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Etiquette varies depending on the tradition of the wedding. NET
WEDDING, which speaks about typical weddings in the UK lists the
tradition turn of events in this order:
?The father of the bride toasts the bride and groom and then goes on
to talk about his daughter.?
?The groom replies on behalf of himself and his wife (although more
and more brides are making their own speeches these days) and then
proposes a toast to the bridesmaids. He then goes on to thank those
people involved in helping them in the planning of the wedding and
distributes gifts to those who are to receive more than a verbal
'thank you'. The groom then goes on to talk about his new wife.?
?If the bride is to make a speech it should take place following the
groom's. It may seem obvious, but joint speeches should be
co-coordinated well beforehand since both will probably wish to say
much the same thing.?
?The best man's speech takes place now. He begins by replying on
behalf of the bridesmaids and then reads out telegrams, cards, e-mails
or other messages from friends and relatives who couldn't be at the
wedding. He will then go on to talk about the groom in what can be the
highlight - or in some cases lowlight - of the wedding speeches.?
In a more elaborate formal the traditional order of speeches are as follows:
-- The bride's father proposes a toast to the bride and groom.
-- The bride's father continues, with an insight into his daughter.
-- The groom then responds on behalf of his wife and himself. The
groom usually uses this opportunity to say 'My wife and I' for the
first time. This is usually followed by a round of applause from the
-- The groom thanks all those involved in the organising of the wedding.
-- The groom may wish to present his and the bride's mother with bouquets.
-- The groom thanks his attendants and presents them with his gifts.
-- The groom then speaks about his new wife.
-- The groom will then propose a toast to the bridesmaids.
-- After the groom has finished, the bride may wish to speak.
-- The best man responds on behalf of the bridesmaids.
-- The best man then announces any messages, telegrams or e-mails from absentees.
-- The best man then delivers his speech where he talks about the
groom, often including some amusing reflections and memories of the
On the FINE SPEECHES website, what appears to be the typical American
order and etiquette is described, suggesting that the proper speaking
Toastmaster (if there is one)
Father of the Bride
and the Bride (if she prefers to speak at all).
What is particularly informative on this site is also the typical
content of the announcements, toasts, welcomes and speeches:
?Wedding Speech Etiquette - know the rules so you can break them?
This of course depends on one?s preferences. Other acceptable orders
of etiquette are also practiced. THE FRUGAL BRIDE, for example lists a
variation of the above order depending perhaps on how ?wordy? you?d
like your event to be:
Best Man toasts the couple and the bridesmaids
Grace before dinner (optional)
Groom's parents toast the uniting of the two families
Bride's parents toast the couple
Maid of Honor toast the couple and the groomsmen
Groom toasts his wife, his groomsmen and both sides of parents
Bride toasts her husband, her bridesmaids and both sets of parents
This order however is not written in stone either and even the web
site, which says it has done some extensive research into the matter,
says, ?As for the proper order of speeches, we've looked at books and
websites, and everyone has a different order.?
In a typical Australian wedding (which tends to observe traditional
English tradition) the proper order is much the same:
Father of the Bride
So, having said that, after a round sampling or US, English and
Austrailian traditions, the general consensus on speech order
etiquette at weddings it seems is almost overwhelmingly in agreement
that, at a minimum, the Father of the Bride speaks first, followed by
the Groom or Bridegroom (in whichever order you prefer) and then the
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