Since I moved into my semi-attached home 5 years ago and we have been
living in hell because of my 65 year old man and his 45 years old
virgin lady neighbors.  As a new neighbor I started by introducing my
family and gave them a card with my name and phone number.
Week 1 he returned the card after calling the police to ticket my car
which was parked in front of his house and was about 10 inches in his
driveway without asking me first to move my car.
Since then he kept on calling the police about three to four times a
week complaining of so many different things such as (fighting with my
wife, baby is crying, activities in the middle of night ?etc)
In the middle of the night, I hear the police knocking on my door and
scare the hell out of my pregnant wife and three years old son. 
Police never finds any evidence that prove the neighbor?s complains. 
In addition he also complains about the neighbor that lives next door
to me about their pool and other things.
I tried so many times to file a report at the police station but no
one was able to help me. My question is how to live in peace and to
stop this neighbor?  I live in one of  NYC boroughs and need to know
who can I complain to and to help me resolve this issue?

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Clarification of Question by needpeace-ga on 16 Oct 2006 12:56 PDT

FYI:
1- I went to the police station few times asking them to count the
number of calls from this crazy man and to try to do anything to stop
it.
2- Police won't stop knocking my door till I open up.
3- Police knows that he is crazy but they still have come anyway.

Thank You,

Pay them another visit.

This time take 'your brothers' along.

'Your brothers' are four of the toughest, meanest guys that you've
ever met, preferably with tattoos all over their shaven heads and
faces, and with muscles like Schwartzenegger would die for.

Worse, they never ever take a bath and smell rotten.

No threats mind!

You just want a friendly discussion on how you can both work better together.

It's that easy.

I wouldn't worry too much about the police.  By know they know this
guy is nuts.  They have to come because they would be negligent
otherwise.  But they are not really going to bother you.

As for how to deal with this guy, I look at it like this.  He is
obviously crazy.  So the question you really want to be asking is "How
do I have someone committed".

Make an appointment with the police commander and explain the
situation.  They can flag his complaints.  Plus, just because the
police knock on the door doesn't mean you have to answer.  If they
knock after bedtime don't answer.  This will take some fortitude - but
don't argue with him about anything.  It won't get you anyplace.  Best
advice is to ignore him.  If you can't take it - move.  If you think
he's capable of criminal or near criminal activity get a video camera.
 You might catch him in the middle of something.

It sounds like you have horrible neighbors. I would suggest going down
to your local justice of the peace court and see a judge and tell him
that he is harrasing you and making your life hell. When he is calling
the police 3-4 times a week and the police find nothing wrong in your
home this could be considered misusing public officials. When you go
to the court see if it is possible to get an order of protection. This
will keep your neighbors away from you.
If you can't do this or it doesn't help then maybe you could try
building up a fence so that way at least you don't have to see the
man.
Won't the police notice this man is crazy after waking you up after 10
times that something is weird?  Good luck

Go to the police and tell them that the man is harrassing you by
sending the police round after hours for nothing. They will note every
time he calls and sends them round and they will realise that this guy
is crazy and tell him to stop.

If the police say that there's nothing they can do, say "Oh well i'll
just have to take it into my own hands to deal with it!" Don't
actually beat the guy up though, because you will get done for it lol

Failing all that, brick his windows and run.

Dont mind him. Thats is the Real way to peace

Carrot and Stick:
1. Go over with many many calm thoughts in mind, and have someone with
a video camera or tape recorder to record the conversation.  Don't be
confrontational, but sugary pleasant.
2. Tell him that you are recording every complaint made against you,
and if this harassment does not stop you are going to have no choice
but pursue legal action against him, something neither of you want. 
If he bursts into a rant just listen to him and then firmly tell him
that you aren't here to argue every little complaint and if the
baseless complaints don't stop there will be legal action.  Don't ever
get drawn into a tit for tat arguement about each little thing even if
he is completely wrong in his accusations.
3. Tell him that you realize that it is likely you'll never be best
friends, but no one wins when neighbors are enemies.  Thank him for
his time and go home.
Now:
4. Go back as far as you can remember and write down all details of
complaints against you, and maybe the police can help you get this
list.  Also (very important) make a list of how this disrupted you,
your wife, your kids, your dog, friends, everything after EACH
instance (do one damages statement after each incident, related to
each individual affected).  Is this affecting the mental state, work,
health, activities of everyone involved?  Document, document,
document!
Finally:
5. If the "carrot" doesn't work and he calls the police against you a
few more times - get the stick out and have him served with harassment
and sue for damages.  You DON'T have to put up with this, but the
courts will look at both impact and how you tried to be reasonable to
stop it.