Myoarin,

I have noticed recently that you are giving your Comments particular
attention. An example is this Comment:

Subject: Re: Realtor having first sit-down with Commercial Real Estate Developer 
http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=760048

This is great advice, obviously from a person seasoned in the art of
social protocols. Also, you think before you type, then you think
again before you click "Post."  I think you have incredible
self-control, a trait in which I am lacking.

I have 2 questions for you:

1) Please share with a one or two lessons you have learned in your
life that impacted your life, changed a fundamental belief.

2) Please share with me what you believe to be your greatest words of wisdom.

Thanks!

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Clarification of Question by cynthia-ga on 28 Aug 2006 22:25 PDT

I forgot to mention, --5 stars will be awarded to the best lesson or
words of wisdom by a Researcher..

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Clarification of Question by cynthia-ga on 26 Sep 2006 18:09 PDT

Sublime, please post your Turkish proverb, and anything else you like
to collect the reward of 5 stars, again!

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Clarification of Question by cynthia-ga on 27 Sep 2006 13:33 PDT

OK, so Sublime is out-of-commission for the moment, would someone
please post some bits-o-wisdom in the answer box to receive the reward
of 5 stars?

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Clarification of Question by cynthia-ga on 27 Sep 2006 13:34 PDT

This Q expires today...

Hi Cyndy...

I managed to recover from my power supply failure, so I'll go 
ahead and post the answer, but I don't have time to elaborate
on it right now, except for this:

Fry's is a very cool store, and exchanged a power supply for
me that had been bought 14 months ago! Very, very good!

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As for wisdom, here are a few sublime1 originals:

"Be yourself to see yourself to free yourself to be your Self."

"There's really only one of us here."

"I actually know everything...I just can't remember it all at once."

and last, but not least...

"If I was REALLY naked, I'd be invisible."


But my favorite words of wisdom are from a Turkish proverb:

"He who knows not, and knows not that he knows not, he is a fool -
 shun him. 
 He who knows not, and knows that he knows not, He is a student -
 teach him. 
 He who knows, and knows not that he knows, He is asleep - 
 awaken him.
 He who knows, and knows that he knows, He is wise - 
 Follow him."

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If you really want something additionally, please post a 
request for clarification.

Best regards...

sublime1-ga

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Request for Answer Clarification by cynthia-ga on 27 Sep 2006 20:41 PDT

I love Fry's too, I bought my current computer tower there, screamin'
fast and $475.00.

Just trying out the clarification feature. One more phrase of wisdom
will make this NEEDS ATTENTION disappear from your Answer List!

Can you find something about personal change?

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Clarification of Answer by sublime1-ga on 27 Sep 2006 21:53 PDT

I have 37 cents in change, personally...  ; )

But seriously, one of the most important concepts I've
learned in my years in the field of mental health, about
personal change, is the absolute necessity of starting,
nay, *embracing* where you are now, both what you think
of as the good and the bad.

An unaccepted/resisted state of being is almost certain
to remain, since "that which we resist, persists".

By not only accepting, but indeed, embracing and appreciating
yourself and "things" exactly as they are, real change becomes
both possible and much easier, since the energy you were
investing in resistance becomes available for insight and
the strength to change, and the attention that was tied up
in the resisted condition becomes free to invest in focusing
on what you'd prefer to experience.

An excellent exercise to assist with this process is one of 
the AvatarŪ Course Part I exercises, from the ReSurfacing
Workbook.

This particular exercise, called Releasing Fixed Attention,
is available online at the Stars Edge website:
http://www.avatarepc.com/html/ex1220-2.html

You'll see that the key to the exercise is to alternate
focusing completely on the resisted situation and then
shifting your attention to something else altogether.
This alternation succeeds in a way similar to the 
process of 'rocking' a car stuck in snow, rather than
flooring the pedal in either or both directions.
The gentle, rhythmic rocking eventually manages to 
dislodge you from the rut, and frees up both energy 
and attention to be invested anew.

sublime1-ga

Incredible, just the concept I needed to have put in my face. Thank you!

I wonder ...

Is this the same Myoarin that you are writing about?

I always appreciate Myoarin's comments as well and am looking forward
to his words of wisdom!

Your other question has me thinking of coincidences. A true
coincidence would be if that questioner whose link you posted and the
other corresponding questioner were actually not the husband and wife
in each other's question, but simply found themselves in exactly the
same situations, wanting the same advice, and posting on Google
Answers within minutes of each other.

Indeed. Did you see the question where I used a reporters own story to
answer his question?

I was scanning the questions in reverse, looking at those that are
expiring soon, I spotted an interesting question. Unbeknownst to me it
was a reporter for the Boston Globe writing an article. I locked it,
found the reporters own article (he didn't get an answer at GA for
nearly 30 days and used other sources), --I used him as my source!

Subject: (Old) Mr. Boston bartender's guide and liquor company 
http://answers.google.com/answers/threadview?id=288321

Oooh, if I were only really like Myoarin ...!
I think Bryan intended to include a link to a comment that belied
Cynthia's impression, but then kindly didn't.  There have been some. 
Thanks.

One thing I have learned here from many Researchers' postings is tact,
and maybe  - just maybe -  there has been some carry-over into real
life, a good deal late, but never too late.  I still blush and start
whistling to distract myself when I suddenly recall one or the other
faux pas from the past.
In the comment to 760048, I did indeed reread it and a couple of times
started to include a line that could have been facetious or worse
(something about the investor's companion and that there may really be
dumb blondes).

That comment was based on 65 years of stepping in greasy pans, as the
Germans say, when they don't want to use the French expression:  prep
school, army, college and banks, plus family, of course.  If only
Myoarin had been around back then to advise me, but I probably
wouldn't have listened.

I am afraid that I don't really have answers to your questions.
Lessons:  I like those in "Everything I Need to Know I Learned In
Kindergarten."  Only problem is that the book came out way to late to
help me,  - and I didn't go to one.
Any words of wisdom aren't mine.  
Dad's favorite expression was "moderation in all things, including
moderation," oft repeated when he got up to make us all a second
cocktail.  Comes from a Greek philosopher, I believe.
Mom told that her mother always waited till the next day to post
letters, rereading them first, which does get back to the subject.
In the same vein, there is an Arabic proverb:  
          Allah, give me the neck of camel, that I may chew and 
          chew and chew again my words before they come out.

Mine isn't, no matter how far I stick it out.

I will be looking forward to Researchers' proffered words of wisdom.

With kind regards to all, Cynthia in particular,  Myoarin

Fascinating post Myoarin. You reminded me of a quote: 

..."We have two ears and one mouth so we may listen more and talk the less..." 
--Epictetus --Roman (Greek-born) slave & Stoic philosopher (55 AD - 135 AD)
http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/31461.html

Cynthia dear,
You really shouldn't be out so late at night  - and in this company!
I hesitate to reply, lest others think this is private conversation
and forget that it is a question for GARs.
But I wanted to say:  Occasionally I have been offered a penny for my
thoughts, but no one ever invested 2500% more for them  - even risking
a great deal more; they aren't really worth it, but I try to put in my
two bits' worth.

Now I will keep my fingers of this one.
Cheers, Myo

I believe Myoarin's eloquent verbosity may be the result of a
misunderstanding. The button you click to send in your remarks to GA
says "Post Comment," but I suspect that our friend is misreading this,
thinking that it says "Proust Comment."

Interesting idea, Pink, but ...

Knowing Myoarin as well as I do, it is far more likely that he was saying:

'Prost!'

Well, I may have to use Google Desktop to search my memory for
lessons at a later time.

As for wisdom, here are a few sublime1 originals:

"Be yourself to see yourself to free yourself to be your Self."

"There's really only one of us here."

"I actually know everything...I just can't remember it all at once."

and last, but not least...

"If I was REALLY naked, I'd be invisible."


But my favorite words of wisdom are from a Turkish proverb:

"He who knows not, and knows not that he knows not, he is a fool -
 shun him. 
 He who knows not, and knows that he knows not, He is a student -
 teach him. 
 He who knows, and knows not that he knows, He is asleep - 
 awaken him.
 He who knows, and knows that he knows, He is wise - 
 Follow him."

sublime1-ga

Greatly Sublime!

Back when, I intented to confirm that Bryan was right:  "Prost!"
Maybe I tried, but had used up my posts for the day.
Now back after a few beautiful days in Hamburg.
Cheers to all,  Myo

That is great!  I was watching TV last night, of all things "Million
Dollar Listing" on Bravo, and this high-powered Realtor is in a car
getting ready to present a lowball offer to his seller and he says:

...Breathe in Faith...and Exhale Fear...

I tried it, there's something healing about it.

"Also, you think before you type, then you think again before you click"

Not a good idea

He who hesitates is lost

Strike whilst the iron is hot

No-one knows where I live

These are the Five maxims by which I rule my life


KEMLO

Myo,

Are 'a few beautiful days in Hamburg' comparable to having a Big Mac?

Or maybe you had both?

Bryan

Bryan,
Are you kidding?!  Not at a wedding dinner in one of the two best hotels in town.

Myo  (who does eat Big Macs occasionally)

I've always like my Dad's favorite saying, "It is better to remain
silent and be thought stupid, then to open your mouth and remove all
doubt".

I'm pretty sure it's Mark Twain's quote, but i've seen it credited to
a bunch of people.

I also like "Measure twice cut once", it works in all situations and
not just woodworking.

[- Mother911-ga -]

Just to get in the last comment and to thank Cynthia for asking a
question about my alter ego.  Wow - I just love it, seeing his name in
caps!
Myo

Hmm, just what I thought:  the question should have expired a few
hours ago and no longer be open for comments.   ???

Myo,

I am certainly not going to let you make 'the last comment'!

Here you are, lauded to the skies for your wisdom and yet you have
immediately spoiled the image we all had of you by writing ...

QUOTE
Hmm, just what I thought:  the question should have expired a few
hours ago and no longer be open for comments.   ???
UNQUOTE

Me? I thought that EVERYONE knew that questions that have been
Answered stay open for comments for ... well, a b****y long time.

I fear that all this idolatry has gone to your head,

Or maybe you had too many hamburgers when you were in the Land of
Hamburgonions, (Hamburgers with Onions).

Prost!

Bryan
He Who Sees Everything but Says Very Little

OH sh**!  That is:  Oh shush!  You right, and if I remember correctly
(not likely) I posted a comment pointing out just that.

This is the real me, not the savvy Myoarin.  ;-)

Kind of closes the circle to the first comment.

Myoarin,

Answered questions remain open for Comments for 1 calendar year!  

I fear no one will get in the last word here! 

Plus, did you know that every time an answered question receives a
comment, the question moves to the top of the (answering) GAR's
"Answers I Have Worked On" list?

You learn something new about us GAR's every day!

HI Cynthia,
Yeah, I went off half-cocked, I do know that the expiry date applies
to posting answers and that questions that are not cancelled are open
to comments for 12 months.  I was just to involved in worrying whether
Sublime would post an answer before the expiry date/time that I
forgot.  Duh!

I have suspected that GARs had a special list of questions, even
considered that maybe y'all have a split screen facility that allows
you to see new questions as they are posted, while doing something
else.  Good idea?  Seems like the host is showing less interest in
supporting G-A.

Anyway  - I wonder what happen at that business dinner?

Cheers, Myo

I DEMAND the Last Word:

Auf Wiedersehen!

That's German and Myo, in case your memory fails you yet again, you
can always post a question to Scriptor or Politicalguru: they are both
very good at doing such translations.

Prost!

Mein lieber Bryan,
Aufwiedersehen means that you are looking forward to seeing me again.
Hi, Hallo, here I am!  

Lebe wohl bis wir uns auf einem anderen Pauchboden treffen.

"Meinreimenrein"  aka Myoarin  :-)

last word.

HI Cynthia,
It's your question, so I guess you should have it.
Myo


Ooops!  ;-)