Dear xemion-ga;
Thank you for allowing me to answer your interesting question. I gave
your question quite a bit of thought and, with the help of some
supporting lists, added my own thought to make a list of, not 50, but
ONE HUNDRED REASONS not to get married. Personally, I enjoy marriage
and prefer it to being single, but believe me (having been married a
long time myself) the majority of problematic things are most
frequently minor issues. Since you are asking for opinion about
reasons not to get married, here?s the list I managed to come up with
that might fit some people?s views. While some of them may seem merely
humorous, they are all actually quite practical when you think about
it:
?When you?re single...?
1.You get the whole couch to yourself.
2.There's half as much housework, cooking, and cleaning to do.
3.You can watch whatever TV channel you like, without arguments.
4.You can get home from work at whatever time you like.
5.You get to eat the whole ?meal for two? by yourself.
6.There are fewer important birthdays (spouse, kids, spouse?s parents,
etc) and no anniversaries to accidentally forget.
7.Without a spouse you have can still have a decent social life in your 30s.
8.You don't keep catching every sniffle, cold and flu bug that your
spouse brings home.
9.You don?t have to live halfway between your workplace and your
spouse?s workplace.
10.Once you?re married most of your friends will also be married, and
coincidentally (like you, if you marry) they will mostly be staying
home with their own spouse?s instead of hanging out with you.
11.You can lie in bed in the morning for as long as you like.
12.Nobody sees what you look like first thing in the morning.
13.No soap operas (of sports shows, depending on male vs. female perhaps)
14.You can throw your dirty socks on the floor where they belong.
15.There?s no pressure to make the bed in the morning
16.You don?t have to worry about what the bathroom smells like when
you walk out of it.
17.You know where the bar of soap has been
18.You don?t have to put out Christmas lights if you don?t want to
19.When you?re single the lawn looks a lot better when the grass is longer
20.No one snores
21.Folding clothes??.No thank you
22.There?s no fight for remote control ownership.
23.Smelly socks and skiddy underwear are not that big of an issue when
you?re only washing your own.
24.On your way out you know that you?re shoes are right where you took
them off yesterday.
25.We can stay in the shower as long as we want and don?t have to
worry about conserving hot water for a spouse (or kids).
26.You can do laundry ? or not.
27.You don't have to shave if you don?t want to.
28.You don?t have to share your razor with anyone
29.You don't have to buy Valentines/birthday/Mother's day cards.
30.You won?t have anyone saying 'you're not going to wear that, are you?'
31.If your married and no fashion sense your spouse thinks you?re a
moron. If you?re single and have no fashion sense people think you are
eccentric.
32.Burning the food is not a big deal.
33.You?re not as accountable to anyone - if I want to do something, I just do it!
34.If you mess up your finances you have no one to blame but yourself.
35.You ALWAYS know EXACTLY how much is in your checking account.
36.You get the whole bed to yourself.
37.You can watch a late show on the bedroom TV and no one complains.
38.There are no unexplainable moods to contend with.
39.You have much more freedom to choose.
40.If there?s dribble on your pillow you know where it came from.
41.You never have to say where you've been or what you've been doing.
42.There?s no curfew.
43.You never have to hide anything in your shopping cart under other stuff.
44.You can spend all you want or all you have ? it doesn?t matter.
45.You never have to worry about saying what you think, or having to
pretend you?re thinking something that you?re not.
46.You can be rude if that?s in you?re nature.
47.You can eat what YOU want.
48.You can join a gym because you want to, not because your spouse is
embarrassed by the way you look.
49.If you get fired from work you?re not considered a loser ? just unemployed.
50.You can have friends over who behave outrageously whenever you want.
51.You don't have to worry about what sort of food to buy and you can
eat whatever you want, whenever you choose.
52.You can surf the internet till you?re eyes fall out if you want to.
53.You can listen to your favorite tunes in the house or in the car
and no one fiddles with the station or complains about your taste in
music.
54.You can spend all night on the phone without having to justify it.
55.You can go to bed when you please ? or not.
56.You can read all night if you want to.
57.No one criticizes the condition of your car or expects you to wash it.
58.There's plenty of space in the closet.
59.You don't have to pretend that you?re interested in what happened
to your spouse at work today.
60.When you?re single there is a LOT less drama in your life!
61.You can make a mess ? and leave it that way.
62.You can drink wine out of a bottle or milk right out of the jug
whenever you like.
63.You don't have to write cards on anyone?s behalf for birthdays or Christmas.
64.You don?t have to excuse your behavior to a spouse.
65.You can pass gas at will.
66.When you?re single your opinion is always the best opinion.
67.You never have disagreements with what a spouse when you?re single.
68.When you?re single you can enjoy great performances of gay
musicians and actors without getting that ?eye-rolling? thing from
your spouse.
69.You don't have to listen to your spouse pant every time their
favorite actor or musician comes on the television.
70.When you?re single you can flush ? or not.
71.You can put the lid up or put the lid down ? it?s up to you.
Whatever you did last is exactly how it will be when you return next
time ? just the way you like it.
72.Dragon breath in the morning is no big deal when you?re single.
73.If you?re single you can eat right out of the refrigerator and no one cares.
74.You don?t have to share ANYTHING with ANYONE.
75.No in-laws (this one speaks for itself)
76.Las Vegas is back on the list of vacation considerations.
77.Grow your nails, cut your nails ? it doesn?t matter.
78.Pajamas or not ? doesn?t matter.
79.Sweatpants and baggy shirt ? no one cares.
80.The best parking spot is ALWAYS yours for the taking.
81.Cooking your own meals never ceases to be an adventure, and never
starts becoming punishment.
82.You can actually tell the bartender, "If anyone calls asking for me
tell them I'm HERE baby!"
83.When you?re single you can paint the town instead of the house.
84.When you get home after work, you don't have to start work again.
85.You can tell people you?re single and not have to lie about it.
86.You?ll never have to trade your interest in miniskirts for minivans.
87.You?ll save about $400,000 in grocery bills alone over the next 20
years if you stay single.
88.College? You didn?t pay for yours so why would you volunteer to pay
for someone else?s?
89.When you?re single you get to keep ALL the money.
90.When you?re single you get to hold the actual credit card and not just the bill.
91.If you are so inclined you can see a different face when you wake
up in the morning, every day of the week!
92.When you?re single going to a strip club doesn't have to be a covert mission.
93.You can come home drunk and not have to pretend you?re sober.
94.You can use your own name at hotels.
95.When you?re single you can tell the person criticizing your driving
to ?get out!?
96.When asked for their opinion, a single person can say "Yeah?you ARE fat!".
97.When you?re single you can lick the spoon and keep on stirring like
nothing happened.
98.When you?re single you never miss all the things you used to be
able to do before you got married.
99.Married people with gray hair are thought of as old and tired, but
single people with gray hair are considered wise and distinguished.
100.Finally, when you?re single you can enjoy the silence any time you want
I hope you find that my One Hundred Reasons exceeds your expectations.
If you have any questions about my research please post a
clarification request prior to rating the answer. Otherwise I welcome
your rating and your final comments and I look forward to working with
you again in the near future. Thank you for bringing your question to
us.
Best regards;
Tutuzdad-ga ? Google Answers Researcher
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TOP 10 REASONS TO BE SINGLE
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6 FINANCIAL BENEFITS OF STAYING SINGLE
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Clarification of Answer by
tutuzdad-ga
on
29 Nov 2005 14:34 PST
Here are a few more serious supporting notions for remaining single:
Married life, as with any life-long commitment, is a difficult
commitment even in the best of circumstances. In terms of issues to
be dealt with in a marriage (bills, children, society, etc) on days
when it rains ? it pours. On days when it doesn?t rain ? there?s
always a chance of rain.
If you don?t work well with people who have ?issues? single life may
be remain the best option for you ? at least for now. Almost everyone
has baggage in a relationship and it?s never completely stored away.
In a single life you aren't responsible for another's careless
behavior. Let?s face it, spouses sometimes do nutty things and if
you?re not married you don?t have to be confronted with someone else?s
alcoholism, phobias, obsessions, and so on.
If you?re not fully prepared to be the primary caretaker of a
seriously ill spouse or child, remaining single is again a good option
for you. Hundreds of thousands of people each year find themselves in
these conditions. Eventually, if you live long enough in a marriage,
you WILL most likely be required to assume this bitter responsibility.
Think about it.
Along that same line, as a spouse you must CONSTANTLY be concerned for
your spouse?s health and welfare. Are they overweight, are they
emotionally and mentally stable, are they smoking, drinking or
behaving recklessly. These issues will impact your future goals so you
have to stay on top of them. Likewise your spouse will also hound you
about them if necessary. If you are not willing to accept that you
might be better of remaining single.
Monogamy might be another issue of interest. If you are not FULLY
prepared to keep the love at home then you?re probably not a good
candidate in the mainstream marriage world.
Divorce: Face it ? about half the marriages today end in divorce. At
best the deal is statistically equivalent to a 50-50 proposition and
if you are not willing to take that general risk, don?t.
There may be some unofficially recognized beneficial health issues
where singularity is concerned:
HEALTH BENEFITS OF BEING SINGLE
http://www.ajc.com/blogs/content/shared-blogs/ajc/dating/entries/2004/11/04/health_benefits.html
In one survey 82 per cent of singles surveyed said that being single
gave them ?an opportunity to try new life experiences? and 89 per cent
said that traveling alone ?boosted their confidence? and allowed them
to be more spontaneous and adventurous. 83 per cent also said that
having a good career was more important for single people than those
who were married or cohabiting and that this too boosted their
confidence.
TEMPORARY BENEFITS OF BEING SINGLE
http://www.adamsweb.us/blog/index.php/a/2005/08/03/temporary_benefits_of_being_single
Singles may have a greater sense of self-knowledge or the freedom to
explore their own values, dreams, goals, and spirituality than their
married counterparts of the same age.
Being single is not the ?weird? thing that it used to be. The stigma
of turning 30 years old and still being unmarried is not as
significant as it once was. In other words, there?s not nearly as much
pressure to marry because it is merely expected as a culturally
recognized obligation.
As a person mature they often start to realize the benefits of being
single. This is not meant to be a disparaging comment against
marriage. What I mean is that a mature person, who is single, realizes
in a mature way the significance of the freedom of singleness and many
people who choose that life live fulfilling and rewarding lives as
single mature adults.
A single person can travel more lightly and less expensively. A single
person can also live much more cheaply and can also move easier if
moving residences becomes necessary.
Single people often have more time to devote to their extended
families, friends, churches, or other organizations that married
people simply cannot devote as much time to.
If you?re single and you get tired of it you can always get married
and the world has a party. If you?re married and you get tired of it,
well then it becomes an enormous issue of broken vows, commitments,
children, support, alimony, property, and on, and on, and you're lucky
if you come out of it without getting financially and morally stoned
to death.
Tutuzdad-ga
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