The objective of my question is not what I should do regarding to a
specific life situation but what I should do with my habits that I
consider a negative habit in a healthy living lifestyle.
I am 22 years old, and I think I have come along way toward self
improvement. I used to be:
-Shine
-Slightly depressed and feel low
-Hate to exercise
-Eat bad food
-Play game
-Hate reading
-Watch TV
-Lazy
-Angry
-No friends
But now, after knowing and reading about successful people, I improved
myself to become a more ?round? person. Instead of the list above, I
become:
-Not shine anymore
-Moderately to high self confidence
-More exercise
-Read some newspaper
-Read book
-Study hard
-Less TV, no more games
-Go out and enjoy life outside living room
-Make friends
-Very patience
-Active and energetic
-Honest and high integrity
-Like to help other people for no return because it feels good
-Involve in community
I would say I am quite proud of my progress. However, there are some
identified, although may not be complete or correct, characters that I
have a hard time to get over with. I will list them with a specific
example. The objective of this question is how could I improve or get
rid of these habits:
1) Jealousy
2) Feeling not being attractive
3) Feeling of too young
4) Over-imagination
Situation: I just broke up with a long 6 years relationship few months
ago. Apparently, the girl just went off with another guy. The reason
is that I am ?too young? and ?he is more match with me.? And in the
past few months, I like couple of other girls (they all about my age);
however, none of them like me. The reason: I am too young for them.
But I also personally feel that I am just not being attractive for
some unknown reason. Or is it a plain coincident that I happen to meet
to a similar age group partner?
So in the last few weeks, I like another girl. I did not tell her that
I like her because I can tell from the way she speaks and from her
body language, and I prefer to keep our relationship as good friend.
However, other guys are always attracted to her. I think there are
about almost 4 different guys already in the past few weeks! And I
thought, she isn?t the most beautiful girl, and she is very neat and
conservative, but how come people like her so much but not me? What is
wrong with me? And I always felt so jealous when I saw her in contact
with some other guys. And I wish I am older, yet I enjoy my age now
because I can show to people that I am very competitive even though I
am young.
And after I saw her in contact with another guy, my imagination would
go ?wild.? I don?t like this character too.
I read many messages in Google, and I always try to remind myself that
this isn?t something wrong with me. It is a habit of human.
I broke up with 6 years relationship, and believe me, I thought I am
going to ?die?, but I got through. I KNOW I can get through these
feelings, but sometimes it drains away my energy to do something else.
I want to lower it or be stronger.
Can you help? I am looking forward for a specific technique to lower
these bad characters or get rid of it.
I always thought I would not have these feeling AT ALL if I can find
myself a girlfriend. However, I believe that is not the right solution
because it means I find a girlfriend to prove that I am attractive and
not because some other valid reasons of why people become partner. But
then the paradox is that I can?t ?seem? to find one even if you
challenge me to! |
