulsion of these fluids as they accumulate in the urethra of the
penis that provides the orgasmic sensation. Even though the sexual
drive of the man may remain high, if the volume of the accumulated
fluids is too low to cause pressure inside the penis, there is no
expulsion and no orgasm. Diseases such as diabetes and many
medications such as some anti-hypertensive drugs can decrease the
volume. It is suggested that your husband have a complete physical
examination and a discussion with his doctor to rule out all of these
causes. It is doubtful that psychological problems or stress have any
significant effect on volume, although they can be responsible for
lack of libido and failure to obtain the erection.
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I'll let you know if I come up with anything else a bit more promising.
paf
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Request for Question Clarification by
pafalafa-ga
on
08 Mar 2005 12:31 PST
Frank,
One other thing. Can you say a few a words about your overall
lifestyle? What level of physical activities are you engaged in? How
would you categorize your weight? Your overall health? Any bad
habits like smoking, drinking, illicit drugs?
I know I'm asking for a lot of information to post in a public forum,
but heck, it seems to me you've already crossed the Rubicon on that
one.
Let me know what you can...
paf
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Clarification of Question by
frank1328-ga
on
09 Mar 2005 08:41 PST
Hi Paf:
My health is very good, weight same as 50 years ago. I do take high
blood presssure pills (hytrin)( proscar)and I get enough exercise.
Don't smoke now, and never did, occasional glass of wine.
Frank
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Request for Question Clarification by
pafalafa-ga
on
09 Mar 2005 09:04 PST
Thanks for getting back to me, Frank.
You sound like someone who takes -- and has taken -- good care of
himself. Please continue to do so, and refrain from some of the
whackier promises circulating on the internet and via e-mail that
promise to do wonders for your orgasmic powers...there's no reason to
suppose any of these really work, and some of them may well do harm.
The best source of information I found regarding your question is the
medical research article linked to below, "Sexual Function in Men
Older Than 50 Years of Age".
In a nutshell, it says that the majority of men over 80 have
difficulty achieving orgasm, and only a small percentage report that
they still have a good, satisfying experience in this regard.
How might you be one of the lucky ones in that smaller group? There
is a strong link between general health and sexual satisfaction in
older men -- keeping your weight down, exercising, and eating right
all help quite a bit. But as it seems you're doing these things
already, I'm not sure there's anything else anyone can add in the way
of advice.
From what I've seen in my research on this, after a while a man's body
simply stops making the fluids needed for an ejaculation, and loses
the ability to orgasm.
To put it plainly, you may simply have to accept your current
limitations as part of growing older.
I wish I could tell you there was a pill or herb or exercise or diet
or something else to remedy the situation, but I simply haven't found
anything that leads me to suppose such a remedy exists (which is a
shame, of course, as I'll be there myself one day!).
I haven't posted this information as an answer, as I really haven't
given you the type of answer I know you were hoping for.
However, if there's something here that sparks your interest or that
you'd like to know more about, please let me know. I'll be happy to
do additional research if it will help you understand your options,
and help me post a formal answer to your question.
Let me know what you think....and all the best to you and your lady.
pafalafa-ga
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[Here's the research article I mentioned, along with some excerpts]
http://www.annals.org/cgi/gca?gca=139%2F3%2F161&sendit.x=56&sendit.y=6
Sexual Function in Men Older Than 50 Years of Age: Results from the
Health Professionals Follow-up Study
Results:
...Many aspects of sexual function (including overall function,
desire, orgasm, and overall ability) decreased sharply by decade after
50 years of age.
...Smoking, alcohol consumption, and television viewing time were also
associated with increased prevalence of erectile dysfunction. Men who
had no chronic medical conditions and engaged in healthy behaviors had
the lowest prevalence.
...Conclusions: Several modifiable health behaviors were associated
with maintenance of good erectile function, even after comorbid
conditions were considered. Lifestyle factors most strongly associated
with erectile dysfunction were physical activity and leanness.
Editors' Notes
Among 31 742 male health care professionals, 74% younger than 59 years
of age and 10% older than 80 years of age rated sexual function as
good or very good. Moderate or big problems were identified by 12%,
22%, and 30% of those younger than 59 years of age, 60 to 69 years of
age, and older than 69 years of age, respectively. Increasing age
after age 50 years, inactive lifestyle, obesity, and multiple medical
conditions and medications were associated with worse function.
The full article is available here:
http://www.annals.org/cgi/reprint/139/3/161.pdf
Table 2 of the article summarizes the data on sexual function in men
according to age. Only 15% of men over the age of 80 rated their
ability to reach orgasm as "Good" or "Very good". Conversely, 55% of
the over-80-year-olds rated their ability as "Very poor" or "Poor".
HOWEVER, if you take a look at the graph labeled "Reported prevalence
of erectile dysfunction..." (page 165) you can see that there is a
huge difference in older men in the number of problems reported for
men with what the study calls "risk factors" vs older men with "no
risk factors" -- the difference is quite striking.
Again, let me know if there's anything else I can do for you.
paf
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