It's been so long since I rented a house or an apartment, and now we
are faced with the prospect of our 18 year old son moving to San
Francisco with his good friend (also 18) and needing to find a place
to live for the very first time.
My question may not have a definitive answer, although a good answer
would not only include common sense advice, but good resources for two
young country bumpkins moving to the city, specifically SF (and yes, I
DO know about Craigslist.com)
Re: renting . . . what is 'normal' procedure when those looking for
housing are just out of high school, have no credit, no job history,
etc, etc ??? They do have a few local references, but I am wondering
if one of us (they each have a set of parents and a set of
step-parents --- what we laughingly call 'the parental commitee') will
have to sign on as the one responsible . . .
How can we help them in this situation? (note: they ARE good kids,
conscientious and hard-working, but I think not quite cognizant of
real world realities)
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Clarification of Question by
timespacette-ga
on
21 Apr 2006 22:06 PDT
Actually, they DO have job histories . . . just not local to SF . . .
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Request for Question Clarification by
czh-ga
on
22 Apr 2006 11:36 PDT
Hi timespacette-ga,
Are your son and his friend familiar with San Francisco and its
neighborhoods? It's essential that they educate themselves on this
score. Weather, transportation, parking, rental rates, demographics
and many other factors come into play when deciding where to live. San
Francisco is famous for its distinct neighborhoods. What research have
they/you done already? Do they have a tentative budget? What factors
are important to them? The more you can tell us, the more likely we'll
be able to help.
~ czh ~
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Clarification of Question by
timespacette-ga
on
22 Apr 2006 15:35 PDT
Hello czh-ga, and others . . . thanks for your comments so far . . .
The boys just got back from a five day trip to SF by bus, just to get
familiar with things and get interviews with their respective schools.
My son will be going to a music school that is located at Fort Mason;
his friend will be attending Gallileo Academy of Math and Science,
also in the same area; so that's the 'neighborhood' but I think it's
quick expensive there (the Marina district and surrounding area).
As far as 'parking, weather, transportation . . . ' etc, etc, They
plan to not have a car, to save money and knowing that parking is a
hell-realm is SF. They spent their five days taking the city bus and
were shocked at the price of the cable cars. It just so happened that
they were there on the 100th anniversary of the big 1906 earthquake
and all the city busses were free that day . . .
Weather . . . hey, they're coming from the Great Pacific North Wet .
. . . I don't think they'll be bothered by the fog too much.
We haven't talked about budgeting. I like the idea of having them pay
my bills for the next few months . . . . or doing something like that
to get the idea across.
As far as crack goes . . . there is NO WAY they would try that
stuff; they've already seen what it's done to certain people in our
little town here. Still, I realize there are other substances . . .
point well taken.
I guess the question of neighborhoods might come down to this: are
there fairly safe and cheaper neighborhoods in SF that have good
access to the Marina district by city bus? and not TOO far away?
They plan to buy food in bulk (leaning toward natural foods) and make
alot of their meals at home, so information about food co-ops, if they
exist in the city, would be helpful . . . maybe even info on
employment opportunities with a co-op. Also, second hand clothing
stores . . . anything that helps one live in SF on a shoestring budget
would be helpful.
thanks.
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Clarification of Question by
timespacette-ga
on
24 Apr 2006 11:11 PDT
hello? czh-ga? hello?
no hurry, just wondering . . .
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Request for Question Clarification by
czh-ga
on
24 Apr 2006 11:52 PDT
Hi timespacette-ga,
Thanks for following up. I have another question locked right now but
I should be able to post an answer for you shortly. I'm glad to be
able to help.
~ czh ~
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Request for Question Clarification by
czh-ga
on
24 Apr 2006 12:50 PDT
Hello timespacette-ga,
I want to confirm that I have the right schools before I proceed with
answering your question. Are these the schools?
http://www.bluebearmusic.org/index.php
http://www.bluebearmusic.org/programs/comprehensive.html
Blue Bear School of Music
Blue Bear School of Music
Fort Mason Center, Building D
San Francisco, CA 94123
Phone (415) 673-3600
http://portal.sfusd.edu/template/default.cfm?page=hs.galilieo
http://www.galileoweb.org/
Galileo Academy of Science and Technology
1150 Francisco St.
San Francisco, CA 94109
Phone: 415-749-3430
You said the boys are 18 years old. Galileo is a secondary school so
I?m wondering if I have the right school. I also note that the Blue
Bear School of Music?s longest program is 18 months. Please clarify
how long the boys are planning to stay in San Francisco. The
information they need, especially about housing, will depend on the
length of their stay. Many landlords require a 12 month lease.
Please confirm that I have the right schools. Also please add more
information about how long the boys plan to stay and what they plan to
do and accomplish while they?re in San Francisco.
I look forward to your clarification.
~ czh ~
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Clarification of Question by
timespacette-ga
on
26 Apr 2006 14:19 PDT
Hello czh-ga,
Sorry, my GA email notifications are still not working right . . .
thanks for writing with more questions.
Yes, you have the right schools. My son's friend is actually
finishing high school at Galileo; he's an amazing runner -- was MVP
for our soccer district -- but our local high school does not have a
track team so he planned it this way: to graduate a year later and
attend a good high school in SF that has a track team and get his
residency too, so that he can go on to a CA university for less
tuition. He doesn't know yet which university he will attend.
And yes, Blue Bear is the one. He is aware of the problem of rentals
and practicing music; BB does have some practice space at their
location.
My son will certainly have to find a job while he attends classes --
food service, or possibly as a stone mason or tile laying beginners
level work. Or anything else that pays well and isn't backbreaking
work.
His friend may have to get a part time job, but I think his school
load will be significant, so his parents will probably suplement his
income.
Their plan is to be there at least a year, possibly longer, but
certainly not less than a year.
Hope this helps!
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Having helped my daughter find three places to live as a student, I
will venture a couple of suggestions.
You all should do some advance research on the rental market: size and
prices, and decide on a max. rent, and the Parental Committee
separately also agree on a final higher max. price, if they just can't
find something for the max. told them. Face it, you don't want them
them in a dump in the wrong part of town.
If they cannot get a lease on their own, the Committee - I think -
should be prepared to cosign with a strong understanding among
yourselves and for the young men that everything is mutual: that it
is their responsibility to stick together in the lease with the
obligation towards each's parents if they don't.
Sharing an apartment is an adventure, but there are responsibilities
and duties too: security, cleaning, a modicum of orderliness, how to
share other expenses and to reserve cash to do so. Lots of possible
differences, something to be discussed with them and maybe drawn up as
House Rules. You might also give them information on landlord-tenant
law, this site or others:
http://www.dca.ca.gov/legal/landlordbook/
Also information of California law that could affect them: drinking,
driving, ..., especially if you don't live in the state.
I would let them try to find a place by themselves, but have a male
parent inspect it, perhaps not obviously as a parent if they are able
to sign a lease without support. A landlord would always prefer to
have a parent co-sign.
What experience to they have with bank accounts and credit cards?
(Knew a young female MBA who had problems with the latter, and you
have seen the questions here on that subject.)
'nough comment. :)
Cheers, Myoarin |
Hi Czh,
I read you, but two 18 year-old boys don't have the experience of a
college grad, and landlords may look askance at them as tenants
(preferring women). Despite what parents expect or confirm about
them, landlords may have other experience.
Timespacette,
Since the boys want to cook for themselves, which I think is great,
you might let them cook for one and the other family on a regular
basis to get practice and support. It sounds like a fine idea, but
without experience, it can seem easier to get a pizza or big mac.
Will also let them learn about hygiene, balanced diet and food care.
Bulk food sounds good, but even stuff that keeps forever can attract
meal worms (?), etc. There must be appropriate cookbooks for young
males, cooking on a shoestring, etc. Maybe the friend doing math and
science would be intrigued by one on the science of cooking (what
actually happens when an egg or meat cooks, and so on).
And it occurred to me that if your son needs to practice his music in
the apartment, this is a consideration when choosing one and taking a
lease.
Lucky guys! Cheers |
