Much, much thanks for this question, thaumaturge-ga, and you are so very kind
to think of me.
Perhaps, patient, a word that has been used relatively often to
describe me, is better than virtue.
I have gone through many changes in my life, from being a very volatile youth,
to being highly reactive, then way too contemplative, to where I am today.
At 51, my wife of 26 years and I have a 5 year old Chinese girl that we adopted
just over 3 years ago.
Our daughter, although a delight, is a defining process that produces patience.
With her, my patience, and gratitude grows on a daily basis, and in turn, I
find that I am obligated to be patient as possible with all matters.
Through my 51 years, many others have been patient with me as well, and I hope
my patience in turn, honors these people.
(Still) Looking Forward, denco-ga - Google Answers Researcher
Request for Answer Clarification by
01 Dec 2006 09:31 PST
Many thanks for your prompt answer!
I don't really need any clarification, but there doesn't seem to be
any way to add a comment any more. :-(
Your travel through life sounds a bit like mine except I haven't got
to 'patient' yet -- not by a long way! I think I'm in limbo between
'reactive' and 'comtemplative'.
Not having reached 'patient', children are not for me, but I have a
very good friend who adopted two children a few years ago; one (US)
domestic adoption and one Chinese baby. She maintains that the Chinese
adoption was far, far easier and quicker and had less bureaucracy
despite the fact that it required a trip to China for an unknown baby.
Luckily both have worked out wonderfully for her.
After reading your answer, I see that Voltaire got it wrong and it's
that 'one must cultivate one's patience'.
Best of luck for the future....
Clarification of Answer by
01 Dec 2006 12:24 PST
Indeed, thaumaturge, the China adoption had far less drama, but probably more
dramatic (1000 year old temples! 2000 year old trees the size of a city block!)
than the domestic adoptions experienced by some.
Perhaps one gains virtue through patience?
As for luck, we make our luck in our family, and production is fine!
Thanks so much, denco-ga