It's possbile your girlfriend has Dissociative Identity
Disorder,formerly called MPD, or multiple personality disorder, a
psychological response to trauma that is usually severe and occurs
early in childhood.
"...it can be disconcerting to be talking with your husband, and he
brings up a whole conversation of which you have absolutely no recall.
Or your sibling talks about the wonderful weekly lunches you had in
college together, and you have no recall of either the lunches, or
going to college! This is called amnesia, and it is a protective
mechanism. It will also occur with ?switching?, when a personality
state that is not co-conscious (communicating with) the host
personality comes out. I have found that becoming co-conscious,
talking to, and listening to, other personality states inside has
helped greatly to decrease the amount of amnesia. This takes time,
patience, and the willingness to hear unpleasant truths about early
childhood at times. I have found that when I show my internal
personalities respect, that in turn, they will be kinder to me.
Ignoring them, calling them names, or insisting that they don?t exist
in the past has usually been a set up for trouble, and more time loss.
Each person will find their own best way to establish
co-consciousness, with the help of a qualified therapist."
"She gets real frustrated at me, just like she was getting with
you. I was listening to Mar and almost decided to go along with
Kathrine and talk to So And So. But I think because I didn?t say
something to So And So immediately after she said those mean things,
the system kicked in.
You?re confusing me real bad and upsetting me. No body is going to
stop this and help me. They are going to be mean to me forever. I
heard what your boss said . He said that you should just ignore her.
But no one will ever protect me. Just ignore her. Just ignore her. But
it happens over and over it never ever stops.
Wait a minute. Can you hear me? I said that I know that I, me, I have
a problem. I have identified a problem. Once I learn how to recognize
that someone is being mean, instead of just ignoring it or letting it
go over my head, I will be helping you.
How do you help me?
I need to pay more attention to the tone of voice and the meaning
behind the statements of others. Like when So And So stated that my
job was worthless, what she really said was that she doesn?t
understand my job. She never has, and probably never will. She has
problems of her own, and they aren?t ours."
"Symptoms common to all types of dissociative disorders include:
* Memory loss (amnesia) of certain time periods, events and people
* Mental health problems, including depression and anxiety
* A sense of being detached from yourself (depersonalization)
* A perception of the people and things around you as distorted
and unreal (derealization)
* A blurred sense of identity
It does not seem to be Tourett's Syndrome or bipolar (manic
depressive) disorder. Whatever is causing your girlfriend to behave in
this manner, please have her see a medical doctor to rule out any
medical/health causes. If a medical doctor clears her after a complete
physical, have her see a therapist to diagnose her problem. She needs
to be seen by a mental health professional. Please keep in mind that
no one online can adequately diagnose or treat your girlfriend.
I find it odd that she was "diagnosed" as bipolar previously, but
sought no follow-up? That comment alone woud prompt me to suggest she
be seen by a mental health professionsl. A good therapist will be able
to diagnose her, but again, it could just have been stress and nothing
I wish your girlfriend the best!
Dissociative Identity Disorder + symptoms