I've had a wonderful time on a first and second date. My date is an
extraordinary person and a perfect gentleman. Is there a first date
etiquette rule for sending a Thank You Card? He seems like the kind of
guy that would love a small note and other such effects. I was
thinking, "Thank you for a wonderful time so far. Looking forward to
getting to know you better..." What do you think? Please give me your
feedback. Does a TY Card seem like a "final notice"? Does it interrupt
his pursuit? Does it align with "The Rules"? Sincerely, A Cute
California Girl

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Clarification of Question by jodygold-ga on 01 Aug 2005 10:00 PDT

I think you will appreciate what happened in this situation. I was
torn by all the different opinions, and while I agreed that a note was
too formal, I knew that he would appreciate my gesture. So I
compromised. I wrote in the note: "While 9 out of ten people on
Answers.Google.com said that a 'Thank You for a wonderful time so far'
was 'too formal', I knew that you would appreciate the gesture in good
humor. So for a chuckle, here it is! Smile and have a great day!"

I presented it to him with a preface about all of your Comments, and
he had a good laugh. He loved the note and my careful research about
it. I gave it to him on our third date. It was well-received in this
manner.

Jody

I haven't been in the dating scene for many years, but I suspect that
many men might view a formal thank you card as a sign that a woman is
a bit over-eager.

On the contrary, and even though I am in the equal stance of having been
out of the dating scene for over 25 years, if you suspect your fellow is
the type that would appreciate the sentiment, sending a simple "Thank You"
note as you describe would be a nice touch.

This probably contrary to "The Rules," but you are probably a bit of a
romantic, just as I am, and I know I would have been touched by such a
gesture.

Besides, this would be a great test to see if this guy is the "sensitive"
type, which looks like the kind of man to which you are attracted.

I once sent a woman an 8" x 10" cartoon of Little Red Riding Hood
approaching the Big Bad Wolf.  She called to ask me about it, but I
was too busy to talk.  She then asked me out on a date to interrogate
me about the cartoon.
  
ron

P.S.   Later, she huffed and she puffed and she blew my house down...

Hi there....

When I first started dating my man ( now together over a yr and still
luvin' it ), I sent him a short e-mail thanking him for the wonderfull
time I had on our first date.

I see nothing wrong with thanking someone. Most men don't hear enough
thank you' from ladies, IMHO.

To this day, when my man and I part after a yet another wonderful
weekend together, he thanks me and I thank him :)
In doing this, I feel we both express each other's enjoyment of being together.

Steph53

See http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=547428

Jody,

Do you happen to be an American? Intrigued.

Phil

sure, I see no harm in it.