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Q: gift giving guidelines for in-laws ( Answered,   2 Comments )
Subject: gift giving guidelines for in-laws
Category: Family and Home > Relationships
Asked by: murf56-ga
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Posted: 29 Nov 2006 09:40 PST
Expires: 29 Dec 2006 09:40 PST
Question ID: 786612
have 2 sons and one stepdaughter recently married.  are there any
acceptable guidelines for holiday gift giving for new son-in-law? 
wife feels spend as much on him as on our children.  Isn't this
Subject: Re: gift giving guidelines for in-laws
Answered By: nenna-ga on 23 Dec 2006 19:14 PST
Hello murf56-ga,

Honestly, I can find no etiquette guidelines for your situation.
Honestly, son-in-law implies he is your son, by law of marriage. Same
as you are his father-in-law by marriage.

If you feel he is a member of your family like you daughter is, spend
equally. If you feel that it might cause a rift if you treat him equal
to your biological children, consider an alternate plan to not hurt
anyone?s feelings. Maybe buy your daughter and son-in-law a gift for
the two of them to use in their home? Something they both want?

I don?t know why you feel treating a member of your family by marriage
like family would be inappropriate. Personally, when my significant
other?s parents treat me like their own, call me daughter, and include
me equally in family events, it makes me feel GREAT!

Here are some gift ideas to help you to find an appropriate gift.

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Subject: Re: gift giving guidelines for in-laws
From: keystroke-ga on 29 Nov 2006 10:06 PST
As long as you give him a gift that is thoughtful and that he likes,
he has no reason to complain.  It's nice of you to give him a gift at
Subject: Re: gift giving guidelines for in-laws
From: research_help-ga on 29 Nov 2006 13:54 PST
It depends on how you want the new son-in-law to feel. If you'd like
him to feel like a full member of the family and your new son, then
treat him the same as you do you other children.  If you'd like to
maintain an emotional separation between him and your biological /
step children, then make his gift smaller.  As a son-in-law myself, it
has shown me a lot that my mother-in-law and father-in-law have
treated me like one of their own which has created a much closer
family. Your choice!

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