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Q: Wedding Invitation Etiquette ( No Answer,   2 Comments )
Subject: Wedding Invitation Etiquette
Category: Relationships and Society > Relationships
Asked by: mygoogie-ga
List Price: $3.00
Posted: 11 May 2006 19:39 PDT
Expires: 10 Jun 2006 19:39 PDT
Question ID: 727941
How do I address a wedding invitation outer envelope to a married
couple when . . .?
a) the woman keeps her maiden name b) the woman makes her maiden name
her middle name and takes the husband's name without a hyphen or c)
when the woman uses a maiden name hyphen husband's name. For a) I've
seen some websites that say use Mrs. and other that say use Ms. Please
state your source. Thank you.

Clarification of Question by mygoogie-ga on 11 May 2006 19:55 PDT
I've checked and asked another source and friends
but would like an "authority" like Miss Manners to answer.
There is no answer at this time.

Subject: Re: Wedding Invitation Etiquette
From: myoarin-ga on 12 May 2006 08:29 PDT
This is a question for Miss "Pinkfreud-ga" Manners.


Subject: Re: Wedding Invitation Etiquette
From: pinkfreud-ga on 12 May 2006 11:57 PDT
I am no Miss Manners, but here is my opinion:

When you address an envelope to a married woman, 'Mrs.' is appropriate
only if the name appears in the form "Mrs. James Johnson" (meaning the
wife of James Johnson). If the woman's own first name is used in any
form, 'Ms.' is the title to choose: "Ms. Janet Johnson." There is
usually no such thing as "Mrs. Janet Johnson" except in the case of a
woman who is married to another woman.

If you are sending an invitation to both James and Janet, and they
have the same surname, you should use "Mr. and Mrs. James Johnson,"
even if Janet is using her maiden name as a middle name (without
hyphenation). If Janet kept her maiden name of Jones as a surname, you
should use "Mr. James Johnson and Ms. Janet Jones." If Janet created a
hyphenated surname which James does not share, you should use "Mr.
James Johnson and Ms. Janet Jones-Johnson." If both James and Janet
use the same hyphenated surname, you should use "Mr. and Mrs. James
Jones-Johnson." If they are using different hyphenated surnames, you
should use "Mr. James Johnson-Jones and Ms. Janet Jones-Johnson."

Frankly, I like to dispense with titles entirely. I find nothing rude
in an envelope that is addressed to "James and Janet Johnson," without
any titles.

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