Thanks for your clarification. If, as you seem to suspect, someone
knows your AOL account password, they can certainly (and easily)
arrange to have your mail forwarded to an account they specify in
a way that will not give you any indication that they are doing so.
As an example, someone can use a program such as Mail Forward to
access your AOL account and forward it to any account they choose.
Mail Forward is free to try for 30 days, but must then be bought
eNetBot is another similar program:
All they need to do is set up the program to access AOL using your
AOL username and password and have it check your account as often
as every 10 minutes automatically, forwarding all the mail to any
other email address they choose. They can stipulate that a copy of
the email they download will remain on the server. Given this, you
will see all your mail on your server, accessible as usual, and
there will be no indication that your mail has been forwarded to
AOL will probably have logs they can access to determine what
access to your account has been made by other than yourself, but
I'm willing to bet they will be unwilling to do so given that
you are not an agent of the law. And an agent of the law is not
likely to act on your behalf if you cannot indicate that any harm
has occurred. I'm reasonably certain that both of them will tell
you to simply change your password.
Still, you can contact AOL's Live Help and other support from
You can also enter 'contact AOL', with no quotes, in the search
box at the top right of this page:
Another approach, short of changing your password (though I can't
imagine why you wouldn't want to) is to download and use the Mail
Forward program yourself, entering smtp.aol.com as your outgoing
email server, and set up the program to automatically forward your
email to another account (say a gmail account) and have it REMOVE
the email from the AOL server. Depending on how the person who is
sneak-forwarding your email has their forwarding set up, they may
still catch some of your mail, but not as much of it, and maybe
none of it.
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