I am not an expert on this topic. But, I suspect the male audience for
a mastectomy "survivor's" dating service might be limited, just as any
similar specialized organization would be.
My personal suggestion if one of my daughter's asked me this question,
is use a regular dating service.
If your personality is good enough, this will not keep you from
finding a mate, IMO. This will of course depend upon the age bracket
of men you are seeking, 20 year old males are awfully immature in many
ways.
I am in my early 60's, and if I were single, for the right woman I
would have no problem with minor body problems. Am I the only such
man? I doubt it, and you only need one.
The real question is whether to announce your mastectomy in your
original posting, or when? I would tend to recommend to keep it to
yourself until and if you develop a suitable relationship with a man.
You could tell him right away you have a minor physical defect which
does not affect your daily activities, and wait until later to
explain.
My viewpoint on this is based on the difficulty both men and women are
having terrible problems finding someone suitable today, and if you
are perfect except for mastectomy, a good man won't care. If you have
other baggage, then that is the problem, much bigger than a
mastectomy.
As a former counselor for divorced fathers, I have been asked over the
years by several mature women how to find a man. I ask them what kind
of man they want, and where they have been looking. Twice divorced,
sour and obese women near 50 always seem to want a successful business
man, and usually look in bars. Sigh.
I tell them to find an activity such as volunteer work at the
Community Theater, and forget about looking for a man. Their
volunteer work and their enthusiasm will be somewhat more attractive
to a mature man than hanging around bars.
This is only one example. The point is to make yourself attractive by
what you are doing, rather than by clothes and/or cosmetics. For
example, a woman in South eastern Iowa, where they have the Old
Threshers' Reunion, might meet a suitable man while working on an old
steam engine, with coal dust on her nose, if she presents a pleasant
personality.
Men want peace, so you want to be pleasant and tranquil in my opinion.
If you are not, then you will have a problem.
Today, I see a lot of people finding friends, all ages and
nationalities, by chat rooms on the Internet, or even message boards.
Pick a mature and serious topic of interest to both men and women, not
the equivalent of a singles bar. Present your intelligence and your
personality and let things happen by themselves. And before you
physically meet a man, be frank about wanting to do a background check
of some sort. A Real Man won't mind. |
