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Subject: Attention Span/Memory
Category: Health
Asked by: louche-ga
List Price: $50.00
Posted: 10 Oct 2002 07:21 PDT
Expires: 09 Nov 2002 06:21 PST
Question ID: 74815
How can I improve my attention span and short-term memory? I've always
had difficulty paying attention and remembering things.

It's everyday things I'm talking about: Being in a meeting and
forgetting what we agreed three minutes ago. Out shopping and remembering
and forgetting and remembering and forgetting to buy a phone card.
Buying a round of drinks in a pub and forgetting what people wanted
half way through the order. Etc. etc. etc. It's really depressing me.

It's really depressing in business situations when I promise the Sales
Director our new booking system will do such-and-such, and then
afterwards I have to scratch around after my colleagues to get them to
tell me what I said. And it's especially depressing in social
situations when I keep on losing the thread of conversations, so I've
effectively opted out of having a social life.

So what I'm after is any/all of the following: A) Common-sense
responses if possibly you have seen such improvement in
yourself/others and believe you know why. B) Links to suitable books
on Amazon or similar. C) Links to sites that address this sort of
issue - i.e. for someone in my situation. D) Anything else you can
think of.

But before you dive into this, what I'm not after is: 1) Memory
techniques such as associating something with some other totally
incongruous thing like a drunken wildebeest - they don't seem to work
for me. 2) Taking copious notes, although obvious, isn't suitable - I
take them anyway, but I spend so much time writing things down I miss
the continuing conversation, and anyway sometimes notes aren't
possible if I'm walking down the corridor etc. 3) Things like setting
timed alarms on my mobile phone etc. aren't suitable as I'd spend all
my time doing that. 4) Non-answers like "Oh, don't worry, we're all
like that sometimes". (I really DO seem to have a problem that others
don't.) 5) Huge numbers of links to semi-relevant sites like causes of
ADHD in children. (I'm looking for a few, concise links/suggestions.)

I'm thinking that solutions might be 
(i) Lifestyle change - I take very little exercise, I drink too much,
(about 50 Units of alcohol a week, where 1 Unit = 1 cc of alcohol), I
eat mostly junk food, my sleep patterns can be erratic.
(ii) Somehow do something about my mental health - I'm generally
depressed for various other, personal reasons.
(iii) Medicinal solution - e.g. "ProPlus" tablets or similar, or maybe
prescription drugs.
(iv) Something else I'm not even thinking about.

More background: I'm in my early 40s, and have a desk-bound job mostly
on a PC all day.

So. Well. I suppose my final request is: Help!

Many thanks in advance.

Louche :)

Request for Question Clarification by searchbot-ga on 10 Oct 2002 08:23 PDT
Hello louche!

In your question, you briefly mention ADHD... have you ever been
tested for this disorder?

Thank you,
searchbot

Clarification of Question by louche-ga on 10 Oct 2002 09:35 PDT
Hi searchbot,

As to whether I've ever been tested for ADHD, well, no, I haven't. I
mentioned ADHD only because when searching on "Attention Span" all I
seemed to get was sites talking about ADHD. Or are you thinking this
is one thing I should especially be looking into?

Cheers, 

Louche

Request for Question Clarification by searchbot-ga on 10 Oct 2002 12:58 PDT
Louche,

ADHD, which stands for "Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder", is
a tricky one. It's a disease commonly diagnosed in children, and it's
been only a few years since it's become clear that, while for most
children symptoms will subside as they grow older, it can persist into
adulthood. Sometimes, it's even only diagnosed very late in life. At
this point, I really don't want to suggest you have ADHD, but yes, it
may be worth to have a look at. Before I start to answer your question
turning into the false direction though, I would like to know a little
more about what you call "attention span/memory" problems. ADHD
patients do complain about attention problems. However, when asked,
they do not tend to attribute this to them forgetting something, but
rather to their lack of concentration. One moment, they're looking at
something and try to stick with it, but the next minute, their mind
jumps onto something else. Also, they find themselves to be very
easily distracted, by things, that other people probably wouldn't even
notice. They will sit in a chair and try to read a book and hear the
fridge go on, notice leaves rustle on the roof...
When trying to find out if an adult has ADHD or not, it is definitely
necessary to look back at the childhood. Most of the time,
characteristical symptoms will show, that may have been attributed to
something else back then, but reevaluated today appear in a completely
different light.

A questionnaire used to assess the likeliness of a child to have had
ADHD in his childhood is for example the WURS, or Wender Utah Rating
Scale.
http://www.medal.org/docs_ch18/doc_ch18.12.html
(scroll down about one page) Maybe you want to have a look at this and
see if something sounds familiar.

Please note: at this point, all this is nothing more than an idea. The
final diagnosis would of course needed to be made by a professional
you meet in person. However, several things you mentioned in your
question do fit into the picture, including your mood swings and "poor
performance" in social situations.

So, if you do find the above said to be relevant in your case, I'll be
more than happy to go into detail and post a complete answer on ADHD.
If after reviewing all this you are thinking: hell, no, this is not
what my problems are like, we would have to see what else is there.

Please let me know which route to follow.

Best regards,
searchbot
Answer  
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
Answered By: umiat-ga on 10 Oct 2002 17:58 PDT
Rated:5 out of 5 stars
 
Hello, louche-ga!
 
   Your question intrigues me and you seem genuinely concerned about
your frequent forgetfulness. I have to say, it would bother me also. I
know there have been many times throughout my life when I have been
extremely forgetful…….and one of the possibilities you mentioned hits
home. Depression. You say you are frequently depressed for other
reasons, and I assume you have never taken any medication for this
condition, or spoken to a doctor about it. Your job also seems quite
stressful, and your lack of memory, which affects your job and life
overall, seems to be adding to the stress. Therefore, I was really
prompted to research this to see if there were any credible
suggestions along the lines you are willing to accept.

  An article titled “Memory Problems” at
http://www.embarrassingproblems.com/pages2/memory.htm seems very
credible in it’s identification of possible causes and suggestions for
remedies. Some excerpts follow:
  Possible causes:
    Depression is the most common cause of memory problems. With
depression, many of the mental processes are slowed, and memory is
particularly affected. Unfortunately, worry about memory loss can
worsen the depression, producing a vicious circle.
   Stress is another common cause of memory problems. Almost any worry
or stressful life event can affect our ability to store and recall
memories. When the problem is resolved, or time has healed the pain,
memory becomes as efficient as it was before.
   Normal aging. During your mid-40s and 50s, it is quite normal to
believe you have become more forgetful. Surveys find that 75% of
people over the age of 50 report that they have had some ‘memory
problem’ over the past year. But it may not be as bad as you think -
young people forget things and don’t bother about it, but older people
take more notice of their memory lapses and worry. Don’t make the
mistake of thinking that everyday memory lapses are Alzheimer’s
disease - forgetting where you put your keys is not Alzheimer’s!
 (This, however, doesn’t sound like you. Your memory problem seems
more serious than mere forgetfulness)
  The ‘tip-of-the tongue’ phenomenon is a very common experience -
your mind suddenly freezes when you need a crucial word, such as a
name (often of someone you know well). This is more likely to happen
if it is a name that you seldom speak aloud, because scientists
believe you are simply having trouble retrieving the actual sound of
the word from your memory bank of word sounds. It is a nuisance, but
doesn’t mean you are on the way to serious memory loss.
  (This doesn’t sound like you, either)
  Alzheimer’s disease. Of course, a failing memory does occur with
Alzheimer’s disease. Alzheimer’s is mainly a disease of the elderly.
About 1% of people in their 60s, 20% of those over 85 years and 30% of
those over 90 are affected.
   (Who am I to say, but I doubt it!!)
  The article suggests several suggestions, including exploring stress
and depression problems, trying Ginko Biloba (though there have
several conflicting opinions), exercising, smoking cessation, getting
enough sleep and memory exercise tricks (which I know you don’t want.)
   The next page at http://www.embarrassingproblems.com/pages2/memory3.htm
 I find particularly interesting in terms of your mention of
depression.
   “Depression can creep up so gradually that you may not be aware
that you are suffering from it, so your doctor will first assess
whether or not you are depressed. If so, antidepressant medication
would be the most appropriate treatment and would restore your memory.
The improvement might not be immediate, as antidepressant drugs can
take several months to have an effect. Your doctor could also help you
to identify stresses or problems that may be affecting your memory,
and could advise on coping strategies.”
  “If you or your doctor cannot work out the reason for your memory
problem, he or she could refer you to a special clinic. In the UK,
there are about 20 NHS memory clinics and one of the best known is at
St Thomas’s Hospital, London. Memory clinics assess whether or not you
have a memory impairment and what the cause might be. They also teach
strategies to improve the ability to acquire new information and to
consolidate and recall facts.”

  An article from the American Geriatric Society (definitely not you!)
 that deals primarily with old age and memory loss has some worthwhile
suggestions that apply to the younger population as well. Some
excerpts from “Memory Loss - Should I Be Concerned?” by Margaret
Winker, MD at http://www.americangeriatrics.org/education/forum/memoloss.shtml
follow:
  “……..Problems with memory can have many causes, including medication
side effects, strokes, infections, depression, thyroid disease and
vitamin B12 deficiency, so it is important to be aware of problems
with memory and identify causes that can be treated or prevented.”
  “If you have trouble with your memory, you should discuss the
problem with your doctor. Tell the doctor the specific problems, when
they occur, any recent changes in your home environment, and all the
medicines you are taking, including nonprescription and herbal or
"natural" remedies; also let him or her know if you drink alcohol.
Tell your doctor about when the problems first started, and whether
the problems have been the same, worse, or better over time. Any
fever, chills, pain, weight loss or gain, or recent changes in other
medical conditions should be discussed with your doctor. Any problems
with depressed mood should be discussed, including problems with
appetite or sleep disturbance.”
  “After discussing these issues and performing a physical
examination, your doctor may perform a screening memory test that
includes basic questions regarding memory. The result of the screening
test may be normal, borderline, or abnormal.”
  “If the memory test is normal or low-normal, the doctor may suggest
that you keep track of any memory problems over the next few months
and repeat the test after six months or so. Or the doctor may suggest
another type of memory testing called neuropsychological testing. This
type of testing is similar to the memory screen but includes many more
questions and tasks. The purpose of this test is to find out if the
problems with memory are not severe enough to show up on the screening
test, but are apparent in the more in-depth test. If the
neuropsychological testing is normal, then the problems with memory
are likely the very mild memory problems that may occur with aging. If
the test is borderline, the results can help the doctor decide if
additional testing might be important to look for a cause of memory
loss.”

  The article “Alzheimer's or Common Memory Loss,” by Bruce Robinson,
M.D., M.P.H. at http://www.seniorpro.com/library/articles/falz19990708.htm
 suggests three different types of doctors which you might consider
visiting to help diagnose you memory problems:
  Neurologist:
    “Neurologists are medical doctors who specialize in diseases of
the brain and nervous system. They have broad experience in these
diseases, and understand the unusual causes of memory loss. They are
the experts in the "differential diagnosis" of memory loss--what list
of possible causes applies to an affected person and which cause is
most likely.”
  Psychiatrist:
    “Psychiatrists are medical doctors who specialize in the mind and
mental disorders. Psychiatrists, particularly those with special
training or interest in older persons, are experts in the management
of the mental complications of memory problems. Depression, behavior
problems, and severe confusion often interfere with best functioning
of the affected person and caregiver. Depression is also a common
cause of memory complaints.”
  Neuropsychologist:
    “Neuropsychologists are experts in the measurement of mental
function. They can test the brain in many areas, and offer the best
answers to questions of the nature and seriousness of mental changes
in early cases. The neuropsychologist can provide information to other
doctors on the pattern of mental changes that is useful in determining
the cause, particularly in difficult and unusual cases.”

 An article titled “Not All Memory Problems are Caused by Alzheimer’s”
at http://www.doctorinternet.co.uk/Specialities/Neurology.html#Not%20all%20memory%20problems
 again highlights the correlation between forgetfulness, stress and
depression.
  “Waldemar and her colleagues at the Memory Disorders Research Unit
of the Neuroscience Center at Copenhagen University Hospital reported
on 785 consecutive patients referred over a period of 40 months. She
said 43 percent of them had progressive dementia but the remaining
patients had
"potentially reversible conditions that were the primary cause of
memory deficits in about 20 percent of the patients." Another 20
percent had "stable, mild cognitive disorder that might
progress but it was unlikely," she said. The remaining 20 percent were
just "healthy, worried adults."
  “Waldemar says her research underlines the need for early assessment
by trained diagnosticians. She says that patients referred to the
Copenhagen center are subjected to a wide array of tests and exams
including physical examination, clinical history, X-rays and more
sophisticated imaging studies that show changes in the brain, as well
as standard laboratory tests. Although depression was the main
non-Alzheimer cause for memory problems, she says that poor nutrition
or thyroid disease can also mimic Alzheimer's disease.”

  The University of California San Fransisco Medical Center has a
“Memory and Aging Center” that investigates memory disorders. You many
want to contact them. The following is an excerpt from their website
at http://www.ucsfhealth.org/adult/medical_services/neuro/memory/
  “Almost everyone has a lapse of memory from time to time. You can't
remember where you parked your car or can't remember someone's name.
This is normal. But when memory loss interferes with work performance,
social activities and daily activities, you may need medical care.”
  “Memory disorders can severely disrupt your life. Hundreds of
disorders, including Alzheimer's, can cause memory loss or dementia.
Memory loss may be due to conditions such as small strokes in the
brain, diabetes, high blood pressure, nutritional deficiencies,
reactions to medications, alcoholism and even depression can cause
symptoms similar to dementia.”
  “At UCSF Medical Center, we treat memory disorders at our Memory and
Aging Center, the only comprehensive memory disorders center in
Northern California.”
   To obtain a thorough diagnosis and treatment, please call: 
        Memory and Aging Center (415) 476-6880
        You may need a referral from your primary care doctor
   Physician referrals can also be obtained by calling (888) 689-UCSF

  Another clinic you might consider is the UCLA Memory Disorders
Clinic. See the website at
http://www.healthcare.ucla.edu/handbook/program.asp?version=5619&programid=472
for a brief description of the program.
  Duke University also has a Memory Disorders Clinic. Contact
information can be found at
http://www.duke.edu/deptdir/Memory_Disorders_Clinic.html

  Because your question conveyed some serious concern about your
seemingly constant forgetfulness, I believe you might benefit from
some type of medical investigation and diagnosis. Maybe the first step
is a psychiatrist or neuropsychologist, to see if medication is a
possible avenue in treating depression and associated medical
problems.

 I hope this helps. I wish you all the best. I’m sure you will be able
to find a workable solution to to this problem.

 umiat-ga

Google Search Strategy
+memory +problems +causes
“memory enhancement”
US clinics memory loss
memory disorders clinic

Clarification of Answer by umiat-ga on 11 Oct 2002 06:24 PDT
Hello, louch-ga, 

   Two things I would like to add:
 
   My fellow researcher, searchbot, was right in suggesting you look
more into Adult Attention Deficit Disorder. You may review an
extensive list of Adult ADHD symptoms from the Monterey Preventive
Medical Clinic at http://www.wellnessmd.com/add.html

   Another, lengthy article you should read, titled "Adult ADHD:
Evaluation and Treatment in Family Medicine," by Russell Searight.
American Family Physician (11/1/2000)can be found at
http://www.findarticles.com/cf_0/m3225/9_62/67051979/print.jhtml
 A short excerpt follows:
  "Adults who have retained some, but not all, of the symptoms of
childhood ADHD may be best diagnosed as having ADHD in partial
remission.(5,6) While the DSM-IV criteria for ADHD may be applied to
adults, these dimensions tend to reflect presentations in children.
The subtlety of ADHD symptoms among adults has led to several
modifications of existing criteria. Rather than requiring six DSM-IV
symptoms of inattention or hyperactivity, some investigators propose
requiring only five such behaviors for older patients.(7) In addition,
the symptoms take different forms in adults."
 "There is growing consensus that the central feature of ADHD is
disinhibition.(8) Patients are unable to stop themselves from
immediately responding, and they have deficits in their capacity for
monitoring their own behavior. Hyperactivity, while a common feature
among children, is likely to be less overt in adults. The "on the go"
drivenness seen in many ADHD children is replaced in adults with
restlessness, difficulty relaxing and a feeling of being chronically
"on edge."(1)
 "Patients with a range of psychiatric conditions may emphasize
difficulty with concentration, attention or short-term memory when
they describe their problems to the physician.(14) It is important to
exclude other psychiatric conditions, most of which are actually more
prevalent than ADHD among adults (Table 5). Major depression and
substance abuse, in particular, commonly accompany adult ADHD."
 "Importantly, most adults with ADHD do not have a "pure" form of the
disorder. Comorbidity is more likely to be the rule than the
exception. It is not clear whether these comorbid psychiatric
conditions are a psychologic effect of preexisting ADHD or are simply
associated with ADHD.(2) For example, substance abuse may have
developed as a way to reduce the frustration arising from
distractibility, inattention and impulsivity. If a comorbid
psychiatric disorder exists in a patient with ADHD, the patient should
be educated about the ADHD symptoms that will resolve with stimulant
therapy and the symptoms of the other psychiatric condition that may
warrant additional treatment."
 
  It is important to note that Google researchers are not
doctors....therefore, my advice still stands....go to a physician or
clinic that is able to diagnose your symptoms on a comprehensive
scale, whether it be a "Memory clinic" or a clinic specializing in
Adult "ADHD". I imagine, however, that a Memory Clinic may also
consider Adult ADHD in their evaluation.

  One other point....I am sorry to have jumped in and "taken over" by
ignoring your ongoing conversation with Searchbot. He is an excellent
researcher and I owe him a public apology!

 umiat
louche-ga rated this answer:5 out of 5 stars
Excellent answer. In fact, I'm very grateful to you and searchbot and
all the others who added such helpful comments - you've kept me on
this planet. (Sorry for not commenting earlier - my mood's been
yo-yo'ing and you wouldn't believe the stuff I've been going through
over the past week!) Many thanks again to everyone. :)

Comments  
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: omniscientbeing-ga on 10 Oct 2002 07:36 PDT
 
I am not a memory expert, but I believe you are hitting on the crucial
factors when you outlined your personal lifestyle. I'd wager that if
you "cleaned up your act" so to speak, you'd see a corresponding
improvment in short term memory and retention.

omniscientbeing-ga
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: rbnn-ga on 10 Oct 2002 08:04 PDT
 
For whatever it's worth, the older I get the worse my memory (and
other cognitive facilities) gets as well.  It won't be long before
I'll be as dumb as my parents; the good news, though, is that after a
while one's memory gets so poor one doesn't even remember to be
bothered.

Also, with a bad memory, it's much easier to enjoy most popular film
(and popular culture in general) since the repetitiveness is less
cloying that way.

Probably worth reading Flowers for Algernon again though.
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: byrd-ga on 10 Oct 2002 08:34 PDT
 
Check out this site:
http://www.spiritofhealing.com/articles/html/correcting_high_blood.html
 Although it's subject is correcting high blood pressure, about
mid-way through the article it gives a recipe for a tincture combining
cayenne and ginkgo that is supposed to greatly increase brain function
(which includes memory).  I've always been a proponent of natural
methods and herbs over drugs, so I'd recommend trying this approach
before looking for a pharmaceutical fix.  Also check out some of the
other articles on the page.  The site sells nutritional supplements,
but there's also just a lot of good advice for free.
Good luck, it's a complex problem - hope you find some help.
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: cath-ga on 10 Oct 2002 14:18 PDT
 
Louche,

the severity of your problem indicates to me you should be seeing a doctor.
Early onset Alzheimer's comes immediately to mind...I have it in my family.
There's no cure, but there are drugs which help to slow memory loss.
Whatever the cause, this is a job for medical professionals. Don't try to
solve this yourself. Good luck! Cath-ga
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: cheezfri-ga on 10 Oct 2002 15:16 PDT
 
I would suggest that wherever possible, you repeat or expand on what
you have just said or heard.  Not to the point of being ridiculous,
but let's say you were talking with someone and he said he was an
Industrial Psychologist, and you wanted to remember that.  You might
ask a couple questions about Industrial Psychology, what does it mean,
where does he work?  Anything to reinforce the main point.  If you are
the one talking, and you are saying you want to call Joe on Friday but
first you need to talk to Bob and get the sales figures from
Marketing, then at the end of your conversation, while the info is
still fresh, just say something like "So just to confirm" or "Just so
I understand" and then sum up what you said.  I know some people like
that, and it seems a little annoying, but I really have to respect
that they take the time to do it.  If you are in a meeting and someone
has told you something, I think it's perfectly acceptable to ask that
person to rewrite what he just said in an email.  Not only will you
not need to remember what he said, but you will have proof if it ever
becomes necessary.  I've done this alot.  I also write down what I say
in meetings, as well as what others have said.  Not journals full of
writing, but just brief phrases.  It seems to sink in much better when
I write it, even if I never read my notes again.  Now none of this
helps too much in social situations, but for lack of better advice, I
would tell you to just admit to others that you are a goof, and joke
around about it, and then ask whatever it was that you forgot.  Like
"What was your name again?  I'm sorry, I'm just terrible with names." 
I won't go into the arena of cutting down on drinking, etc. because I
just don't know if memory loss is a direct result of it, but it would
probably help!  I know that when I have a great deal of information
goes through my head in one day, that some of it is bound to fall out,
and I don't drink!
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: voila-ga on 11 Oct 2002 08:32 PDT
 
Louche, 

It sounds like you have some good advice here already.  My only
suggestion would be to have a heart-to-heart with your boss that
you're having this problem.  The best way I found to handle a
meeting/classroom situation was to get a decent hand-held recorder and
tape the sessions (with permission, of course).  Your mind would be
more on the meeting and allow you to focus in the moment instead of
occupying it with note-taking.  Not all the message is delivered by
spoken word anyway -- you need to pay attention to the speaker's body
language and facial cues as well.  Later, you could relisten to the
recording when you're in a more relaxed state and jot down just the
meeting highlights since you know approximately where they occurred. 
It's a very small investment (around $50) that pays immense rewards.

Hope this tip helps.  You may also want to get yourself a supply of
energy bars to keep in your desk as well.
V
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: stressedmum-ga on 14 Oct 2002 16:31 PDT
 
I can really understand your concern and hope that a couple of things
that have helped me might help you. (I forget to take a pen, so I
can't write notes; I forget to take my tape recorder; I forget to
listen to my tape recorder -- believe me, I understand!!!) I have
found that the four things that help me are Vitamin C and pure,
organic unsweetened grape juice, giving up instant coffee and drinking
good old water. Yep, sounds weird, I know, but when I'm going to a
meeting or have to really have my wits about me, I remember (!) to
take a 500 mg sugar-free vitamin C and I have a half glass of this
grape juice that I can only get from a health food store about 3 times
a week. There are all sorts of trace minerals in it and it seems to
work on me like a tonic. For the record, I also used to get migraines
and found that stopping drinking instant coffee and having this juice
about 3 times a week ended that misery for me. Remember too, to drink
plenty of water every day to flush some of high sugar, high sodium
content from your diet and drinking habits out of your system. Some
simple measures that have helped me. Hope they help you. Good luck.
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: vanraw-ga on 28 Oct 2002 09:14 PST
 
Some very good information here. I'm in my low 40's and have been
experiencing memory problems as well. It seems to have gotten worse
since I had a minor head injury a couple years ago. There have been
some studies that show even the slightest head injury can result is
some temporary and even permanent memory dysfunction. Talking to a
Doctor again is the best answer, but note that IF your doctor isn’t
sympathetic to the condition, find one that is.

I’m my scenario, (For what its worth) I found that stress was
impacting my sleep schedule. I was averaging 6 hours or less sleep
every night. I noticed that if I went through periods of getting 8 to
10 hours sleep, my memory and attention were drastically improved. The
bottom line is Sleep deprivation can and is a cause of Depression /
Memory lapses, and in general Brain function.

My problem is when I laid down to sleep. I could be dead tired and
when my head hits the pillow, my mind would begin to race on the days
problems. If I watched TV, I could fall asleep, because my mind would
be occupied.

The trick with Sleep deprivation is to always get up at the same time.
Then plan backwards for when you need to be a sleep in order to get
your 8 to 10 hours. My Doctor prescribed a sleep aid, that worked for
the first 4 hours of sleep and has zero effects when I wake up. I
would take it about 1 hour prior to when I wanted to go to sleep.

I don’t know if this will help you or not. But I noticed that getting
that 8 to 10 hours of sleep changed my attitude, help make me my old
happy self, and improved my memory.

Either way, I hope you get to feel better. People don’t understand the
emotional effect memory lass has on you. Good luck
Subject: Re: Attention Span/Memory
From: whatwherewhy-ga on 28 Oct 2002 13:18 PST
 
Hi.  I recognise your memory problem.  Thinking you may welcome some
company in the worrying state you find yourself in I offer the
following comments, comiserations and tips:
I too have done the special memory improvement courses and can now
remember a long list of items in exactly the right order (must be of
some use in a quiz game)but still needed to reset my password just now
because between entering it on Google and getting back to your
comments page I had completely forgotten it.
I think I had an excellent memory when I was in school.  For example I
could remember where on a page a sentence appeared in a book I had
been reading etc.  Then in my early twenties it just melted away. 
This makes me propose the following possible reasons:  physical or
psychological changes as I reached maturity; emotional changes in how
I reacted to the rest of the world as I grew up; a lot more to
remember; a few goes with hallucogenics; a deep cut to my head which
needed hospital treatment at this time.  For many years I secretly
believed I had early onset Alzheimers but my memory loss has been
stable for around 20 or so years now.
I have read a lot about memory as, like you, it has made a big
difference to my life in unlikely ways-I am self-employed because this
makes it much easier for me to operate effectively-all my staff are
told I am unable to remember things consistently so, for example, when
anyone visits, they are always introduced to me by name etc eg: Look
who's popped in-Mary XXX from YYYY.  Then I can continue the
conversation as if I instantly recognised a person I had had a long
conversation with the previous day.  I can usually retain the name and
always the situation for the span of the interaction-especially as I
repeat the name often.  I will sometimes have forgotten the name
within minutes of her leaving and probably the occasion of meeting her
if she turns up in a different setting, say the supermarket instead of
the office, or if it's more than about a week or so since the last
meeting.  I write down peoples names-even my own staff-before all
meetings, telephone calls etc.  And I keep many lists and notes to
refer to-but it's often quicker to ask my staff-for example the name
of our main competitor-imagine doing that in a corporate environment
if you are not the boss.  Although I get on very well socially with
people I have chosen a career which does not use this skill because of
failing to recognise them appropriately.  Although my acquaintances
would be surprised to hear it I am very shy in company as on many many
occasions I have thought - right, I'm almost positive that's John,
Mary's husband that we met at Christmas last year - I've advanced to
say hello and found myself to be quite wrong.  Just how many jokes can
you make? So I'm not in sales or fundraising and I have few but good
friends (whose names I cannot usually recall when introducing them to
eachother).
Naturally people think THEY DON'T MATTER TO ME.  And although I have
felt for many years that this is untrue I am beginning to come round
to this point of view.  I believe I go into a state of almost panic
when I meet anyone, perhaps this started when socialising was a big
deal in late teens, twenties and is made worse now by fear of
forgetting.  The panic is what is taking all my energy and even though
I try, the name and what the person is saying, struggle to make a deep
impression for 'storage'.  In business I less often forget what other
people say than what I SAY-perhaps because again I am so caught up
with the excitement of voicing my ideas etc that it's the passion that
gets stored and the facts disappear.
What DO I remember?-I remember small seemingly trivial details which
are in fact keys to a person's motives, emotional state or other
aspects of their 'real' self.  I will forget their address but I will
know they don't bother to put the lids on their dustbin etc.  These
details often block out what I need to recall about them for social or
work purposes. Clearly it is this secret psychological truth that I
value in meeting people.  It helps me to be a good negotiator, a good
trainer and adept at marketing and promotion.  But I feel trapped in a
prison of too much knowledge and not enough socially useful and
acceptable memories.
You sound panicked too.  Your depression may stem from the exhaustion
of fear, panic, embarassment and annoyance at your self that you daily
have to cope with.Here are my tips: physical exercise helps, an
orderly lifestyle (from keeping your socks organised in the drawer to
getting up at the same time each day, to making a list of what you
want to achieve and ticking items off daily etc)helps, notes, lists,
small cards (always with me) help, thinking about what you need (not
want) to get out of a situation as it approaches helps (eg here's
Mary, I need to know if her sister has had the baby yet and I need to
note the name chosen and I need to write a follow-up card-right, get
chatting and look for those answers) and finally you could try to
train your mind to focus on the now, the person with you, the
discussion underway, and push away thoughts of 'next', 'too little
time', 'but more importantly', 'what are they really thinking' and 'I
hope they like me/love me/think I'm bright' etc etc.
A good book is: The seven sins of memory by Daniel L Schacher
(Houghton Mifflin 2001)
So I've discounted the drugs and the bash on the head. I think I
remember what I think is important.  And I'm working on trying to
realign my (unconscious) notions of what is important with what I
consciously believe to be important (and useful.)
Best of luck.

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