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Subject: Wedding Traditions
Category: Family and Home > Families
Asked by: dback-ga
List Price: $10.00
Posted: 06 Jul 2005 18:32 PDT
Expires: 05 Aug 2005 18:32 PDT
Question ID: 540745
If a bride is larger than the groom, is it now socially acceptable for
the bride to carry the groom over the threshold???
Subject: Re: Wedding Traditions
Answered By: crabcakes-ga on 10 Jul 2005 17:17 PDT
Hello Dback (Are you from Phoenix?),

    I'm no Emily Crabcakes, or Miss Crabcakes Manners, but....  Since
wedding traditions change with the passing of time, why NOT have the
bride carry you?  If that is what both of you want, go for it! Today,
brides marry in non-traditional gowns, have chocolate wedding cake,
and have birdseed thrown or bubbles blown instead of tossing rice.
Some couples smash cake into each other's faces, which is certainly
not a longstanding or cultured tradition! You can make your own
traditions! Its your wedding... do it as you please! I've not heard of
a single bride being carried away by nefarious beings lurking under
the threshold!

But wait! Why be carried at all? If you consider that each partner is
as equal and valuable as the other, why not step over the threshold
together? Or ride in a flower and ribbon adorned wheelbarrow, wagon,
dollies, or pushcart, sipping champagne, pushed by the best man and
maid of honor? (Make sure the wheelbarrow fits through the door prior
to the 'threshold' day!) Perhaps one the electric driveable scooters,
with you on your bride's lap? In this way, nether of you falls,
stumbles, or touches the threshold, thus escaping evil spirits and bad

How about one of those small garden bridges you find at large hardware
stores? Decorate the bridge with flowers, place over the threshold,
and walk across together! I especially like the idea of walking in
together, to indicate you are equally responsible for maintaining the
marriage. (My husband and I walked down the aisle together, as I hated
the idea of being 'given away' like property!)

I'm assuming you mean the threshold of your home, and not a resort on
hotel, as the above ideas may be difficult to arrange away from home -
you'd probably need the help of friends. While at the hotel/resort,
let your bride carry you!

"Break some rules. Sneak out and see your fiancÚ the night before your
wedding. Burn the list of your former psycho boyfriends at your
bachelorette party. Flaunt your personality and infuse stuffy wedding
traditions with your own flair."

What's the Craziest Thing You've Seen a Bride Do?
"Bride carrying the groom over the threshhold for the "good bye" shot.
(I actually got published in a wedding magazine for that one)"

"The customs we practice today were once brand new ideas. So as you
plan for your wedding, you may want to create new family traditions
and customs to be handed down to your children and their children."

About the tradition of the groom carrying the bride over the threshold:

The 'I Do, I Do' website says the following about the tradition:

Carrying the Bride Over the Threshold: Why does the groom carry the
bride over the threshold? There seems to be 2 explanations for this
tradition of the groom carrying his bride over the threshold when
entering their home as a married couple for the first time. The first
is to protect the bride from evil spirits that were thought to be
lying in wait under the threshold. The second explanation relates to
the Roman times when it was believed that if the bride stumbled when
entering the newlywed's home for the first time, it would bring bad
luck and harm to their marriage. So carrying the bride across the
threshold prevents this from happening. But we couldn't find anything
about what happens if the groom stumbles or falls while carrying the
bride. Uh oh!

Lifetime Images says;
"After the wedding the bride must enter the new marital home through
the main entrance. It is traditional for the groom to carry the bride
over the threshold when they enter for the first time. The reason for
this is uncertain. One explanation is that the bride will be visited
by bad luck if she falls when entering. An alternative is that the
bride will be unlucky if she steps into the new home with the left
foot first. The bride can avoid both mishaps by being carried. A third
explanation is that it symbolises the old Anglo-Saxon custom of the
groom stealing his bride and carrying her off."

According to Dating Matchmakers, the custom of carrying the bride over
the threshold was:

		To protect the bride from evil spirits that were thought to be lying
in wait under the threshold.

		During Roman times it was believed that if the bride stumbled when
entering the newlywed's home for the first time, it would bring bad
luck and harm to their marriage. Carrying the bride across the
threshold was thought to prevent this from happening.

		Tradition dictates the new wife must enter her home by the main door
and, to avoid bad luck, she must never trip or fall--hence the custom
that a bride should be carried over the threshold.

		One belief of carrying the bride over the threshold stems from the
same belief that aroused the idea of the runway carpet and strewing
the aisle with flowers and petals. It was an ancient belief that the
newly married couple was very susceptible to evil spirits. A
protective layer between the bride and the ground were provided by
carrying her, and thus protecting her from the "ground monster".

Congratulations! Relax and enjoy your special day! Eat, drink, and be carried!

Sincerely, Crabcakes

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