Hi,
Despite a huge amount of cultural urban legends on this subject, there
is very little in the way of "mystery" about satisfying a woman
completely, in bed or out. The main misconception lies in thinking a
woman is challenging you to satisfy her, rather than being a willing
participant in the process, and a basic understanding that they think
differently than we do, at a biological level.
Sex starts in the morning, not morning sex, but everything you do with
her or away from her, throughout the day. Complementing her, and
paying attention to her, goes a long way, but noticing her is more
effective. The difference lies in saying something like "You have
great eyes" and "I like that dress". The first complement focuses on
something she has no control over, the dress however she spent time,
money, effort and decided to wear. That is complementing "her" and not
her DNA makeup.
Satisfaction is in the realm of safety, and letting go' as well.
Keeping judgmental attitudes at bay and allowing her to express
herself during the day, will lead to her feeling she can express
herself in bed as well. Women on the whole feel less confident in bed,
than any other time. Learn the basic rule that two people can
disagreed about something and neither one of them have to be wrong or
bad, and this will keep her feeling safe around you. This builds to
later extremes of ecstasy which can only be achieved if she feels safe
in doing so.
Remember things. Remember the shoes she wore on a date two months ago
and bring it up if she wears them again. Pay attention to what she
says, and how she says them. This is harder to do than it sounds and
because of this, women don't get it often.
Be confident in yourself. No matter how you look, or what your
position in life is, be confident that you are the man with her at
this time, and act that way. Fake it if you have to until you believe
it yourself. A confident man is in no rush, and doens't feel that he's
going to miss out on something if he doesn't take it now.
Dance with her, in your home, at a club or where ever.
Find a game, something that takes a bit of physical action (pool,
video game, golf, etc) and is based on hand-eye coordination, that she
can beat you at. Volunteer the idea of playing it often.
Be consistent with her time. Set a period of time during the week that
is her's no matter what is going on. You don't have to pull out your
calender and show it to her, but make it and keep it. This gives her
time, and anticipation to being ready for you. Make it "her" time, not
yours. If she happens to need to be alone or just needs to talk during
that time, well.. it's hers to do what she wants with it, let it
happen.
Now for some more interesting ideas.
Get a large, thick soft towel, and dry her off when she exits the
shower, have her place her hands on the wall above her while you do
this. Take your time. Turning the heat lamp on before doing this helps
keep the cold off her while you are doing this. Pay attention to under
her arms and the backs of her thighs.
Massage is always good. I recommend coconut oil for this. This is 100%
coconut oil and should not have any scent to it. This oil is very
close to the natural oil of the skin. Its stays pliable during
massage, has no scent and soaks in afterwards without a "sticky"
feeling. Stay away from sweet smelling oils, as they are likely to be
a bit "yucky" Afterwards. You can get this at most health food stores
and its found most of the time in skin and hair sections. You will
need to warm it up, as at room temperature its solid most of the time.
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Bow to her breasts. You might think you focus too much on her breasts.
You can't. According to Patti Britton, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist
and the coach behind www.sex coach.com, a woman's nipples are the best
place to stimulate her, outside of her genitals. But don't just grab
and squeeze. Britton suggests first slowly circling your fingertips
around the base of each nipple, then gently pushing down the tip and
letting it spring back. "Like just about everything else, women need
you to build toward the center of interest, and that certainly
includes the nipples," she says.
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G-spot: (from the outside). When in the missionary position, press
gently just above her pubic bone. "You're stimulating her G-spot from
the inside with your penis and from the outside with your hands, and
it just feels amazing," says Tristan Taormino, a sex educator and
author of Pucker Up: A Hands-On Guide to Ecstatic Sex.
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Neck: Cradle her nape, lightly. "That will give her a feeling of trust
and safety, what she needs to really surrender herself," says Lana
Holstein, M.D., author of How to Have Magnificent Sex.
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Create touching moments. Don't wait until you're tearing open the
condom wrapper with your teeth before making that initial physical
contact. Whether it's resting your hand on her leg while you're
driving, or carefully pulling that loose strand of hair away from her
face, a touch here and there will pay off big later. "Do this enough
and she'll be jumping on you and wanting to have sex," says Marilyn
Fithian, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Long Beach, California.
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Let her simmer. "You have to get her mind working on sex," says Gloria
Brame, Ph.D., a sexologist based in Atlanta. Maybe ask her to wear a
thong in the morning, then whisper something dirty over the phone at
lunch. She'll be so excited by the time dinner rolls around that
she'll be willing to spend less time on foreplay.
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Improve the quality of foreplay and she'll never again bug you about
the quantity. "If you act as if you're just going through the motions
to get to the sex, she's going to notice, and it will take longer for
her to get excited," says Michael Perry, Ph.D., a sex therapist in
Encino, California. So do what you want to do. If you like how her
calves feel, stroke them. If you like her butt, kiss it. "When a man
is loving what he's doing, it's going to show through and turn her on,
too," says Perry.
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Instead of falling asleep after your first orgasm, roll out of bed and
pour two glasses of wine. In addition to being a surprisingly romantic
gesture, the alcohol will help increase the arousal signals between
your brain and your penis, says James Barada, M.D., a urologist and
director of the Center for Male Sexual Health in Albany, New York.
Stop at one glass, though; more than a few drinks will actually
depress your nervous system and make it harder to have an erection.
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When she initiates the action, make an extra effort to please her
sexually and to let her know how much you approve. "Tell her you
really loved it that she initiated," says Fitz-Gerald. "Women aren't
sure if you're going to perceive initiation as negative or if it might
make you uncomfortable."
Your Health: Sexuality and the Older Adult
http://www.crha-health.ab.ca/hlthconn/items/sex-oa.htm
Sexuality Later in Life
http://www.nia.nih.gov/health/agepages/sexual.htm
Improve Sex
http://www.mochasofa.ca/family/program/howto/02april08a.asp
Sexual Intelligence
http://www.sexualintelligence.com/test.html
Men's Health -- Getting Intimate
http://www.menshealth.com.my/GETTING_INTIMATE/intimate_sex.htm
Google Search
"Satisfying Sex"
Thanks,
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