There are innumerable support groups for people in relationship
with those who have the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder
(BPD), even if those people have not been formally diagnosed. The
same holds true for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Happily, Google's system of page ranking tends to promote sites
which are the most popular and well-used to the top of the search
results, so just picking the top entries from searches for such
groups tends to produce the most useful list.
The top listing for BPD is bpd411.org:
"BPD411.org is an Internet -based information service and
support group. Our purpose is to provide a safe environment
for the education, healing and recovery of persons who are
in a relationship with someone who exhibits traits of
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Being involved with
someone with BPD traits is disorienting, painful and often
Our top priority is safety within the community and safety
in your personal life."
"Our second priority is to assist you in your personal
Much more on the page:
They have a page outlining the symptoms of someone with BPD,
based on the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental
And here they have an annotated version to help explain the
terminology used in the DSM-IV:
The Yahoo Directory has a whole page of links to support
groups centering on BPD. Some of these are offering support
for those diagnosed with BPD, and others are for those in
relationship with them:
Another great resource is Helen's World of BPD resources.
The following page is a directory of Online Support for NonBPs,
and she also has one for BPs, linked from this page:
Here's a very comprehensive resource site called BPD Central
which offers numerous possibilities, from books and CDs to
links to email lists, stories, and message boards such as
The list is almost endless, and you can find more of the
same types of resources by exploring the search results
I link to at the end of this question.
One of the most effective forms of therapy for those with
BPD is known as Dialectical Behavioral Training, or DBT,
which was developed by Marsha Linehan in 1991.
Even if the people with BPD cannot be convinced to take
the training, an understanding of the principles utilized
can be of considerable help to those who interact with them.
DBT resource sites:
A site identified only as Llama Central:
Here's a list of skills developed by the training:
"An Overview of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy in the
Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder"
From Psychiatry On-line:
Here's a very useful site called DBT Self-Help which
was authored by people who have taken DBT training
and aimed at refining and enhancing the skills:
A similar set of resources exists for those dealing with
people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
Here's a very comprehensive one from Suite101.com:
The Narcissism Discussion and Support Group:
The NPD message board and discussion group at Yahoo:
PsychForums.com has a huge number of forums devoted
to dealing with disorders of all kinds:
Here's their forum for NPD:
I've attempted to weed through the resources and provide
links to the best and most comprehensive. Once you start
exploring them, I'm sure you'll find your way to the
best resources for your specific situation.
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Additional information may be found from an exploration of
the links resulting from the Google searches outlined below.
Searches done, via Google:
"borderline personality disorder" OR BPD "support group"
"narcissistic personality disorder" OR NPD "support group"