My wife got insulted while she was having a interview. She was
rejected on the spot because she was short of qualification which was
not specified in the advertisement. And she was asked which school she
graduated from and her answer was not met to what the interviewer
wanted to hear. He was unkind and got my wife to waste time and feel
insulted by asking embarassing questions and talking. It was like
harrassment received by a stranger and forced to feel how miserable
she is. So she and I got upset very long time. I think there must be a
way to show the interviewer what he did to an individual by law in
Canada.

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Request for Question Clarification by czh-ga on 11 Jun 2006 15:17 PDT

Hello delempia-ga,

Was this an employment interview? If yes, what city/country are you
located in? In the US and some other countries, employment candidates
have certain protections from discrimination. Are you alleging that
your wife suffered employment discrimination? If not, what remedy are
you seeking? Why is this worth pursuing? Thanks.

~ czh ~

Some interviewers can be very rude.

It happened to me twice and I promptly returned their rudeness.

(The Chairman of a well known company was very late for an after-lunch
appointment and arrived reeking of whisky. I asked him if he always
drank so much.)

I wouldn't have wanted to work for such jerks anyway.

A letter to the  hiring department head and a copy to Human Resources
head explaining (politely) how the interviewer was rude, short, and
unprofessional should be enough. Point out how such behaviour is
"detrimental to the goodwill and positive image your company's
founders and employees worked so hard to achieve and strives to
maintain in today's international marketplace" blah blah blah. You
might want to send another copy to the corporate HQ (or the
equivalent, if the company is small).

And put it behind you. If this a$$ is the only one you deal with in
your life, you are truly blessed.

A (polite, but firm) call directly to the CEO/President of the company is
the most direct route.  My wife had a hard time with a (large) insurance
company.  I found the phone number for the CEO and called him directly.

After our conversation, a Senior Vice President of the company personally
made sure that the problem was cleared up, and we received a follow-up
call from the CEO as well.

The unfortunate reality is that the managment of a (granted, poorly run)
company is often not aware of the actions of "front line" personnel.

When they are contacted and informaed on how poorly this reflects on the
company, and in particular, themselves, I have found that more times than
not, they take action.  They are also generally appreciative that it was
brought to their attention.

It also hopefully makes your wife and you feel better.

Denco has it correct. Go straight to the very top. It works.

The other way to handle it is to just move on and do nothing.  I like
the expression:

Don't mud wrestle with pigs.  You'll only get dirty and the pigs like it.

Would you rather "get even" over the perceived insult, or do something
you truly enjoy?

Just another possibility.
J.

I would also send a letter to HR and the senior management.  However,
I believe probono is on the right track.  You wouldn't want to work
for a jackass like that anyway.

I've heard of some far worse interviews, so just be happy it's over
and move on.  No need to go to the HR or CEO, just understand some
people are harsh in the way they conduct business and it would be that
way to anybody that didn't fit the 'right' description, so don't take
it so personal.  It's just business.  Now, go out to dinner or
something, and forget about it.

Let me just add one thing, because I see this happening all the time:

Were you there to witness all of this?

If not, then you are only relying on your wife's word as to how the
interview went.  I'm not suggesting that your wife is anything less
than 100% accurate in what she reported to you, just that you weren't
there and don't have any first-hand knowledge.

If I were to receive a letter from you (as many have rightfully
suggested), in a position as the chairman of a corporation or the head
of an HR department, the very first thing I would want to know is how
you know any of the things you're complaining about.  If the answer
is, "my wife told me," then I'd really want to know why your wife
isn't the complaining party.

Ask a friend to dress up as a transvestite and storm into his office
demanding to know why he had forgotten thier anniversary then bursting
into tears and leaving while shouting dont come round my house this
weekend . (the more witnesses the better)            That should bring
him down a peg or two .