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Q: Male/Female Dating Relationships ( No Answer,   5 Comments )
Subject: Male/Female Dating Relationships
Category: Relationships and Society > Romance
Asked by: wdarea51-ga
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Posted: 22 Mar 2006 17:15 PST
Expires: 21 Apr 2006 18:15 PDT
Question ID: 710774
i was wondering if you could give me a few books or names of books
that deal with male female dating relationships, how to win females
over, and sweet talk em and not look like desperate or a nerd in the
process.  mainly for someone in their 20's and what they look for and
what they look for that THEY DONT TELL YOU. thanks warren

p.s. an added bonus would be how to win females and get them to sleep
with you... also no im not a mean person or a predator or anything im
just a guy looking to have fun :) thanks again, Warren, also if this
does not agree with your morals i give you permission to give it to
another person to answer
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Subject: Re: Male/Female Dating Relationships
From: catatastrophe-ga on 22 Mar 2006 18:52 PST
There is no simple answer to this question and I doubt any single book
will help! Getting a date isn't as hard as it sometimes sounds, as we
do have a sort of social rote that you can most often follow. Strike
up conversations with women whenever it's convenient to do so - do you
see someone on the way to work or class often? Does someone always
take a bus route you do? Do you frequent a shop and are familiar with
the location? Striking up a conversation with a stranger can be
intimidating, doubly so if you find them attractive, but you should
aim to be consistently outgoing. Talk to everyone, whether or not
you'd date them, and that'll help with your confidence level. That's
the first step, ensuring that you can be confident and casual when you
talk to people.

As you get to know people, if you find a woman's personality
agreeable, ask them if they'd like to go out with you sometime. If
you've spent the time to get to know them already, and ask them to
something casual - a cup of coffee, a drink, a movie, a concert, etc.
- you won't come of as desperate. If they aren't into it, that's all
right; if you've put effort into being outgoing you know plenty of
people, and at the very least you've gained a new friend. No one is
creeped out by "Hey, would you like to go for a drink some time?"

Once you're seeing someone on a regular basis, there is no necessary
set way to do things, but slowly changing the way you spend time from
casual to intimate will make your intentions clear without coming off
as desperate. Going to see a movie could become dinner and a movie, or
a movie and drinks afterwards, or whatever. Things just sort of take
their own pace at this point, so don't bother rushing them. If you
make an effort to be outgoing, to get to know people, and to not make
sudden jumps towards intimacy (asking a stranger to dinner right out
of the blue, for example) you won't come of as desperate, because you
won't be desperate. You'll be a confident, outgoing person with plenty
of romantic options. All that it will take is the willpower to get
yourself out there - it may be intimidating at first, but it gets
easier! Don't give up, keep your cool and you should do fine.
Subject: Re: Male/Female Dating Relationships
From: wdarea51-ga on 23 Mar 2006 21:20 PST
hey this is true, the only reason i asked for a book or 2 was because
for a few reasons, i am right now reading several books on human
relations and influencing people, dale carnegie and john c. maxwell
are 2 authors im reading material from, but i was also looking for
books on winning girls over to add to this, you are very knowledgeable
on this subject and that is awesome and i HAVE tried most of these
methods your talking about, and i usually get one of the following
9/10 of the time with your methods, either no, i have a boyfriend,
"you dont even know me", or some other bs like that, if you have
further incite that would be greatly appreciated, thanks a lot for
your help again you could help a lot of people with this. :)
Subject: Re: Male/Female Dating Relationships
From: wittysolutions-ga on 07 Apr 2006 22:10 PDT
Try Men are from mars and women are from venus :)
Subject: Re: Male/Female Dating Relationships
From: spike071-ga on 08 Apr 2006 21:11 PDT
Oh, there's bunches of'em out there - my brother says David DeAngelo
of worked wonders for him. Dunno, but
he never used to be a babe magnet, and now he's got ..umm, two,three
or so looking to hook up with him.

'Course, him being the general manager for a company with fifteen
employees could be a factor.

I'm sure there's a whole varehouse full of books like that over on amazon, too :)
Subject: Re: Male/Female Dating Relationships
From: spike071-ga on 08 Apr 2006 21:44 PDT
Had a bit of a look around and found <a
href=""> this one</a> it's .. umm, a bit
racier than DeAngelo's book, and probably NWS so I cloaked the link
for anyone looking in your explorer history. Looks sort of like what
you were after, but...  Meh, I'm sure my brother is about to hit me
for telling people there are other dating gurus besides DeAngelo :)

What I've learned from him ranting on the subject though, is - be
funny and confident without being pushy or a creep, women like men who
act like that. Oh, and you can go far if you study how stand-up
comedians make just about everything funny by being just a little
offbeat. Me, I think you can just keep reading Carnegie and see what
happens when you actually talk to people :)

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