i get emails with this kind of return address for instance
patti@youwantme.info or gail@youwantmedotinfo i dont know what site
this is from or if its a dating site cant figure it out

It's just spam from a porn site. I checked the owner of the domain
"youwantme.info", and I found out that it is one Harry Bush, 1844 Nob
Hill Road in Plantation, Florida. Several porn spams come from domains
owned by this person.

Scriptor

Yeah, it's a hard and long race you'll never win. There's no pulling
out. They sucked you off of search engines using automatic email
grabbers. It's a point of no return since they disable MMX records,
and you can't spam them back. Sometimes you just can't get it off of
their lists.

The best thing you can do to fix this though is to get a g-mail
account. The spam filters are incredibly relyable. I will give you an
invite if you'd like, I have a ton.

If you're worried about converting from your old e-mail, it's quite
easy to set up  your old account to forward into gmail. Gmail has POP
access also.