I have this idea that being charismatic is a big plus when dealing in
business and relationships. So i just needed some help finding
information on becoming charming. thanks.

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Request for Question Clarification by czh-ga on 01 Jun 2006 15:54 PDT

Being charming is very different from being charismatic. Which are you
interested in?

Charm a crowd or the customer or the boss?

Some of it is in your genes.  Some of it is like My Fair Lady teacable.

A lot of business not about charm.

"My daddy always told me steel men were Bastards"  JFK

Wear a monocle and speak with an aristrocratic British accent.  Works every time.

Camus said, "Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without having
asked any clear question."

Below are 2 links to interesting pieces illustrating the differences
between charm and charisma, and how it's manifested, particularly in
politicians:

"Charisma, like its lesser component, charm, isn?t necessarily linked
to a positive force.  Adolf Hitler was charismatic. More recently, one
of the weapons of Slobodan Milosevic has been charm."

http://www.metronews.ca/lifestyle/mind_and_body/details.asp?id=4753

"A friend once explained the difference between charm and charisma
fairly succinctly: "Charm is the glow of a single candle in a dark
room. Charisma is a chandelier that lights up the whole hall."

http://mediocrefred.blogspot.com/2004_04_01_mediocrefred_archive.html

Read this book. Tells you all about Charm
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0814473571/qid=1149568281/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/102-7827121-0716106?s=books&v=glance&n=283155

The Power of Charm: How to Win Anyone Over in Any Situation 	
by Brian Tracy and Ron Arden 

Filled with proven techniques to become more captivating and
persuasive, this book shows readers what charm can do, and how they
can use simple methods to become more charming and dramatically
improve their social lives and business relationships.

You?re in a catch 22 with this one. Playing the game of business can
be very different compared to personal relationships. In my opinion
you need to be conscious of your voice & body and the signs you give
off.
This is also very different to when communicating with men and women.
In a personal situation talking to a woman your face is the main tool
to communicate. Eyes always above the neck despite temptation and you
need to keep your face relaxed of you will look like you?re glaring.
When thinking always look up slightly to the left, never to the right,
liars always look to the right when thinking of an excuse. (Strange
but true). Keep you face relaxed. Initially until they instigate a
direct question your conversation should always be five times less
than the woman?s response minimum and should be finished with a subtle
question. Women are born talkers and a good time for them is someone
who lets them talk. You also get the benefit of being a good listener.
Practise at this will make you appear charming?
In business it?s your voice and body. Eyes should always be a little
bit narrower when listening. Your body should be erect and inflated to
increase size regardless of your height but don?t make yourself into a
blowfish.. When the opportunity allows always use your hands to enter
their personal space and never keep them crossed.  Entering that space
is an authoritive symbol and allows you the command of the situation.
It also inadvertently develops a subconscious respect.
Remember we are all still animals and you need to portray the signs
that are deep in everyone?s psyche. Flaunt what you have to attract a
mate and appear strong and knowledgeable to win in business. A basic
form of charisma is when you can influence more than one person at the
same time using body expression and voice and leave an audience
impressed.

I concur with the recommendation on the Brian Tracy book.  I just
finished reading it, and it's fantastic.

Beth at http://www.zodsquad.com

My my dwightyorksballs,

Balls indeed. 

You're about as charming as a smelly sock, and twice as rude. I have
reported your inappropriate comment to the editors, it will be removed
on Monday morning, if not earlier.

Please don't poop in our sandbox. 

~~Cynthia

i am always very wary of charming men. they seem to be too artificial
at times. i beg to differ. one does not neccessarily have to be
charming in order to succeed in the business world.

if one is sincere, diligent, honours one's words, always deliver what
one has promised and the products are of good quality, one can still
be a winner.

charm might works in the beginning but when you do not act on your
promises and kept the customers waiting with no action taken on your
part , no matter how charming you are, you still lose your customers'
faith.