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Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
Category: Family and Home Asked by: anonymussedhair-ga List Price: $5.00 |
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09 Dec 2005 18:12 PST
Expires: 08 Jan 2006 18:12 PST Question ID: 603900 |
My parents are in their late 60s and early 70s and live in a tiny, 1 bedroom apartment filled with furniture and items from their home of 40 years. It's very hard to think of what to get them for Christmas. Dad has no hobbies and is showing signs of alzheimers. Mom is an accomplished watercolor painter and sewer, but has no space in her appt to do either very often or without massively re-arranging the appt for the duration of the project. Their place is overflowing... so I have no idea whatsoever on what to get them (either the two of them together, or each one). My sister had a great idea and is getting them satellite radio. But, I can't think of anything... Mom: "Aunt Bea" from the Andy Griffith Show. Mushy and sentimental. Sweet lady. Really smart. A bit of a pack rat Great cook, great artist, great sewer, but no room to do any of these things Not very mobile due to bad knees. Involved in church. Gets no time alone. Dad: "Felix Unger" from the Odd Couple. Neurotic. Sarcastic humor. Can't stand anything out of place. Has to always be straightening up things. No hobbies, can't operate a remote control. Used to love to read, but struggles now. Kinda smart, but limited attention span due to Alzheimers. (Makes it hard for him to read, watch TV, etc.) 76 years old, so not very active other than general anxiety/pacing, but does try to walk and run at least one errand each day. Can you see why I'm having trouble? Yikes. Any good ideas out there? I do love them and want to give them something special. Budget is about $150 total... |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
Answered By: umiat-ga on 13 Dec 2005 21:31 PST |
Hello, anonymussedhair-ga! I am so happy that you like my suggestion! Thank you for accepting it as the "official" answer. I think your parents will be absolutely thrilled with your thoughtfulness and the pleasure of looking at many pictures they may not have seen in years. Here goes: One year I made a gift for my parents that they have never forgotten. I made several collages of photographs for each month of the year, and then took them to Kinko's to have the collages copied and made into a monthly calendar. January started with a collage of pictures including my parents marriage photograph, pictures of us as kids, etc. Then the months went on with marriage announcement of the children, grandchildren pictures, etc. My parents were absolutely thrilled because they hadn't seen the pictures in years, and each month they looked upon lots of wonderful memories! It didn't take long to make, and as long as you have extra copies of photographs, it's sorta fun to cut and arrange them. == Have fun making the calendar, and seeing the smiles on their faces as they "discover" each month! Merry Christmas - to you, and your parents! umiat |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: pinkfreud-ga on 09 Dec 2005 18:34 PST |
There are some beautiful tabletop fountains on the market. There's something very soothing and pleasant about a fountain. If this idea is appealing, you might want to browse through this site: http://www.simplyfountains.com/indoor-fountains/shop.cfm?N=2084+2086 |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: markvmd-ga on 09 Dec 2005 18:41 PST |
An oil of the family might be nice. You can get individul pictures and have the painter make one from them, or get everyone to sit for a photo and have that painted. |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: byrd-ga on 09 Dec 2005 20:05 PST |
What about one or a few audiobooks? You mentioned your mom is active in church - does your dad share her religious faith even if he's not active? The Bible is available as an audiobook, in several different translations, online, downloadable or on cd. Perhaps this is something they could enjoy together. Here are a few links: Free mp3 audio format - downloadable: http://www.audiotreasure.com/ Selection of online audio Bibles: http://www.biblegateway.com/resources/audio/ Variety of Bibles and religious books in various formats: http://www.simplyaudiobooks.com/processInterfaceAction.php?pId=130&gId=112 And perhaps just audiobooks in general might be of interest. If so, here's a more general link: http://www.audiobooks.com/ Good luck. I'm sure you'll find something suitable! Byrd-ga |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: nkamom-ga on 10 Dec 2005 05:45 PST |
Get them something they would buy themselves - something that is practical that doesn't take up space. We used to buy my grandparents a "goodie basket" every year filled with stuff like laundry detergent, toilet paper, coffee, oatmeal, soup, soap, shampoo, cleaners, paper towels, paper plates - anything goes. It saved them money, and was used up so no clutter. You could get a large laundry basket and fill it up with things from the dollar store. Another idea is to purchase them subscriptions - like maybe pick up the tab to the local paper, or some magazines they might enjoy. Along the same lines - for you mother maybe a selection of greeting cards and some stamps (remember the postal rate goes up in January - you can usually get the new ones before Christmas). From your description of her, I bet she likes to send cards. Contact their utility company and pay a bill for them. A little over you budget, but Discovery Store sells a really cool digital frame for $200. You can put some family photos on a memory card, stick it in and it runs a slide show. Hopefully the technology won't scare them off - I haven['t tried it, but it seems easy to run. Do they go out? Maybe tickets to a show, or some gift certificates to their favorite restaurant. Or a gift certificate to their pharmacy. |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: webravi-ga on 10 Dec 2005 08:08 PST |
Hello, I'm sure that you don't want to add to the clutter. Sattelite radio requires a subscription fee and unless they have a specific channel that they want and can't get now, it would be an expensive paper weight. If your father cannot manipulate a remote, a satradio will be worse. If you want, perhaps a tabletop easel for your mom. They're small and compact. But, probably the best gift for both of them is time. Really, hear me out. You mentioned clutter quite a bit. Perhaps helping them arrange their items to sell (e-bay, church rummage sales, garage sales, etc) or give away (relatives, church poverty baskets, salvation army, etc) would be a good idea. Most places will pick up a lot of items. You can get your father to help organise everything. Get him a nice big paper book and a great ergonomic pen and have him catalogue everything (by room or type or decade or whatever). Then, they can decide with you guys what to do with every item in the place. If your father is showing early onset, this mental and light physical activity is great. Also, early memories are strongest. Then arrange a give-away/sale/pick-up. The major cost will be your and your sister's time. You guys can help with researching some item values and perhaps take digital photos of all items (which can be framed later). The end result will be a healthier father, and an uncluttered apt to fill again with presents for the next 20 years (and give your mom some place to do her stuff, not to mention time alone as your father is occupied with this important task of removing clutter). webravi-ga |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: umiat-ga on 10 Dec 2005 09:12 PST |
One year I made a gift for my parents that they have never forgotten. I made several collages of photographs for each month of the year, and then took them to Kinko's to have the collages copied and made into a monthly calendar. January started with a collage of pictures including my parents marriage photograph, pictures of us as kids, etc. Then the months went on with marriage announcement of the children, grandchildren pictures, etc. My parents were absolutely thrilled because they hadn't seen the pictures in years, and each month they looked upon lots of wonderful memories! It didn't take long to make, and as long as you have extra copies of photographs, it's sorta fun to cut and arrange them. |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: myoarin-ga on 10 Dec 2005 10:08 PST |
Good and great suggestions. The calendar could also be works by grandchildren (assuming there are any), either made to fit or reduced by photocopying. If the overcrowded house has heirlooms, you could help them make a list (paper notebook) and tell them how much you and your sister would appreciate their recording what they know about the items: source, history, their recollections and remembrances related to each. (Even if they aren't valuable antiques, just items that you know have been around as long as you have.) This sounds like giving them work instead of a gift, but it could be an opportunity for them to cooperate on a project that has managable small parts, and would indicate your appreciation for their surroundings, those in which you grew up. Maybe you don't really, but that is not so important - maybe you will if it works, and you then do. It will also be good for Dad, and it will give you something to talk about on visits or on the phone and a way to show your continued interested in them and your home, now condensed in space. Might include Mom's or your favorite recipes of hers as "heirlooms". Yeah, kind of a backhanded gift, asking them to give you something, but your appreciation and interest is the real gift. It sounds like it is, just trying to find a way to be expressed. I hope so, regards, Myoarin |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: lordmichaels-ga on 12 Dec 2005 10:42 PST |
Since they are burried in clutter and obviously don't want to throw anything away, why don't you rent them some storage space and arrange to have all the clutter they don't actually need/use removed so they they can have some more space to move and collect more clutter. |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: anonymussedhair-ga on 13 Dec 2005 06:05 PST |
umiat-ga, your answer is the best fit for my parents. Please submit it as an answer so that I can pay you :-) pinkfreud - i love the idea of the fountain, but they have no place to put one. markvmd - we've done the family portrait concept recently (we're all accomplished painters, so we've done these in the past.) byrd - audio books is a good idea, and we've done that a lot in the past as well. Dad's attention span is short and he forgets the story lines in between listening sessions, so we aren't doing those any longer. (Mom loves to actually read the books herself.) nkamom - i love how pragmatic your idea is. My mom would consider it impersonal, however with the exception of the video frame, which is out of our budget webravi - my sister is getting them the radio. i'm sure mom will wind up working the remote. music soothes dad, so I do think it's a good gift. We used to live in a 4 story house. i'll spare you the details of how they wound up in a 1 br appt in a retirement home... but they've gotten rid of everything that they (emotionally) can. They've got maybe 5% of what they used to have... it's just packed in. Dad wants them for memories. Mom wants them because she's sentimental. Everything kept has a meaning. myoarin - mom's on that project already. part of their planning for when they pass is recording the history of what they have. it's a family tradition. ;-)lordmichaels - they would consider that impersonal as well. Thank all of you for your time and attention, your ideas and thoughfulness. I appreciate it. |
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Re: Help with gift ideas for aging parents in tight quarters.
From: djka-ga on 08 Jan 2006 22:39 PST |
I have found that sending fruit baskets is a great idea. It seems everyone loves fruit, and being it is consumable, no need to worry about storage. If you think this is a good idea, you may want to look at this site: http://www.sweetmemoriesgiftbaskets.com |
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