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Q: Suicide ( Answered 5 out of 5 stars,   1 Comment )
Subject: Suicide
Category: Miscellaneous
Asked by: rai130-ga
List Price: $5.00
Posted: 28 Apr 2005 02:27 PDT
Expires: 28 May 2005 02:27 PDT
Question ID: 515287
Can anyone please suggest a book for relatives of someone who commited
suicide / attempted suicide? If possible could it be UK based and not
too psycho-babble / new-age type (if that makes sense). Thanks.
Subject: Re: Suicide
Answered By: djbaker-ga on 28 Apr 2005 05:30 PDT
Rated:5 out of 5 stars
Good Morning,
First let me start out by saying that if this question is grounded in
reality and is not the product of curiosity then I am very sorry for
your loss.  I have found a number of highly rated titles which help
the relatives of loved ones cope with the loss.

One a personal note I recommend the first book on the list.  After my
mother's sister took her own life my mom read everything she could get
her hands on for a little while.  Of all the books she got this one
seemed to touch her and help her the most.

No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One
Written by Carla Fine

" In this book, Carla Fine assembled stories of many suicide survivors
she'd interviewed, and shared her own story of losing her husband to
suicide. The book is most useful if you feel "blocked" from talking
about the trauma of losing someone you love to suicide. You'll feel
some relief that you're not alone. You'll also find this book useful
if you don't have anyone to talk to about the experience (if you
living in an isolated rural area, for instance)."

"I have only read half of Carla Fine's book. When I first began, I
could not get enough of the experiences - so vivid and heart-felt. My
father, at 84 years of age, shot himself on June 9, 1998. I miss him!
My grief is unlike anything I have ever known. While I searched and
read as much as I could get my hands on initially, I now find myself
in and out of wanting to read material. When I did want to read about
this extreme sense of loss, I turned to Carla's book. It caught my
attention while I browsed in the bookstore. It, among the other books
on suicide, was most humanist and real. I bought it. I would highly
recommend it to suicide survivors. I WILL finish reading it when my
heart and mind are ready. Thank you, Carla, for sharing yourself."

"I lost my fiance in 2001, and now, in 2003, continue to try to make
sense of it all. The most comforting day since, was a day in August,
of 2002, when I came across this book of Carla's. I read it - cover to
cover - in a day. It was, quite possibly, the only time in 14 months,
that I have felt someone else REALLY knew how crippling and
debilitating the aftermath of suicide can be. Thank you, over and
over, Carla!"


Grandma's party: Practical Ways to Help Children Be Part of the
Grieving Process When a Loved One Dies

Written by Meg Harper

"Polly is preparing for a very special party. There's a lot to do and
everyone is very busy. But no one is too busy to share special
memories with Polly, memories of of her grandma whom everyone loved.
Polly too has made something that holds memories for gran, and as she
hugs grandad very hard, she is ready to say goodbye in her very own
way. This gentle and sensitive story is followed by a practical
activity section with ideas for ways in which children can help
prepare for the gathering which takes place after the funeral, and for
the funeral itself. They are also encouraged to express their feelings
positively in the time that follows. Activities include: cookery;
calligraphy; paper crafts; collage; using flowers and creative
writing. Photocopy permission is included on all craft activities.
Including the Christian message of hope in a positive and
non-threatening way, this book enables adults to include children the
grieving process."


Survivors of Suicide
Written by Rita Robinson

"As the cover says "You need this book:" * If you have lost someone
through suicide. * If someone you know has tried to kill themselves. *
If you have conteplated suicide. * If a friend, relative or
acquaintaince is a survivor of suicide. * If you are a counselor,
clergyperson or health professional. * If you want to know more. I
lost my Father to suicide last year and this book was luckily
recommended to my Mother. It has been an invaluable help to our family
in coming to terms with his suicide and understanding that we may
never know the complete truth as to why he did it."


Healing After the Suicide of a Relative
Written by Ann Smolin

"This book provides similar stories from other survivors of suicide,
which enables the new reader to identify with the same feelings and
emotions. Losing a loved one to suicide is the most gut-wrenching pain
any one could ever experience, and this book addresses those feelings,
emotions, and struggles that the survivors are left to face after the
loss of a loved one. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who
has lost a loved one to suicide......"


I hope these are what you are looking for.  If you have any questions
or need anything cleared up please request a clarification before
rating my answer and I will be more then happy to help.

rai130-ga rated this answer:5 out of 5 stars
Thank you very much... quick and accurate as always.

Subject: Re: Suicide
From: frde-ga on 28 Apr 2005 04:55 PDT
If I think what you are talking about is correct
- ie: the earlier problem

Then condolences
Also, be aware that Gurgle is forever
- what you post here will be archived and turn up in future searches

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