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Q: Kissing Relatives On The Lips ( No Answer,   3 Comments )
Subject: Kissing Relatives On The Lips
Category: Relationships and Society > Cultures
Asked by: jodygold-ga
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Posted: 24 Aug 2005 12:33 PDT
Expires: 23 Sep 2005 12:33 PDT
Question ID: 559862
At a recent family wedding, I noticed that in our family, we greet
each other with a kiss directly on the lips. Someone told me that was
wierd, like when I gave my uncle a smooch on the mouth goodbye. It's
normal in our family, is it normal anywhere else?

Then today at a coffee shop, I saw my friend. We also smacked lips. My
coffee mates thought that was wierd. But it's normal where I come
from, and the guy didn't mind.

Of course I am careful to look for lip sores and other hints of germs
as I wouldn't want to get something from that.

Am I wierd?
There is no answer at this time.

Subject: Re: Kissing Relatives On The Lips
From: zodiacman-ga on 24 Aug 2005 14:58 PDT
dear JodyGold-GA...
Your msg neglects to tell us a few more vitals... whether you are Male
or Female, young or old, Married, Single, or Divorced... and what
culture you
hail from... and what culture you live in now... 
I think a more central matter is what's inside your Heart when you
kiss a person on the Lips, and is such a kiss going to cause and/or
lead  the other person to commit sin in their life OR in their Heart.
If your own heart-motive and heart-attitude is not pure and good when
you do this, then you shouldnt do it, even if its OK in your culture. 
Also, if you go against your own conscience when you do this, thats no
good either. Or, if you lead the other person to go against their own
conscience, to accomodate this practice, thats no good either. Also,
if the other person's Heart-motive and heart-attitude is not pure and
good, when they do this, that's no good.  But, you do have to know the
other person somewhat even to approximate whats in their heart.
   I know that in some cultures, for example, South American, its OK
to give a "peck on the cheek", for example, on a date.  Other cultures
might be more restrictive.
   For example, in the part of the country I live in, the Deep South,
a nice firm handshake with the fellows, and somewhat more polite
handshake with the ladies is the most common form of greeting. In some
churches, they accecpt, and even encourage affectionate hugs. In my
family, we usually do both hugs and handshakes.
  But if you are from a different culture, and the persons you kiss
are from the same culture, and its OK in that culture, then thats the
norm. Assuming, again, that your heart is right......... and that you
are not wanting, planning., or thinking about doing something that
would lead the other person down a wrong path into immorality.....
Hope that helps...
Subject: Re: Kissing Relatives On The Lips
From: nelson-ga on 24 Aug 2005 15:46 PDT
Depends on your culture.  Your user name sounds either WASPish or
Jewish-American.  If this is the case, then, yes, it is weird to kiss
on the lips without sexual or intimate intention.
Subject: Re: Kissing Relatives On The Lips
From: cynthia-ga on 24 Aug 2005 17:04 PDT

You're not weird. I don't believe that it matters whether you're male
or female, young or old, married, single, divorced, widowed, whatever.
Possibly your culture would matter, but the fact of the matter is, in
your case, you were raised that way, so in your culture it's ok. Maybe
not everyone does it, but in the same vein, there are families that

My family is the same as yours, we greet each other with a kiss (on
the lips) --and a hug. I never knew anyone might think it's weird
until I read your question!

Relax. You're perfectly normal.

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